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[Devyn]

So, I was talking to this girl at lunch, who mentioned something about gay transsexuals (like MTF's who like girls and FTM's who like guys) and my friend walks up and says that her "wife" (not really married, and is not a ->-bleeped-<-, just dresses masculine) is a bisexual ->-bleeped-<-, which is the "least confusing type of transsexual".

I think the conversation started because another friend of ours was handing out invitations to her birthday party and I laughed, saying that I couldn't stay for the sleepover because it said "girls' only" (but her mom doesn't have to know.)

Anyway, I was all, "I'm a ->-bleeped-<-." after my friend said that about her "wife" and she stared at me, practically bewildered. Then, she didn't talk to me for the rest of the lunch period. =/

I wouldn't have minded her weird reaction if it wasn't for the fact that she calls me her "son" (she does that whole friend-family thing. Like with her "wife".), calls me a boy all of the time, and that her twin (who is one of my best friends) also calls me a man, AND I told her earlier today that I have a "gender complex" (I didn't really want to come right out and say it), and was saying that I'm definitely a boy on the inside.

If it wasn't for those things, her reaction would've bothered me. But because she knows and does those things, I was just kind of like..."What the hell?"

I am soo confused. Just had to post this for some thought.

As well, I was talking to my mother about transgender people (I bring FTMs up way too much specifically because my own transsexuality is constantly on my mind and I'll start rambling about my FTM binding methods and my emotions induced by my dysphoria and stuff without actually talking about myself and...) WHY hasn't she seen anything? I would have thought that she would notice my boobs shrunk A LOT when I started binding AT LEAST. I mean, it's not like they were small.

I've come to the conclusion that I post too much, by the way. Lol. Feel free to tell me to shut up.

[confused]

shut up lol jk . well tbh i was surprised she had this reaction before i read the other stuff even . but as i was reading your post again (yeah for some reason i like to read stuff twice XD) i realized that this reaction is completely normal for some people , i mean yah , you've given her hints and clues , ut she probably thought that you (like herself) are not a transsexual , just masculine . i'd imagine that during the rest of the launch she was just adjusting/digesting to the new info or reviewing all the past situation in er mind and thinking "oooh right , how didnt i think of that " but i personally think everything will be okay , i think it would be just a change in prespective , like she used to see you as a girl now she will see you as a boy , i guess thats the point of coming out
and for your mom , well , from my experience , mom's usually notice the wrong stuff that we Dont want them to notice , not the other way around XD they all have that talent
and speaking of noticing , i've noticed that you think waaay too much

[Devyn]

and for your mom , well , from my experience , mom's usually notice the wrong stuff that we Dont want them to notice , not the other way around XD they all have that talent
and speaking of noticing , i've noticed that you think waaay too much

lol. My mom does NOT have that talent. She once walked to my room, said, "I'm glad you're not gay" and then left. Three days later, I ended up coming out as bisexual.

I do, don't I? I analyze EVERY POSSIBLE SCENARIO after something happens. Then I start thinking about it. Extensively. Lol.

[Robert F.]

Hopefully your friend will come around soon. It sounds like she already gets it, but maybe she thinks you're just trying to get out of going or something? Offer to hangout with her a different time so she doesn't think you're avoiding her, and explain that you weren't trying to get out of it, you just don't want to be the only guy there.

As for the mom thing, I can't say much for it, because my mom instantly noticed. She cornered me in the living room one day and asked me what was making my chest so flat. I just had to explain to her that it makes me more comfortable.

[confused]

She once walked to my room, said, "I'm glad you're not gay" and then left. Three days later, I ended up coming out as bisexual.

lol , i guess then you know why havnt she noticed hehe
i know someone close who does that thinking too much thing  , and actually i used to be kinda like that but i quit . anyway , that friend always ends up confuddled with too many possibilities . and me ended up not thinking at all and just ..drifting with events lol , so i believe we have to find somewhere in between , tricky but possible (now my brain hurts >.<)