MTF Transitioning in your thirties (30's)?

[rachl]

And there is no way to undo GID.

Karen.

Well...not *entirely* true, but I get what you're saying. There's no "magic cure" for everyone, as what it takes to deal with one's GID differs markedly for each individual. For me, it goes away with transitioning. And it's not gone yet, but it's definitely a hell of a lot better than it was.

[Joann]

I wonder how long it will take. I lost hair quickly, so If this does not start on a few months, I could have a complete male pattern baldness for the moment I can start. If they tell my it will be two years, I don't know what I will do...

Try Saw palmetto[/size] . Its recommended for men taking T to limit baldness/ prostrate issues. there are also drugs that help by script.

[Jamie D]

I wonder how long it will take. I lost hair quickly, so If this does not start on a few months, I could have a complete male pattern baldness for the moment I can start. If they tell my it will be two years, I don't know what I will do...


I'm starting with the basics in the meantime, but the clothing is going to pose a real problem. Since I live with my parents, unless I tell them that I am a crossdresser (and bi), I have no way of using the common washing machine without exposing myself, less drying clothes, so I'm kinda stuck. My mother will never accept this (she has NEVER accepted anything, not even the common truth).

You can start off by dressing androgenously, and adding some bright colors to your wardrobe.

[Apples]

You should see my rainbow socks and unicorn t-shirts... Too bad I can't use them at work.

[Apples]

Try Saw palmetto . Its recommended for men taking T to limit baldness/ prostrate issues. there are also drugs that help by script.

Where can I buy it online? I will try to ask my doctor if he can recommend me something, but I'm not so sure.

[Joann]

The doc can perscribe Finasteride if applicable and saw palmetto can be found in the vitamin area of most stores.Costs about $8/60pills.

[Joann]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Management_of_baldness

[Apples]

Still thinking this is too late for me and that I am already past my prime. I'm afraid I will only end hating myself more and more after this. HRT possibli will do little for me and I'm also afraid of having so many surgeries...

The more info I try to find info about transitioning after 30, the more I think this is a big error. My hearts want to do it, but my brain tells me that this is going to be an error, and that what I really want is not possible to attain. At this times (every night I enter into anxiety mode) I really hope they will tell me that it is only some sort of crazy fetish and I it is not real.

Tomorrow I will be requesting to be sent to the GID, even If I am rejected. I need my mind to be sorted.

[justmeinoz]

30 is young.  I turn 59 this year and feel like I am in my 30's if not younger.  It really is all in the mind.  You are you enough to really get get good results, and have lots of years ahead of you as the woman you deserve to be.  We do deserve it too, considering the stuff we have all had to put up with to get here.
Take small steps and don't be too hard on yourself if something doesn't turn out how you would like.
Life is all trial and error anyway.  I ask myself, "Not perfect, but is it sufficient?" a lot nowadays on all sorts of subjects.

Karen.

[confused_very]

well this thread is as good as any to post my first post i guess.
It was comforting to read all of your stories on here about transitioning in your 30's
i have been seeing a psychiatrist for 5 months now and am on the home stretch.
I don't know what i want from any of this but i do know that my body isn't right for my mind and i sure hope that HRT will help me to be more comfortable with who i am as a person.
There are soo many things to still sort through but the conclusion is that it is my life to make the decisions over. I aam just afraid of those i will potentially hurt on my own journey of self discovery.
32 for now hoping to start in the next month or so.
thanks everyone for making this world seem a little bit smaller and warmer.
'i am strong enough to be myself' i keep saying and my dreams will come true.
D

[Adabelle]

So glad to see this thread still alive after all this time! 

[ShawnaB]

at 36 and just over 2 months of hrt it's still getting better and better

[JohnnieRamona]

I'm 37, on HRT for 6 weeks and already SO much happier!

[Penny Gurl]

Well next week I turn 31 and I'm four months in on HRT and I can say finally I'm having peace of mind/body.  Still things never seem to move as quickly as you like but the changes so far have been welcomed.

[Joana25]

I'm 38 (age) and been on HRT for 6 months. No surgeries yet.. Its never to late. but you will know when your ready. It took me 10 years of waiting and exploring. Now I'm sure of this 100% there are no other options. I just wish I started 10 years ago when I was 28... Good luck

[Dahlia]

. It may not be as common as the early or late peeps though. Wonder why that is.

An unsuspecting wife and  (very) young children....a successful career, being completely settled as a 'straight' guy....for instance...

[Ave]

An unsuspecting wife and  (very) young children....a successful career, being completely settled as a 'straight' guy....for instance...

I think this USED to be the case (at least I've heard from older trans girls) where white transitioners would typically be older and minority transitioners would be younger. Also, the white transitioners lived "straight" lives (or were lesbians) and minority transitioners were almost always "Gay" (interested in men so "hetero").

I think no one really does talk about the reluctance of white males who lead seemingly "straight" lives to transition. It's as if they don't want to acknowledge that their race and oppurtunites DO get them ahead.

[Constance]

I think no one really does talk about the reluctance of white males who lead seemingly "straight" lives to transition. It's as if they don't want to acknowledge that their race and oppurtunites DO get them ahead.

My reluctance to transition had to with the fact that I didn't want to lose my marriage/wife. It had nothing to do with my skin color, etc. It had to do with losing a soulmate.

[Ave]

My reluctance to transition had to with the fact that I didn't want to lose my marriage/wife. It had nothing to do with my skin color, etc. It had to do with losing a soulmate.

I didn't say you specifically, I said in general. However, you can at least acknowledge how your skin color and seemingly straight relationship would place you higher on the "pecking order" than an effeminate gay black male?

[Constance]

The generality is a blanket statement, which often seem to miss the mark.

Any seemingly straight person will be higher in some "pecking orders" than any one who seems to be trans or not straight. But, it goes the other way, too. There are pecking orders in which one loses status for seeming to be not queer enough.

If others choose to treat me differently because of how they perceive me, the these others are the ones in the wrong, not I.