Today I tell my little boy

[spacial]

If you can still live together there really is no reason to divorce, unless ypu both plan to date again. If that is the case, then continuing to live together might be a problem.

My wife and I don't sleep together and haven't for many years. I am completely devoted to her. Neither of us has any interest in anyone else.

This lady did it as well http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jan_Morris#Personal_life

You both must make up your own minds ofcourse. But it can work, well. Especially if you both still need each other.

Good luck. Just suggesting that you kep your minds open to different possibilities.

[Melody Maia]

The reason we are divorcing is that we do plan on finding someone else. We do not want to have a celibate, but devoted, relationship. We get along very well and are still friends, but we also want the other to be happy.

[spacial]

Sorry for not responding earlier Melody.

Thank you for the explaination. Best of luck to you both.

[Melody Maia]

Thank you Spacial.

[annette]

Hi Melody

Horrible situation, is n't it.
I had the same struggles many years ago.
In that time you needed to be single before you ever get a transition, so I went to court for a divorce and started the transition.
I had a little boy from the same age and I remember that it was a hard time when I moved.
I was still good friends with my ex wife and we keep contact for a period of time.
after a few years she met a nice man and she wanted to spend more time with him so the contact was less then.
I'm glad for her she is still happy with the guy 25 years later.
off course the contact with my kid was good and in the beginning of transition years he was not happy by the idea of losing his dad but when time goes by he knew his dad was n't there enymore but instead of that he discoverd that his dad was changed in a warm female person who would always be there for him to help and support.
Now he is an adult with a nice wife and kids  and we still have a very good relationship.
So, what I wanted to say is if your son is knowing he is still the one who is loved and supported by you things can work out in a positive way, despite the struggles you have now.
My son said he is a better person because of it, he can understand people better and is not narrowminded regarding LGBT people.
I'll hope things work out for you in the same way.


I wish you all the luck you need
annette