Oh The irony Of It All

[erocse]

   This just strikes me so ironic. I was outed a month ago, to my family. Since then some of my side of the family will not speak to me or give a chance to explain things to them personally. They won't even take one call from me since they learned about my transness.  My sister in particularly. Which comes as a very big shock, because we were very close.

    So this last Thanksgiving we went to Mrs Erocse's sister's house, before we agreed to come. Mrs Erocse talked to her sister about me being transgender, the conversation went well. We had a very nice time, on the days we spent there for Thanksgiving. The last night we were there Mrs Erocse's sister ask us to be her children s god parents and if anything should happen to them, would we take the kids and raise them as our own. Well we would have done that even without her asking us to. We told her that we would be honored . It was a very emotional conversation. For her to not only accept me being transgender but to also intrust us with her children. It made me feel so wonderful.

   My sister on the other hand , about eight months ago, before she had learned about me being trans. Gave Mrs Erocse and I a copy of their will and also asked if we would take her child and raise him as our own, if anything should happen to them.

   What strikes me as so ironic is that at the very moment, Mrs Erocse's sister was asking us to be god parents to her children. My sister may have been changing her will and removing us as god parents.

  Ironic huh....

  Hugs, Erocse

[JessicaH]

You two are both wonderful people. Can I add you both as godparents in case something happens to my wife and I?  :-)

[Sandy]

The ironies do seem to intensify during transition, don't they?

Just for the little while I have know you two (three!), I am sure that you take being Godparents very seriously and regard it with the solemnity that it deserves.  You are excellent choices.

Erocse, it is your sisters loss to drop you as Godparent.  I pray that nothing ever happens to her, because I am sure that whoever she might pick as Godparents over you would not be anywhere near as loving or qualified.

(I'm not sure that came out right, but I think you get what I am saying...)

-Sandy

[K8]

Yes, it seems funny that some people write you off for being trans while others become closer because you opened yourself to them.

It sounds like a wonderful Thanksgiving.  I wish you many more.

- Kate

[Lacey Lynne]

Yes, you're so right:  Oh, the irony of it all.  Amazing, isn't it?  Truly, you just never know how people are going to react.  Count your blessings as the occur.  You've got some major blessings going on, and you deserve them.  Life is full of twists and turns.  Take the good ones as they come, and they WILL come even though sometimes it seems like they never will.  Takes time.

How's your daughter doing?  No doubt Mrs. Erocse and you love her dearly and constantly, and Mrs. Erocse's sister can clearly see that.  She's right:  You two are totally the right choice as adoptive parents if it comes to that. 

Bless you BOTH during this holiday season and all the time.       Lacey

[cynthialee]

Family have a wierd way of surprising us.
My sister in law and I ussed to hate eachother. Over the years we have become nuetral. Since I came out we have become sisters and we are very close. I count her as one of my closest friends. My bio sister however....We always were very close. Then when I came out she changed. She is cold and clinical. She only asks me medical questions related to my transition and I feel like I am just a science experiment to her.

[spacial]

Both my older brother and sister used their children to get at me. I do undrstand and appreciate the hurt it causes.

Frankly, though it really only helps you, I took the position that anyone prepared to use their children as weapons are not the sort of people I want to be dealing with anyway.

I also know how difficult it is to accept that people who you thought you could/should rely upon, actually hated you all along.