【emergency】Extremely grieved net friend gives me her number.

[spacial]

I can undrstand your caution. But in those circumstances, I would have just called. But that's me. I almost always identify as female but with my real age. Though my voice is quite deep, largely from a lot of shouting and screeming when I was younger.

Still, it's worked out OK in the end.

[Catherine]

Well I am glad you tried to help

[Alexmakenoise]

If she needs to talk again, you could tell her that your voice is unusually high because of a medical problem you'd rather not talk about.  That way, you'd be telling the truth yet maintaining your privacy.  I used to know a guy whose voice sounded like it had never changed (sounded female, basically).  In retrospect, I recognize that he might have been ftm, but at the time, I just assumed it was due to an injury or medical problem that would be too personal to talk about.  Our other friends seemed to think the same thing.

[Sharky]

Find a voice changer.

[spacial]

With respect to Alex and Sharky, I suggest you don't try to disguise your voice at all. Just act natural and let the other person do the talking.

I say this because faking it, never works.

[Hermione01]

I understand how you must feel Just_me. If she is severely depressed and finds out you're not who she thinks you are, this could push her over the edge. Caution was definitely needed in this instance.

Once she is okay, maybe you will have to come clean unless your voice deepens over time while you're transitioning. If it's a long distance friendship and will remain so, then it's up to you what you tell her. 

[Lacey Lynne]

With respect to Alex and Sharky, I suggest you don't try to disguise your voice at all. Just act natural and let the other person do the talking.

I say this because faking it, never works.

These are words of extreme wisdom.  Thank you, Spacial. 

IMO, friendship is a spiritual thing.  There is an old, old, literary saying:

"More than kisses, words mingle souls."

Be you, be real, just call ... either now or in the future.  You might be pleasantly surprised at the reaction.   Like the Nike slogan says:  "Just Do It."