Sexual Orientation of FtM's

[assorted_human]

95% Straight (seeking straight born women or maybe MTF)
5% Bi (off chance of very cute gay man)
I don't like men enough to ever want a relationship with one that and due to the percentage I just say I'm straight. Also I don't think I'd be comfortable with another FTM.

but race does change your looks somtimes and people mite prefer the look of say asians over african americans or somthing like that. but i understand what you are saying.

I also prefer non-white. I'm not very attracted to my own race and love darker skin. The contrast is beautiful (I'm a pasty ginger). Along with tone of voice and other stuff. Mmm

[BrotherBen]

I was with a few guys in my younger (high school/college) years, but then identified as "mostly" lesbian for almost 10 years. Now that I'm transitioning, I think maybe it was filling the "female" role in the relationship that I disliked, and not so much the guys themselves. So I'm really curious/excited to try being with guys again, and for the moment I'm labeling myself pansexual, since I'd also be cool with seeing another trans* person.

[Bimmer Guy]

I'm attracted to and partner with, cis, feminine females, most often, queer.  I would never not want to live in the queer world/community.  I prefer it to the heterosexual, straight world.

[birdline]

 I'm in a long term relationship with a cis man who I've been with since before my transition started. I draw the line at human, pansexual best describes that, but I've only had experience with men and so I gravitate toward saying I'm gay. I do prefer men for that reason, too, I think.

[Dalex]

Hmm, I don't think it is possible really to say that one sexual orientation is the box for FtM's, I think it really depends from guy to guy. But me, personally, I'm not even sure what orientation I would place myself, does personality count? I don't know xD I just fall for the person and I don't think too much what is between their legs but I suppose lately I have been more attracted to men, both sic and trans (don't really see the difference anyways cause I find trans men just as much of as men as cis)

[anibioman]

I'm straight not into other ftms at all really, I'll think some are good looking but that's it. I could be attracted to an mtf I've only met a few. My type is athletic women. I prefer woman who are tall but shorter than me but I've been attracted to a lot of very tall women. I've been attracted to women of various ethnicities. In my opinion big boobs aren't a necessity, shape and proportion is much more important. I also have a thing for eyes in everyone not just in romantic interests.

My current girlfriend of almost a year is 5'6" does dance and track. She cute as hell. Dirty blonde hair, pretty blue green eyes. She has abs, not a necessity at all, but a nice plus.

Personality is the biggest thing for me which is why I've been attracted to such a wide variety of women. I like fun and interesting people.

[bornpurple]

Mostly into guys, very occasionally attracted to women but more for fun than anything long-term. (And this includes both cis people and trans people, though I have a preference for cis guys because I like male gendered people and penises a lot.)

[Elijahwaits]

I'm in a long term relationship with a cis man who I've been with since before my transition started. I draw the line at human, pansexual best describes that, but I've only had experience with men and so I gravitate toward saying I'm gay. I do prefer men for that reason, too, I think.

I totally could have wrote that haha, married to a cis man.

[Xenguy]

I'm Pansexual, with absolutely no preference for any one gender over the other, whether it be sexually or romantically. I also find that I have no preference either with cis or trans people, as long as they have a nice appearance and heart, I'm fine. I'm Polyamorous, though I don't know how that fits in with my Pansexuality. Current in a triad relationship with a bi cis guy and a straight cis girl.

[Natkat]

Hi,
I'd like to learn about the sexual orientation of FtM's.
One FtM I was in touch with through the internet told me most FtM's are attracted to each other?
Is this true? What is their sexual pattern like? Thanks. 

If people arn't attractive to Ftms, they should, cause we are freaking hot
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getting abit more serious. no matter what gender identify you have sexual orientation is fluid so it all depend on each person. I do belive many transgneder are more openminded to be gay, bi pansexual and have other orientations, because (speaking by own experience) if you first came out as trans it usunally not that difficult to also come out as bi, or gay or whatever you like.

Many transgender who are ex attracted to men, also invold Men who wasn't asigned men at birth. For many it can also seams to be more easy in a way. If you join alot of suport groups and trans comunity you may find people there where you can talk and have something in common. There won't be the same fear of "what will he think when he find out im trans" or "he will never understand this part" I think this understanding is the main reason or + on being with someone trans than cis. Sure theres also cisgender who do understand alot on what it like to be trans and who are openminded, but unfurtunatly there not that common again, when you are trans you almost recive these basic knowlegde as you experience them by yourself.
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[Ryan55]

ok i know i said this before, about my sexual orientation is straight, cause I like girls

but my question is how does your families see you? Even though i'm going through this transition, my family and my gf's family still sees me as a chick because I was born with no penis, and considers me gay, even though in my mind, I don't feel gay at all, it feels more gay to be with a dude in my mind (I mean no offense with the gay word). Honestly, I don't know how to get them to see this differently, cause even when I start looking more manly and grow a beard, I feel like they will still see me as a chick and just being a lesbian. Yet in my mind, I still feel straight. Its something I need to talk to the therapist about, I just wanted to know if anyone else gets where i'm coming from or is going through the same thing.

[NathanExplosion]

I struggled with my sexual orientation a lot until I transitioned. Now that I've been living as male for a few years, I identify as pansexual. My boyfriend is also FtM, but he is gay, and attracted to me anyway. So he's attracted towards males regardless of their body.

Before I started living as male, I identified as a lesbian for a long time. It was weird to me, because I was attracted to men, but I didn't want to date or sleep with them. I realized after my transition that I was only dating/sleeping with girls because I felt like I could "be the man" in the relationship (which I know is sort of wrong, but hopefully it makes sense.) Dating guys before I was presenting male was awkward because they would always treat me "like a girl," which was never their fault - they were only ever just being polite, holding doors, paying for meals, etc. They didn't know. So I realized later that I DID want to date boys - just ones that saw me as a boy, too.

[Nickrose20]

Having read this and your earlier post, I'd like to encourage you not to give up hope. First of all, the person who told you you had to go to the lesbian group is ridiculous...even if she saw you as female, you don't like girls! Lol. Can you imagine someone going to a lesbian group and being like "yeah, um, so I actually don't like girls all that much." Just think about how silly it is for her to say that. And there are lots of gay trans men! It's a little harder when you're pre-transition, I think (I'm not gay so it's all hearsay for me from other guys), but there are gay men who date trans men and see them for the men they are. I actually know a few in real life and they were really nice guys.

She said I could go to the lesbian one because I was dressed like I prefer but my face and size is that of a female child... I have precious puberty so I grew barely over 5 feet. She just perceived me as a butch lesbian. I have one of those faces that looks very femme when bald. Since I'm black they just think I'm a lesbian who can't grow hair well even though I'm very have no facial hair.


I'm not necessarily gay either. I like other genders. I just constantly look at myself people always say I'd make a pretty girl that I'm too small to be anything else. If I try to put my height in as male it says that it's not a valid male height I have to be at least 5'2". I'm smaller than most women so that's my biggest issue is that I don't know how convincing I might be. But I do know a transman my height. And he's got a wife she's transgender as well. He passes well with facial hair. I have a male build people at I have a ->-bleeped-<- look as far as my body goes but my face... My lips are the worst part. They're so big they look so big... And I have a small nose and larger eyes. I have a slim face though and square jaw and I try to color in my eyebrows to give a harder look. People still call me girl. I've been to my dr and seeing a therapist I just wonder if I can actually be fixed.

[Cloudchamber]

Before I started living as male, I identified as a lesbian for a long time. It was weird to me, because I was attracted to men, but I didn't want to date or sleep with them. I realized after my transition that I was only dating/sleeping with girls because I felt like I could "be the man" in the relationship (which I know is sort of wrong, but hopefully it makes sense.) Dating guys before I was presenting male was awkward because they would always treat me "like a girl," which was never their fault - they were only ever just being polite, holding doors, paying for meals, etc. They didn't know. So I realized later that I DID want to date boys - just ones that saw me as a boy, too.

^ This. Sums up my entire pre transition dating experience. I can totally relate.

Nowadays, I identify somewhere along the lines of pansexual, tilting towards guys/homoflexibility. I tend to be particularly drawn to boyish, borderline androgynous expressions of masculinity. Which has resulted in my attraction to a good few other FTM spectrum folks. The problem is, when I see a really good looking trans guy, I can't help but feel a tinge of jealously... do I wanna be him, or date him? The age old gay conundrum, only amplified by being trans.

Overall, though, I'm just attracted to people in general... men, women, non binary, trans, cis... It's all good

[Mattia]

I consider myself bi, even though relationships with men never worked. I usually am more attracted towards female (trans or cis, obviously) bodies and minds and everyhing else.

I think the fact that I consider myself bi comes from two things:
-having been raised as a girl
-my transition, which led me to have a different perception of gender differences.
So I guess if I were born cis I would be just straight.