mumof4
Something that you mentioned earlier and was addressed by cynthialee, has got me thinking.
I do hope you don't mind if I volunteer some things.
Parents, quite naturally, want to give their children the best start. They try to teach them the things they need to know, consideration, not to steal, not to be rude and so on.
Most parents try to teach their children to avoid what might be gender inappropriate behaviour. They imagine their children, perhaps being teased.
I'm sure you will agree, it would be competely wrong for any parent, seeing their son is a bit sensitive or their daughter is a bit of a tom boy, to assume they are transgender.
Our individual realisation of what we are, has come quite naturally to most of us. It has been termed, on these pages, a self diagnosis. There are no tests, no outward signs to speak of. We just know.
We ran a poll here recently, asking when we each, first realised something was wrong. There were separate polls for gmales and gfemales. (g = genetic. The gender we were assigned at birth). Most realised it under 6 years.
Now this is important. Under 6 years, few, if any, will have reached pubitry. Few of us have any conception of sexuality. What we discoverd about ourselves was not sexual, it was gender.
Many people here have described how they so much wanted to play with children of the opposite sex. Some became isolated and lonely, while others tried put their personal feelings aside.
But in almost every case, that realisation that something is wrong never went away.
What I'm trying to say to you is, pleased don't start thinking that you should have known earlier. How could you? It isn't exactly common.
You child could have told you earlier, but you know that couldn't happen. Again, pleased don't feel that that is any reflection upon you. We live in society and we raise our children to fit into a norm. For most that is fine. Our situation is, thankfully, rare.
What you should see as a reflection upon you and upon your child, your daughter, is that she has the strength of character to come to her mum with this big problem. And you have responded as a loving mum.
