One of the dumbest tropes I hear from straight guys is this: "I am all for you being yourself and stuff, but I'm just creeped out when I'm around you because I'm afraid you're gonna come on to me." Or even: "I'm fine with you being around me, just as long as you don't hit on me." FIRST OFF, I'm not a gay guy. I'm a trans girl. SECOND OFF, I don't even find straight guys attractive in the least bit. THIRD OFF, even if I was a gay guy, that doesn't automatically mean I'm gonna hit on you. Last time I checked, just because straight men are attracted to women, doesn't mean they're automatically want to get it on with their aunt. Likewise, just because gay guys (or, in my case, people perceived to be gay guys) aren't going to try and get it on with every man they see. FOURTH OFF, we live in a culture where I am constantly told that my kind are creepy, disgusting, and not deserving of love. What makes you think that my oppressed trans self would even try to hit on Mr. Privileged Hetero Cis Dude? The dynamics in this situation are so skewed in your favor, that if I tried to hit on you, I have the chance of being murdered, and as for as our culture is concerned, I deserve it because I "deceived" you. FIFTH OFF, if you're gonna say stuff like that, don't even bother preceding it with stuff like "I'm all for you being yourself" in some failed attempt at being nice, because no matter how good your intentions may be, I AM STILL OFFENDED.
