Swimming and scars?

[Noah G.]

spacial has a point

Personally, I do plan on getting a tattoo on my chest, but it's not going to even touch any chest surgery scars and will be on my chest simply because that's how it popped into my head and that is where it would look best I think.

Just because someone asks a question doesn't mean you have to answer. I have been asked about scars before, but only when they were still in the injury category: after that, never. Injuries are asked about far more often than scars -- far more often. Even with a scar you don't have to answer, and if you do a simple answer will do if you care to entertain. If they ask further (I.e. What kind of surgery) just tell them to mind their business one way or another because unless they're a good friend (and sometimes even then) that's just rude. Some people even offer up outlandish, obviously ridiculous stories in response whether to make it more interesting or as a way to tell them it's none of their business: regardless of their reason it usually puts a stop to any more questions.

[Cody Jensen]

Josh

What I'm thinking is, a tatoo is just going to draw attention to you.

I've spend most of my life watching men and trying to be like them. I've learnt they like to keep a space around them. If another guy gets too close, that's gay. If a woman gets too close, she fancies you.

Now, lets be honest, gay men are not very common. Most gay men don't jump into bed with every gay man who comes along. More importantly, gay men, generally, try to find out if someone is gay first. It just isn't done to chat up a guy on the off chance of him being gay. (A punch in the nose can often offend as they say.)

In the case of a girl coming onto to you, men generally play them along. They don't open up. They do a bit of teasing, play the girl along for a while.

What I'm trying to say is that, anyone who asks a guy about something as personal as body scars needs to be told to mind their own business.

That only leaves you. How you feel about it.

Now another thing I've learnt about men is they don't tend to fret too much about these things. Most men are basically peacocks. They exibit their perfect bodies, telling the world this is what they have. Few bodies are perfect. But if you don't believe yours is, then no-one else will.

In other words, relax. You don't have anything to hide or be ashamed of. This is what you have to offer. If they don't want it, then move alone for those that do.

Addition.

If it is really bothering you and you will feel better doing somethign about it, then do.

Thing is, I don't want to stop you talking about it, or tell you what to do. I'm really just suggesting that how you see yourself is how others will see you.

Tatoos are permanent. They generally fade with time and end up looking like a blotch.

But with guys, people look at your face first.

Ok. I think I get what you're saying. You're saying if I look confident as a person then it won't draw attention to my scars and people won't really care about them because they just care about who I am inside, not outside. Right?

[spacial]

Ok. I think I get what you're saying. You're saying if I look confident as a person then it won't draw attention to my scars and people won't really care about them because they just care about who I am inside, not outside. Right?

Exactly.

Or more percicely, they won't care because they will be too busy dealing with your position in the peer group.

[Cody Jensen]

Yep