In love with a T-girl

[Marcelo Caetano]

So...I really don't know how to talk about that.
There's a girl. And I like her. And she's is transexual either.
I really don't care about that. I see her as the woman she is. There's no problem in being with her, I don't feel ashamed or anything like that.
But, well, she probably doesn't like me, so it makes no difference.
However, I'd really like to be with her, to take her out on a date and stuff like that. We are friends. I fear that I may lose her friendship if I say something.
The other thing is that she's a prostitute. I'm not sure how to deal with that. I've got a few trans friends who are prostitutes and I don't have any problems with this. It's okay for me, you can do whatever you want with your life.
But being with a girl who's often with other guys...and real guys who can give her what I can, and I'm talking 'bout sex, makes me feel really dysphoric.
Should I talk to her? Should I say something? And what can I say? I'm taking all sorts of advices.

[lilacwoman]

prostitutes quite often have minders who can get really nasty at the idea of losing the income so be careful but widen your social circle to find a more available girl.

[tekla]

The other thing is that she's a prostitute. I'm not sure how to deal with that.

I don't know how it works where you live, but it's strictly a business doing pleasure with you out here.  I'd suggest cash.

[Marcelo Caetano]

I know she doesn't have a pimp or something like that, she just works 'cause it's her way to make money.
Where I live, if you're a mtf you don't have much options about where to work. Most of the girls work as prostitutes; and it doesn't bother me. They're still my friends.

She's my friend, and a good one. I guess would be very rude if I'd offer her money to have sex with me. We've been together one night, but we didn't have sex, but it was really great anyway.

Other than that, probably would be better to really find another girl, but it's not that easy to change my heart.

[Lee11]

I totally understand you on this....let me share something from my life with you....
I have been totally in love with a woman for over two years and I am open and honest with her about my feelings...the issue is we are friends, she has a guy in her life (on again...off again) and she is a female bodybuilder with lots of fans who I have to deal with..we kiss but that is as far as it goes (more friendly... though on the lips).

Do I hope it will magically one day develop into something...HELL YES....but in the meantime she is supportive of me in all that I do, we get along great together and should she ever decide to take that leap she knows I am always here (truth be told I can't even look at another woman....if i could it would be easier!).

Long story short...I am glad that she knows of my feelings and we openly flirt together...it is what it is for now but it is a hell of a lot better than if i had kept my feelings to myself.....