The Little Things They Do...

[Yakshini]

I'm not sure if there is a thread for this or not. But while some of us are unlucky with our SOs, others of us are incredibly blessed. What things do they do, big or small, that just make them great? How do they support you? Show your appreciation!

My SO is a sweetheart and very sensitive to my being transgendered in a more subtle way. More than once he has let me sort of... examine his anatomy in a non-sexual way. He let me touch and look and let me be curious, because he knows how much I wish I had been born with an anatomy more close to his. He kinda gets that I'm curious about even the simplest functions with the parts I wasn't born with.
He answers my silly questions ["What do you do when you pee? Do you use your hands or just flop it out over your underwear?"] without making fun of me. He just answers sincerely without making me feel stupid.
When he is talking about me to people I am not out of the closet with, or people who are uncomfortable with me being referred to as "he", instead of breaking down and calling me "she", he just avoids pronouns all together. He has gotten so use to doing it, it doesn't even sound awkward anymore.

[Flam]

Haha  XD
My partner is just like yours. When we had our first "intimate" moment, i was really curious about how does those things works, and asked a lot of questions to him... But it was his first intimate moment with someone too, so he was REALLY shy and did not answer all of my questions. He thought i was mocking him, or something like that.
But now he knows me better and understand that i'm just a curious kitty, and also that my curiosity comes from the fact that i wanted to be like him... So he's not shy anymore, and sometimes tell me more than i want to know  "XD
I guess i'm like a kid to him, asking about everything  ^..^'
But the fact is that we became much closer, after i told him i'm not a girl. He too now feel free to ask me about the female body without the fear to be offensive. And, the most important to him, i guess, he's now free to tell me about his desires, his thoughts, and act as "gayish" as he want, because he no more has to play the role of  being a straight man.
You see... We started the relationship with him thinking i was a female and i thinking that he was straight and any mistake with it i could lose him. He told me he's gay only AFTER i told him i'm trans! D:
That's not fair!  XD
*sighs* ... Nah  <3

[niamh]

Really nice stories people! My partner is so supportive its amazing and I don't know what I would do without her! She has even told a few of her friends about me and they have been so cool about it so they get all the pronouns right when speaking English (the original language doesn't have that problem!). It must be hard for her as she has to talk about me as a woman with some people and as a man for the rest but always try and never slip up!

She shows me makeup tricks and she does awesome work on me to make me pretty for photos! And she helps me with my wardrobe and when we go shopping she shows me things and then encourages me by telling me what I am getting way good at developing my own femme style that even she is impressed with.

And she always tells me how much she supports me no matter what I decide and I love it when she uses my preferred name and calls me cute things and play acts by being the husband around the house, making funny jokes about how I should do more housework and cooking.

It's just so great to meet someone who is so accepting and supporting. I remember when I told her I was trans, all these years ago, and she just told me that she knew, ever since I said 'hi' and it was the reason that she fell for me there and then. It's been nearly 5 years now and we are going stronger and stronger every day. It's awesome, she's simply amazing!

PS: The whole thing about you asking your partner about his appendage is funny because she does that too and she is all so curious about what goes on down there. Of course I answer all she questions so openly and truthfully because she does that same for me, filling me in on all things I didn't learn about being a woman as a kid so I'll be well prepared for those 'girl-talks' in the future.

[Virginia]

our SOs...What things do they do, big or small, that just make them great? How do they support you?

By loving me enough to find a way to make it through one more day.

[Yakshini]

My SO is good at not making a big deal out of my being trans. To him, it is no more significant than the fact that I have brown eyes. It isn't weird or special, it's just part of me.
There was one instance when we were in the check out at the grocery store when I noticed a magazine, and on the cover were pictures of Angelina Jolie's children and the cover read, "Princess and Tomboy" or something like that. One of her children is labeled as a "girly girl" and the other child had various captions under the picture that were something like, " 'I want to be called John!', she tells Angie" or something like that. I pointed it out to my SO and we had a short conversation trying to decide if it was more likely that the child really is a ftm, or really just a tomboy. When I pointed out that tomboys generally don't demand a name change, he paused for a bit, looked at the picture, and turned to me and said, "He's just like you!" with an adorable smile. It made my day.