I do not understand this Man

[Megan]

There's this man, my professor, and almost everyday he is always laughing and smiling to everything in life. He also teaches business classes. He always wears a suit, or a shirt and a tie, and has neat hair. Daily. It's metro-sexual in comparison to most men. Then when he is not in formal attire he dresses like a flamer-teenager from the late 90s, like a bright sweatshirt and high tops.

He was also a football guy, and has a wife (he mentioned it aloud).

But then he uses words, like "Fabulous!" "I'm excited!", giggles so feminine and awkwardly, and he twirls in his seat almost all the time like I feel like he's a character off a television. And when he was twirling, I just looked at him like he was a weirdo and a he glanced at me. And when I look at him, he always looks at my eyes, the moment I look at him.

And he lives in the gayest city of my state as well, it has a gay bar in it (my state doesn't have too many gay bars), and I went to it so I would know. And I betcha I know where he gets his haircuts from too, since I passed a cool looking hair place there. This city is infamous for having trans people/gay guys/and random people walk the streets at night.

I do not want to assume anything, but I feel like he's bisexual, or something. Then I noticed he gets a nervous laughter whenever "gay" conversations pop up in the room, and it happened already twice. Once a student said that was gay, and he was like, "Whatever people choose to do, that's their choice".

And last week his grandmother passed away, gone for 3 days, and he is still laughing and giggling more than usual. And when I speak, I am aware he is listening to what I have to say, to another student (he's eavesdropping into it). 

But then I do not think he cares too much about his job (like make  an obsession of it), but when he is there he tries his best. But he acts immature and when the a higher figure for his job (his boss I guess) came in to him, and then after she walked away, he was like, "I am in trouble *giggles*". I do not care for her though.

Just something so weird about him, he's almost a mystery to me. What do you guys think???

[Kayla]

He may be gay, he may act gay for attention, he may be straight but have a few mannerisms our society associates with gayness. But if I may ask two questions...

1. Why is this such a concern? I'm a fourth year college junior and I've had similar professors and it is usually  just a passing thing on the semester.
2. Why should it matter? I guess I mean is he acting negatively towards you, are you interested in him, are students harassing either of you, or something else I can't think of at 7AM?

Otherwise, if its such a concern, ask him. I mean, he can't (by most school standards) negatively affect your grade because you have a suspicion.

But as an aside, last semester I had a theater (first sign) professor (educated, second sign), with a high pitched voice (third sign) and used many gay mannerisms (fourth sign). Everyone thought he was gay, and I didn't care. Sure enough, on a field trip to watch a play, we saw his name as a donor to the theater we went to (beside it was the name of his wife). Strange side note, he knew Sandra Bullock when she was a child. So from my experience, I wouldn't lose sleep on it.

[Megan]

Because I find him intriguing, not necessarily attractive, since these professions do not make that much money. Actually I have an A in that class. Actually I haven't spoken to him, like pass hi and bye, so it's nothing like that.

I really do not care though, in the big schemes of things, but I want to find out if he's gay, bi, or straight. I won't ask him though since that isn't my business.

I have him scheduled for another course later this year too.
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[Kayla]

Because I find him intriguing, not necessarily attractive, since these professions do not make that much money.

Gold digger much? 

Actually I have an A in that class. Actually I haven't spoken to him, like pass hi and bye, so it's nothing like that.

I really do not care though, in the big schemes of things, but I want to find out if he's gay, bi, or straight. I won't ask him though since that isn't my business.

I have him scheduled for another course later this year too.
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Well, I would assume he's straight by mention of his wife. He may have gay mannerisms from living in a (as you put it) gay city, which means gay friends (he's educated, and therefore less likely to be homophobic). Other than that, I don't know what to say, if its that big a question, ask him directly "are you gay" or indirectly with assumptions such as "how are your wife/ children" or "I'm having relationship problems, how would you react if your wife...." And it doesn't take much to ask, just visit him during office hours regarding class and look for a tangent to lead into these questions.

[Jam]

I was watching tele not so long ago and a big beefy rugby player with a shaved head came on. He talked deep and was very masculine but he was there because he'd just announced he was gay.
Stereotypes can be true a lot of the time but not always, people will always be different. We are made to be individuals not to fit in boxes.

I can understand why you are intrigued I guess it's just another one of those things where you realise society isn't always right. I would take that he has a wife to indicate that he is interested in women and leave it there. Unless you ask him your never really going to know after all.

[Megan]

I had a 1 minute conversation with him today, since he was right in front of me. And it went like this, me, "Why did you decided to teach this instead of getting into business", and he was like, "Yeah, I love teaching and it makes me happy, when I was 17 I didn't want to do this".

And then he was like laughing at one weird dude, and looked at me, and I was like "yeah he's a weirdo", and then he was like dancing in his chair to some beat in the background, and said, "Hey whats up" to himself (i'm not sure if it was to me or what, but it was not loud enough to be detectable).

Based on my observation I believe he perceives himself as ultra-cool, a little narcissistic, and trying to remain youthful. He belittles people just through his words, subconciously, and I can see through him.

But when he spoke to me in the first few sentences his voice was nervous.

I got to stop being interested in this guy, unless I can find some "legit" purpose.