Hi..
Terms as to what we think we are.
Well in my case im a brain wired intersex andrgynous woman who happens to have a male background.
other wise known & accepted as a woman.
The many people who know me have accepted me as a person first, so with my back ground they dont have issues they know what my trade is & its just accepted .
First off you accept who you are mind wise , now your body can be realined if that means H R T & S R S & what ever after , thats good ,
I know for some its very hard & yes it does take time to work through .
As to the nameing & terms im not that bothered , to me its about our differences not a battle we are after all are all human some of us can have children some of us cant .
What iv seen over the last few years is an acceptance that i know was not there 30 years ago. & even in some places 10 odd years ago. iv receved acceptance in a way i never thought posible yet its there for us if we can accept it.
Those people i deal with are not bothered with names yet they have shown that even with changes they treat me with respect & we just get on so well .
Shelly.
There is a place for us who are a mix of both intersex & some of us have both , others of us only our brain & thinking .
If your Dr s or G Ps cant accept that in to days socity then where were they taught about being Drs & G Ps or is it they dont wont to know .
I did not have G D im not a T S yet i was accepted for who i am you have to tell them not be told, YOU present your case & tell them what YOU need not let them tell you.
Shelly give me a email
noeleena@clear.net.nz
Ill go through some details with you if youd like to .
Im thinking there is no one size fits all & i think i make that very clear in my dealing with people i wont be told what other s think i should be in thier eyes if i had i would not be where i am now . this of cause is not every one just a few who dont wont to see change. they thought or still think they know & have all the answers well they are not us & quite blunty how the hell would they know unless they are like us .
I have many 100 s of friends & people i talk with yet they dont have any problems at all you see im in front of people all the time. so why then do they accept me with out ? may be they see in me some one who is different in many ways yet they relate to me & with me .
we are the ones who put stumbling blocks in our way not others . tho some do i know that.
Do we really have to define our selfs all the time .
What i see is tho we are trying to put a handle on who we are yet in so doing we miss who we really are , we over think our selfs to the point of we lose our real selfs in doing that.
The bottom line is iv been through it i know what its like & iv come through it,...... by my self , of cause not,
i had help & from those only who could help me & they were there when i needed them.
...noeleena...
