Supportive Spouse!
Hi everyone here at Susan's! My name is Ruby and I am married to Chelsea, a MTF post-op transsexual. We've been married 21 years and have 4 children, ages 19-30. Transition for us began in January 2009, just 2 years ago, though we have known our entire relationship that "something" was up. My acceptance has been all the easier for having known about "that something" from the beginning. Chelsea never raced ahead of me, nor did things that she did not tell me about. She wasn't always sure she was a transsexual – didn't really believe in it for herself until she got very, very ill trying to resist what was inside her. I was also very resistant for years, wouldn't even read about it, until I learned that sometimes transsexuals with undiagnosed illnesses recover spontaneously with transition. Then I read in earnest. After only a few books, we both felt she might well be trans and began the search for a gender specialist. In addition to attending therapy both with her and without her, I attended 3 conventions, numerous support group meetings, met lots of other trans people, joined Transfamily/spouse online support group, and did a lot of soul searching. Chelsea and I have always had an amazing connection – deep, spiritually passionate, sexy, communicative, and just generally best friends. I knew that it was a relationship to preserve. I have worked very hard to get to the place I am today, a place not only of acceptance but also of enthusiasm. I honor transsexuality as a spiritual force on the planet; I am honored to work to help the rest of the world see it as such. And by the way, she is not sick anymore. Cheers. Ruby
