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Trying to move out ?

Started by Berren, November 10, 2010, 03:34:52 PM

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Berren

I'm a minor, and I'm considering seeking some sort of free accommodation for youths who have been kicked out/don't get along with their parents.
But I don't know where to look for it, or what the sites I could possibly email inquiring about it. I would appreciate any information people can give me.

My situation:

My parents are both alcoholics, they argue a lot. Just tonight I had to stand in between them in case they decided to hit each other.
My dad is not accepting of my transition, refuses to talk about it, and this has obviously caused a big rift between us.
My mum is accepting, as far as I know. (Though she doesn't call me he/Tom because the rest of the household wouldn't like it)
I feel trapped in this house. I have to listen to, and/or intervene with any arguments that my parents have in case the police end up at our door (which they have done before)
I have to try and talk my mum into ignoring my dad whenever they argue, since my dad would likely start arguing with me, and I worry that if I tried anything he would become violent. (He was violent with all of my other siblings, and my mother before social services intervened years ago)
I've been trying to calm down their arguments since I learned to talk my mother down.
My dad makes a lot of little digs at me when he can. (Calls me names, but in a "joking" way, apparently)
There are no friends I could contact to see if I could crash at their house. (I pretty much stopped talking to them about 2 years ago)
I could ask my sisters about it, but I'd really rather not since I don't know how accepting they are, and I'm not really close with them.
Aside from all of that, I'm not social with people; I don't really know how to meet people or where to go, I feel like I'm trapped in my house and I would like to get further education so that I could possibly attend college at some stage, but I don't know where I would even begin to do this and my parents don't seem to know either. (I have no GCSEs)

If anyone has been in a similar situation, or just has some advice, then I'd really appreciate it. Thanks.
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Lee

Hey,
I'm sorry to say that I know next to nothing about UK youth laws and policies.  However, I'm sure that there is an LGBT group or center somewhere near you.  I would call or email them.  They would know about what can be done.
I wish you the best of luck!
Oh I'm a lucky man to count on both hands the ones I love

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Robert Scott

http://www.crisis.org.uk/pages/crisis-plans-and-goals.html

I would start here ...usually they can link you into places even if they can't help you.  They are in the link of knowledge.

In the USA we have what we call Child Protective Services in each state ... you as a minor here can call and request a social worker and help ... I don't know what is available to minors in the UK.  Everyone has the right to live comfortably and safe!  Do what you need to do to be safe!
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Crashbash

If you want t move out and you're a minor depending on how old you are (age 16 or older) you can move into a youth Hostel. Check online if you can find one which is located in your city.

Another thing you can do is ring the council/housing association and tell them your homeless and they will put you in a bedsit.

http://england.shelter.org.uk/get_advice/finding_a_place_to_live

To find a place to live for free you can apply as homeless and they will give you a place to stay
http://england.shelter.org.uk/get_advice/homelessness/help_from_the_council/applying_as_homeless

These are just options.. As for GCSE's if you are 16 you can apply to take GCSE's at college. Some of my mates did that, they re-took their GCSE's at their local colleges when they where 17.
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