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has your sexual attraction changed at all?

Started by Almond, November 01, 2010, 09:15:37 AM

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westminstersub

Well... I might not qualify... as I have not yet started HRT...

but at this time, I think of myself as bisexual, or pansexual, or however you might want to define it.

I think it's more on the personality of the other person. He can by a guy, or she can be a girl, or anything in between. As far as I can feel a connection, it does not matter much.

I have had fun with them all... yes, boys, girls, and in between too, and I hope that will not change with HRT.

I care for the people, not for the gender, which I think, and agree with some of you, are only labels imposed by society.
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Sadie

I am pretty sure I am bisexual though I was married to a woman and have been never intimate with a man. However I have been having dreams about being with a man (as a woman) for years now. I can't say for sure but once I start hormones I bet I will much more interested in men and maybe lose my attraction to women completely, I can't say for sure though. For the moment I am just celibate.
Sadie
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cynthialee

I started out pansexiual with a preferance for males. Now I am pansexual with a DEFINATE preferance or females.
So I guess you could say yes I have had a change in this department.
So it is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you can win a hundred battles without a single loss.
If you only know yourself, but not your opponent, you may win or may lose.
If you know neither yourself nor your enemy, you will always endanger yourself.
Sun Tsu 'The art of War'
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V M

I lost my sex drive quite a few years before transitioning... It just didn't seem worth the time or trouble to bother with anymore... The juice wasn't worth the squeeze

I still appreciate women greatly, they are wonderful beings that I love and respect... But get involved with one beyond just friends?... Forget it... I've learned my lesson far too often

Actually, I can't picture myself going further than "Just friends" with anyone right now
The main things to remember in life are Love, Kindness, Understanding and Respect - Always make forward progress

Superficial fanny kissing friends are a dime a dozen, a TRUE FRIEND however is PRICELESS


- V M
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lovelove

i was attracted to men before hormones and now after hormones on my transition i love them even mre especially now i feel more comfortable in my femenine body :)
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Ashley Allison

Hi Almond! Though I have not transitioned, my sexuality at this point is a dual conflict on different levels.  On one level, when I am in my male persona, I am attracted to females in this highly physical and emotional ways.  I become enthralled with the female body, their essences, everything about them; the usual male libido.  After I came to terms with being trans, it was like I could finally be honest with myself.  I am attracted to males in a much different way, when it comes down to it.  Their depth of their personalities, not to mention the passing hunk, is irresistible.  The thing is, is that I don't view them in a "gay" sort of way at all.  Rather, it is like a girl appreciating a guy.  I don't want anything physical with a man in my current body, but once I am a woman I am inclined to say it will be different.  With girls, I really enjoy them too but I am conflicted.  I want to be one, and at times I feel wrong in the heat of the moment like I am betraying some inner-truth of me.  Like how can I be with a girl, when I am one inside.  Uhhhh, confusing!! Hope answers your question! 
Fly this girl as high as you can
Into the wild blue
Set me free
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cynthialee

Quote from: forallittook on November 07, 2010, 02:31:58 AM
Hi Almond! Though I have not transitioned, my sexuality at this point is a dual conflict on different levels.  On one level, when I am in my male persona, I am attracted to females in this highly physical and emotional ways.  I become enthralled with the female body, their essences, everything about them; the usual male libido.  After I came to terms with being trans, it was like I could finally be honest with myself.  I am attracted to males in a much different way, when it comes down to it.  Their depth of their personalities, not to mention the passing hunk, is irresistible.  The thing is, is that I don't view them in a "gay" sort of way at all.  Rather, it is like a girl appreciating a guy.  I don't want anything physical with a man in my current body, but once I am a woman I am inclined to say it will be different.  With girls, I really enjoy them too but I am conflicted.  I want to be one, and at times I feel wrong in the heat of the moment like I am betraying some inner-truth of me.  Like how can I be with a girl, when I am one inside.  Uhhhh, confusing!! Hope answers your question!

Took me a litlle while to reconcile this one myself but when I did it was super simple and I felt dorkie for not getting it earlier:
"There are wonderful people out there known as lesbians and bissexuals......."
issue resolved
So it is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you can win a hundred battles without a single loss.
If you only know yourself, but not your opponent, you may win or may lose.
If you know neither yourself nor your enemy, you will always endanger yourself.
Sun Tsu 'The art of War'
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Karla

Quote from: forallittook on November 07, 2010, 02:31:58 AM
With girls, I really enjoy them too but I am conflicted.  I want to be one, and at times I feel wrong in the heat of the moment like I am betraying some inner-truth of me.  Like how can I be with a girl, when I am one inside.  Uhhhh, confusing!!  Hope answers your question!
Like a a lot of people out there some of us confuse the boundaries between sexuality and gender, the dividing line isn't so clear sometimes.
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Ashley Allison

To CynthiaLee: You are absolutely right on that point, and I am sorry for not fully acknowledging being a lesbian or bisexual.  I do not know what I will feel is my orientation once beginning HRT or transitioning.  Thanks for the advice!
Fly this girl as high as you can
Into the wild blue
Set me free
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westminstersub

I would say... bottom line is to just let yourself be.

There are a few socially defined categories, but we don't have to fall exactly in any of them.

I think that the person you meet is more important than the gender he/she has. If you are attracted to him/her, and it's reciprocal, then... that is just perfect!!

I usually like to define myself like a pansexual girl trapped in a man's body... Do I like all the girls? Do I feel attracted to them all? No. Am I attracted to all the men? No. Am I attracted to some people of both genres.. yes, definitely.
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Dana Lane

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Former TS Separatist who feels deep regret
http://www.transadvocate.com/category/dana-taylor
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azSam

Being "limited" isn't really a choice. I can't help it. Physically, I am attracted to males. Can I become emotionally attached to a female? Absolutely! But physically, I find the female form unappealing, in the sense of romantic relations.

I can certainly identify females as being pretty and attractive by a general viewpoint. But me being physically attracted to one is a different story.
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AmySmiles

I believe my orientation is changing.  Before, I was mostly attracted to women, but had some bi- tendencies.  Now (at 7 months 2 weeks HRT) I feel like it could go either way and I'm positive it's moving more in the attracted-to-men direction.
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Jillieann Rose

Yes.

I used to be very attracted to women, but now I'm not really attracted to any gender.
But I also have no real sex drive and that's more than just fine with me.
I don't feel like a predator on the hunt anymore.
Thank goodness.

Jillieann

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Randi

I have always been attracted to females and still am. I was never attracted to males in any way sexually before starting HRT. There is an attractive man where I work who is openly gay but very cute. For the past couple of years I have noticed him watching me in a longing, detached sort of way. At first I wanted nothing to do with him and detested his advances. But now, I find his attention exciting and I look forward to seeing him again. He does and says little things that I now like. Now that my breasts are growing I have noticed his glance linger there and he always has nice things to say and goes out of his way to help me or hold doors open for me. I am still attracted to females but YES you could say that I have changed.
Randi
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BunnyBee

Like some of y'all mentioned gender, gender identity, sex and sexuality often get conflated, and while they really are four separate things, there is a relationship between them such that you'll often find that if you tug on one, the others move.  And they don't always move in ways you would expect.

So, the short version of my answer to this question is, "I don't know, but probably."

Even though I had relationships with women, I'm not sure if I was ever truly physically attracted to them.  It was, in fact, my lack of attraction that led to the failure of every relationship I ever had.  Yet, I can't say I was attracted to men either back then.  I think my issues with my own body made it impossible for me to find the male body attractive.  Just an idea, anyway.

As I came to terms with the reality that I am a woman, my sexuality became less and less ambiguous.  Right away I realized I was NOT attracted to women in the least, and I started finding guys cuter and cuter- a trend which accelerated like crazy once I got on HRT.

Nowadays I wouldn't call myself boy-crazy, lol, but hell, maybe I am :P.

I feel that before we come to accept and understand ourselves we can have so many psychological roadblocks in our minds obfuscating the truth, that, post-transition, we find that when we look back we can't even recognize the person we once thought we were.  Was that really me?  Did I really used to think like that?  No... couldn't be.
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K8

Quote from: Jen on November 08, 2010, 08:34:40 PM
I feel that before we come to accept and understand ourselves we can have so many psychological roadblocks in our minds obfuscating the truth, that, post-transition, we find that when we look back we can't even recognize the person we once thought we were.  Was that really me?  Did I really used to think like that?  No... couldn't be.

Whoo boy, aint that the truth!

- Kate
Life is a pilgrimage.
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Elsa

Quote from: Karla on November 07, 2010, 12:13:27 PM
Like a a lot of people out there some of us confuse the boundaries between sexuality and gender, the dividing line isn't so clear sometimes.

that's true ... I still don't know who I prefer although  :embarrassed:  :-\ I am sure I am bi at least... result was I was never able to succeed at any relationships....  :-\
Sometimes when life is a fight - we just have to fight back and say screw you - I want to live.

Sometimes we just need to believe.
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