Transgender Tropes 101
http://gendertrender.wordpress.com/2010/12/26/transgender-tropes-101/12/26/10
[Transgender Trope #1- Trans questioners and critics must not be informed on the topic.]
I'm sorry you see them so negatively. Let me see if I can explain my perspective on it – I hope you're willing to hear me out.
FTMs are not upset because they do not fit into the typical image of females.
[Transgender Trope #2. Trans people have no problem living outside of gender roles. It's sex they want to disguise, for no social reason whatsoever.] (Of course females don't want to fit into the typical image of females. The typical image of females is a sexist, sexualized stereotype and only males who objectify females and get off on the thought of inhabiting a female "object" would want to "fit into" that role.)
Or at least, not true FTMs.