Being a white guy sucks

[Nero]

Lol
Partly a joke, and partly not. Being a white guy has its minuses in a way being a white girl does not. There's certain places I can't go anymore without being a target for robbery etc, where I had no problem as a girl. People assume things about me they didn't before. Also I'm treated as being suspicious where I had no problems before. People trusted me before. Now as a clean looking white guy, I'm suddenly a different species. Anybody else had this?

Edit: And I know that going from African American or Hispanic female or white male to female (as Vexing mentioned), or other ethnicities must present it's own challenges as well. And I'd be interested in hearing that side as well.

[CaitJ]

Yes, specifically with children.
I'll elaborate; people have no problems with me being around children as a woman, but as a white dude, I was automatically under suspicion of being some kind of creepy pedo guy if I showed any interest in kids.
I will comment on the robbery target thing though - while I was probably more likely to be knocked over for my wallet as a white dude, my chances of being raped were virtually nil. Some days I'd like those odds back 

"Y'all don't know what it's like - being male, middle-class and white."

[Arch]

People make assumptions about my upbringing and advantages and the life I've led, but so far so good.

One thing I like about living authentically: women no longer thrust their babies in my face, asking me if I want to hold the little precious darlings.

Where can't you go and not be targeted for robbery?

[VeryGnawty]

One thing I like about living authentically: women no longer thrust their babies in my face, asking me if I want to hold the little precious darlings.

I've had the exact opposite problem.  I was born male.  I'm really good with kids, and I like to teach them things.  But people guard their kids from me like I was some pedophile.

I'll be glad when I have enough feminine features that I can move beyond this nonsense.  It's really annoying wanting to take part in kid's lives when their parents do everything they can to keep you away from them.  This usually ends up with the kid's crying and wailing because they didn't finish learning the game we were making up.

There is one very good reason that I love kids.  When adults get mixed gender signals, their usual response is to avoid me at all costs.  When kids get mixed gender signals, their first response is to ask me why I walk/sit/behave like a girl.

I can't stand adults.  They are so close-minded.  If I had known the grownup world was like this, I think I would have just stayed in high school forever.

[Michelle.]

Mssrs Arch and Nero:

You must now leave Susans at once.

DO NOT LET THE DOOR HIT YOU ON THE WAY OUT!

We of course all know that White Males are the source of all that is pure evil in this world.
I could go on, but will allow you some dignity.

Which is more than Whitey has ever done for the "real" people of the World.

Does either one of you live in the "South"? Did you recently celebrate Christmas?
You need not answer, if that would serve to incriminate you further.

[Alex201]

The only places I have problems at (I.E. When I am watched closely) are the ones that sell breakables....

*turns to leave room and runs into wall*

[Michelle.]

LMAO

[KillBelle]

I'm half asian/white and all i can say is...white people have it really bad with reversed racism nowadays. i feel sorry for ya'll.

[Aikotribs]

I can't stand kids, dunno how to deal with em, I'm looking forward to not being bothered by them again.

Its especially annoying in family situations where I get looked at like I should care for the little bastards, or even reproduce. I'm sorry but like father like son,at least I'm smart enough not to raise a kid and be another absent father.

[Sianna]

There's certain places I can't go anymore without being a target for robbery etc, where I had no problem as a girl.

Can you give some examples please? I can't imagine a single place where I'm safer as a girl... (I don't count being around kids as dangerous, well most of those i know aren't, lol  )

[Double_Rainbow]

This one....very true!  I've always been drawn to babies, I think they are just SOOO CUTE!  One time when it was a reality check for me was when I was at Maurices'.  There was just the most adorable baby and I had to say something, commented to the mother on how cute I thought her child was and the mamma just suddenly went into protect mode or something!  I could just feel the tension she was feeling...I must have made her very uncomfortable commenting on her child.  Either that or she was just wondering why the hell there was a guy in Maurices'.

I've never been eyeballed for theft or something like that, but show any sign of affection or.....OH NO! crying in public and I immediately get the most odd looks I have ever seen.

(well...I don't think any of that has to do with being white, sorry!  )

[CaitJ]

white people have it really bad with reversed racism nowadays.

Like hell we do. White privilege is alive and kicking like a mule.
BTW, what part of Asia is your heritage from?

[Arch]

We of course all know that White Males are the source of all that is pure evil in this world.

Yeah, so?

[Arch]

When my father was applying for jobs in local government around thirty-five years ago, he got the top score on the test but was third in line for consideration. When he asked why, he was told that they had to hire minorities and women before they could hire him. Don't know if they were just messing with him, but that's apparently what he was told. My dad is scrupulously honest, so I'm quite sure he wasn't making it all up.

But that was quite a long time ago.

[Tad]

I stil ahve th eproblem of people thrusting babies at me.  People seem to think it's fun and cute to make me squirm. And girls are apparently 'attracted' to me at bars because I look safe (like I'm going to come stand by your for a while cuz there is a creeper over there). And some other random dude walks up to me and says, I can tell you've never been drunk in your life (true). I donno, but as a male.. apparently people percieve me as some kind of.. super safe guy, even complete strangers.

[Arch]

Tad, judging by your avatar, I'd say that people are reacting to your All-American look. If you want to discourage people, you might want to go for the grunge look or adopt a squint.

[yin_haan]

There is one very good reason that I love kids.  When adults get mixed gender signals, their usual response is to avoid me at all costs.  When kids get mixed gender signals, their first response is to ask me why I walk/sit/behave like a girl.

True.

[KillBelle]

Like hell we do. White privilege is alive and kicking like a mule.
BTW, what part of Asia is your heritage from?

I am vietnamese =P
Yes i know i know...it's not as "cool" as being korean or japanese but i wont have it any other way!

[Double_Rainbow]

I am vietnamese =P
Yes i know i know...it's not as "cool" as being korean or japanese but i wont have it any other way!

I used to work with some Vietnamese folk.  Very friendly, lots of hugs, and kept trying to teach me their language.  I tried, but failed miserably!

[glendagladwitch]

One thing I like about living authentically: women no longer thrust their babies in my face, asking me if I want to hold the little precious darlings.

I'm always tempted to say, "Oooohhh!  Delicious Baby!  Thank-you!"