MTF Transitioning in your thirties (30's)?

[destinysummerfield]

Well I'm 31 and just starting to take the steps to transition I well hopefully be able to start hrt this month I have a psychiatrist that is more than willing to reccomend me for hrt and I agree I wish I Could of started earlier like pre puberty however that was out of the question however I finally got to the point where I decided it's Time for me to be happy with myself forget everyone else that don't agree

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[michelle82]

32 year old trans woman here!.

I'm about 1 year into transition and 5 months on HRT. Prior to transition I had a house, a child, spouse, good paying career. My transition had been one if the exceptions in that everyone in my life has been accepting but my spouse and I had to splitup. My job also supported me too. I'm fulltime now and have no issues to speak of.

My next big challenge as prepop  trans-woman will be feeling comfortable going to cis clubs or bars at night, locker room at the gym and the dating scene. I'm not optimistic about dating as a preop though. But one thing at a time!

Anyway I'm just another living example of a 30 something trans girl who ended up passable and had a successful transition. In my opinion this was a great age to do it, because of having a career and the ability to have a source of income certainly helped things. Would I have had better physical results at an early age? Probably but there would have different struggles When I was younger.

[Gyps]

First of all, power to all of you who have transitioned in their 30's and beyond.  I'm sure that your courage, perseverance, and will to never give up under pressure is paying off.

I'm pre-everything, and am undecided of if and when to take that first step. 

Part of me is like "don't rush this, take your time, etc."  Another part of me is like "there's never enough time, get things going asap."

So, it's a bit of a daily distraction and struggle that I put up with for the moment.  Yet, I'm not giving up. 

It's easy to wish things would have worked out to start at a younger age.  Yet, for myself, I didn't know any better.  I spent almost two decades trying to squash and repress my desires, hoping they would disappear.  The shame was unbearable to deal with at times.  I'm proud to have finally dropped that shame from my shoulders and know that whether it's tomorrow or a few years from now, I won't let little things discourage me from my long-term goals.

[galaxy]

Its absolutely necessary to be sure about the process and its consequences. Be also sure that transitioning is no guarantee for a better life. The life "as woman" will be compromise - its not the same as cis-women have! Be sure about this.

Further transition in the 30s is a tightrope walk. If you're 20 you can be sure hormones will make a feminine enough to pass. In the 30s in most cases people will recognize that youre transwoman if the have closer contact. Men in the 30s getting the typical masculine facial and body features and no hormone can return this process. So is also necessary to look for some crossdress-sessions before HRT to check your passing early. If it looks good and feminine your chances for good results and good passing are good. If it looks still really masculine youve should sleep about a decision.

[CallApril]

Thread necromancy!

Despite some raw responses the overwhelming feeling I got from all these pages was one of great satisfaction and hope from the women here!

It certainly has given me a lot of hope.

April

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[jessicadee]

Yeah, I have gone over this thread a number of times and have found everyone in their 30's to be pretty much happy with transition. I kind of feel a little late the party tho, as this thread was started back in 2010. Better late than never i guess.

April, keep the faith! You are not alone on this journey.
P.S. This thread just needed a little CPR + love!

[CallApril]

hehe, thanks Jessica yes it's a great thread and I enjoyed reading all the pages - will definitely be keeping the faith!

30's the new 20's!

xx

April

[KristinaM]

I should consider stringing together some photos and stories for this thread, seeing as how I've been full-time since the beginning of the year and on hormones for over 13 months now. Every month is a new surprise full of changes in my life it seems. Some of them not so good, but it's all been worth it. Now to just find proper health insurance.  Sigh...

I'm 34 by the way.

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[spx_1112]

Hi girls it's Shannon.  So proud of all of you.  It's quite a journey isn't it!

[j-unique]

Thanks for this thread ...

I'm now 31 (almost 32), started HRT about a year ago. It took me about 1,5 years of intensive consideration to make this decision, but now it's final and I'm feeling much better with it. Both the "I'm too old for that" and the "How can I be transgender, when it discovered that at 25? Transgender people are born this way" arguments were hindering, but I overcame both ones:

You're never too old to do what makes you feel good, and who cares about what is innate and what's not.

[LucyNewport]

I made it in just under the wire! I'm 39 now and 4.5 months in on HRT, a month & a half of which were low dose. So far the effects have been good to me. I've definitely slid into a more androgynous state. With hair & makeup I have found that I can pass somewhat even in broad daylight. For me I think the biggest thing is/was hair - not enough up top and too much on the face. It's a work in progress but I'm hopeful that by this time next year I will be full time.

[EmilyMK03]

I made it in just under the wire!

Me too!  I'm also 39 and started transitioning recently. 

[jujubes1986]

It's never too late to transition

[galaxy]

In my case its too late. I lost my hair now after SRS.
Its not worth all the pain and all the sorrows. Its wasted time and a wasted life!

[VickyEU]

First of all, power to all of you who have transitioned in their 30's and beyond.  I'm sure that your courage, perseverance, and will to never give up under pressure is paying off.

I'm pre-everything, and am undecided of if and when to take that first step. 

Part of me is like "don't rush this, take your time, etc."  Another part of me is like "there's never enough time, get things going asap."

So, it's a bit of a daily distraction and struggle that I put up with for the moment.  Yet, I'm not giving up. 

It's easy to wish things would have worked out to start at a younger age.  Yet, for myself, I didn't know any better.  I spent almost two decades trying to squash and repress my desires, hoping they would disappear.  The shame was unbearable to deal with at times.  I'm proud to have finally dropped that shame from my shoulders and know that whether it's tomorrow or a few years from now, I won't let little things discourage me from my long-term goals.

EXACTLY the same here.

I have not aged a lot in the last 10 years, but I'm 31 now.
MtF, my first psychiatrist appointment it's in a few days... Quite nervous, tbh.

[Alexa08]

i won't be in the 30's club for at least another 2-3 years I'm 27 now, of slim build, roughly about 5 maybe 6ft tall, i don't have any muscle definition really, nothing that shows anyway, I'm seriously skinny thought and have a fast Metabolism i can honestly eat and eat and I'm not even sure where it goes is this something that changes? i also cycle on average 17 or more miles once or twice a week if I'm not cycling I'm walking a lot either into town or some mission that's relevant to me, my abilities to sprint is still there but was damaged by smoking, however this is starting to improve i've noticed. the funny thing is my mum is... putting in politely on the large side, my dad was skinny and a lot shorter than me, my brother is taller than me! and my god looks like he plays rugby never a bad thing and my grandad was very tall but somewhat skinny and my Nan bless her had a lot of my mum in her.. i hear that HRT results differ because of our genetics so I'm not to Shaw where that leaves me in this case as my family are all different shapes and sizes, including my cousins.

Alexa

[Virginia Hall]

I heard a lecture. True story. The lecturer's mother decided at age 59 to go back to law school. She passed her boards and whatnot and was admitted into the entering class the following year.

A friend of hers was surprised and reminded her, "Why are you doing this? You'll be 62 in three years when you graduate!"

The mother thought for a moment and then answered, "I'll be 62 years old in three years, regardless."

[Vendetta]

I know this thread is old but i thought id add my experience so far.

I'm 32 started HRT little over a month ago and i have loved everything about it so far. I am not nearly as depressed as i used to be no impending doom looming over me anymore lol  my body hair has slowed some and has stopped growing on my belly and feet. chest hair has lessened quite a bit but i think i've gotta be patient for that part. nipples are poking out with small lumps behind them. in my opinion its never to late to make yourself happy i would definitely recommend therapy for anyone thinking about HRT as it has helped me so much and i've always been against therapy.
My confidence has gone way up but i think i need to learn to control it as i pretty much almost  just got fired for telling my supervisor he was useless last week. there is so much more but to keep this short do what feels right for you and it will work out and don't let anyone tell you your doing it wrong its your transition and no one else's!!!!


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[Jacqueline]

EXACTLY the same here.

I have not aged a lot in the last 10 years, but I'm 31 now.
MtF, my first psychiatrist appointment it's in a few days... Quite nervous, tbh.

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[Adabelle]

It's so nice to log in every once and a while and see this thread still going strong. I'm currently 39 and about to turn 40! Even though I started this thread almost 7 years ago I still log in and check in every once and a while.

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