reason for crossdressing

[lucaluca]

hi!
is someone in this forum, who corss dresses because he just likes the closes? not because he wants to feel feminine for a certain time.
someone who would say "i dress this way, because my clothes reflects my personality" and who cross dresses every day, even because it's just a way to express themselves through clothes.
this is not directed to people who cross dress just at home or for sexual arousal (don't wanna offend someone )
if there is someone, i want to ask what do  your friends, your family and strangers say. how do they react? and what do you answer to them? do you had moments when people got violent? etc. etc. etc.

[barbie]

do you had moments when people got violent? etc. etc. etc.

Yes. I have met a few women who reacted *violently* to my public crossdressing. All I could say was that wearing clothes can not threat anybody by all means, but that people's words can do.

Barbie~~

[barbie]

hey i have to ask this... are you female or male?
and why did women reacted violently? i am scared that men will react violently.

Of course I am m2f.

And one or two of them were catholic. And I still don't know fully why they hated me. Most women do not feel jealousy of my body shape at all, and they are very friendly to me, asking such things how I can maintain it.

Physical violence is a crime which can be presecuted.

Barbie~~

[PhSensei]

I wear female clothes more as an expression of my softer feminine side.  I do not dress to pass nor do I try to present myself as a woman.  Sure I feel more feminine in a skirt and cami than I do in jeans and a tshirt.

My ex wife left me because I wore pantyhose..I had repressed my desire to wear other things, but she couldn't handle my hosiery wearing.

I've since remarried to a wonderful and accepting woman who embraces my softer side.  She loves me in skirts and encourages me to wear when I can.

No violent reactions to those I have told, but I don't tell everyone everything either.

[Lyric]

Well, I initially leaned toward cross dressing because I absolutely loved wearing feminine hairstyles and chose to wear them rather than the styles normally worn by men. I suspect now that was merely an entry point for my personality to take into my true self-concept. I never cared for the macho man persona and always chose more of a geeky or feminine-leaning manner and style. At some point it occurred to me that completing a normal feminine look would allow me to blend a bit better in public. That's when I started shopping for womenswear. I soon decided feminine fashions felt more like me than men's did, so gradually replaced much of my wardrobe.

After a lot of self-exploration I did realize that modifying my body and gender reassignment was not for me. I realize that much of what women are I am not and do not wish to be, but I love women style, so I do it. Luckily my body is such that it works reasonably well for me.

I don't think you can completely separate the closet dressers and sexual feelings from this, though. I think those are just folks who haven't found a way to fully fit feminine fashion into their lives. And I've even known plenty of G-girls who get horny by shopping for hot clothes.

It's unfortunate that our society has long had the limited concepts of gender roles and dressing that it has. I think most people today still believe everyone should fall neatly into the role of stereotypical male or stereotypical female. That's always been a false myth, though, and I believe that thanks to increased communication (such as boards like this) that is changing.

Lyric

[Rose2Me]

I crossdress because there is another side from my public persona that is a woman.  Her name is Rose (pleased to meet you) and I dress in woman's clothes because it fits her.  I don't even have to be doing anything other than normal daily activities; if I am Rose, I will be wearing woman's clothes to do those daily activities.  It just feels right.

Rose

[VelindaSalazar]

I crossdress, now, because I like the style, colors, and textures that are available to women that are not available for men.  Granted, I wish my body type were more like average or a model, but I still can find great styles, colors, and textures for my body type.  I like to be somewhat fashionable while maintaining my own personality.  I have also leaned away from the basic dark solids to more bright and vivid colors.  At the moment, I desire to have a greater variety of colorful clothes in my wardrobe so that I can express my inner self.

[lucaluca]

@lyric: so you just wear women clothing everyday? how do other persons react? i ask this, because i want to wear more feminine things outside, but i don't have the bravery

[cithmore]

First I dress for comfort and second to touch that feminine spot inside me. I began dressing a age 7 when my sister and cousin used me as their dress up doll. Let me explain that I was the only male in a house of 5 females, my father died when I was 5.
My mother and 2 of my sisters are VERY dominant women, almost to the point of being abusive so I understood at a very early age to just do what I was told and life in that house could be very pleasant but if I did not comply then the results could be very unpleasant.
So as a young boy and teenage I would just be one of the girls at home and life was easier.
Now that I am grown that feminine side is and will always be there and can be a great comfort during hard times.
I just want to add that this was not an easy post for me to write, I love my family even through the scars.

[Lyric]

@lyric: so you just wear women clothing everyday? how do other persons react? i ask this, because i want to wear more feminine things outside, but i don't have the bravery

Yes, I pretty much do, I guess. To be honest, I don't really think about my clothes being "women's" or "men's" much anymore. I guess I go about life somewhat like Barbie does, though not quite so glamorously.

I run my own business from my home office, so most days I wear casual things-- this time of the year it's mostly shorts/short skirts and camis/ts. Of course, I go out often, but I'm rarely concerned with what others think of how I look. I guess I'm different than most Susan's users in that way. There are far more important things to worry about than disproving glances.

I tend to dress according to the situation. I go to auctions now and then which are mostly attended by males and sometime require physical work, so I wear more androgynous looks then-- jeans, sweatshirts/ts, sneakers. I rarely "doll up", really-- mostly just on weekends or special occasions. My hair is always rather feminine, but I moderate it now and then. Right now it's rather short-- about chin length and kind of wedgy. I often set it in a perky flip-style, though. I love wigs, too, and have 6 of them and and wear them now and then for fun, mostly.

With little exception, I think most people I know have accept me as a person who expresses who I am from within like me for it. I suppose it's important to choose your friends well.

Lyric

[Shang]

I feel like I'm cross-dressing daily, but it's because I'm forced to.  To go for the jobs I want, I have to wear the female clothes to look good and make a proper impression.  The body may be female so it really isn't seen as cross-dressing, but it's just a role I've been forced into.

I also happily wear male clothing when I can "let loose" and it's great fun.  I wear it because it feels normal, and because males just seem to have the most comfortable clothes.  And males seem more likely to have the colors that I look best in so it's also for a sort of fashion.  It just makes me feel more me and helps confuse people if I've done my hair right.

[barbie]

Yes, I pretty much do, I guess. To be honest, I don't really think about my clothes being "women's" or "men's" much anymore. I guess I go about life somewhat like Barbie does, though not quite so glamorously.

Indeed. Like Lyric, I also usually wear casuals at my work place. People do not care whether they are for women or men. I try to wear makeup everyday, but I am too busy in the morning, frequently skip it. Most people accept me very well. We like to exchange jokes. Men and women around me usually LOL at my replies to their questions.

Of course, at first time, they did not accept or understand me very well. But nowadays, most people know who I am (a guy who enjoys wearing women's dresses and makeup). Most of them think it is my hobby or life style.

During formal events, I wear semi-formal dresses for women, or even men's formal dress. During international meetings, I usually wear formal jacket and pants for women, as most attendents will not see me again  Some foreigners look perplexed after hearing my voice.

I guess my skill of wearing makeup and fashion sense has been gradually improved during the past few years. Look more tasteful and pretty, then less negative reactions.

Barbie~~

[Salina]

I dress primarily because I enjoy feeling feminin at times, well actually, most of the time.  When I cant openly dress, I underdress, this, at least helps me feel somewhar feminin, even at work.

[Closet-CD]

Hiya, I've never had a violent reaction to my dressing, and I crossdress just because I like the feel and comfort of womens clothes, I don't try to pass and I don't wear makeup or wigs, just the clothes, because they are awesome

[Barbara]

I have emotional needs to feel like i am a woman,even for a short time, maybe i lean toward transexual.I don't know.The clothes are just to remind me of who i am.