confused

[Michael Joseph]

I know that labels don't matter whatsoever, but Im really confused. For the longest time I thought I only liked girls. Recently I have found myself to maybe being somewhat attracted to guys too... i think. If i am, i dont care, its just really confusing me. Has anyone else gone through this?

[N.Chaos]

Yessir. I've been attracted to girls since I was in 7th 8th grade, but I've always looked at other guys too. For a while, I thought it was a jealousy thing, and then for a while I thought it was me trying to force myself to be a "normal girl". I actually went through this huge period of self-hate and massive confusion over it before just saying to hell with it and accepting I'm bisexual.

[Michael Joseph]

Damn thats exactly how I have felt! Thanks for your reply. Maybe I can just skip the whole self hate step and just give guys a try?

[Lee]

I remember a study where about half the people who identified themselves as straight said that they either have had or would be interested in having sex with someone of the same gender.  Too bad I can't remember which study it was.  Anyways, I wouldn't worry about it too much.

[N.Chaos]

Lol, glad I could help. Yeah, skipping the whole self-hate step is usually a lot better for you, and anyone around you. My girlfriend's been picking on me since she found out I was bi because it bothered me so goddamn much. Admittedly, my reasons for being upset about it were pretty ridiculous, but that's me.

[Mrs Erocse]

I imagine with anybody it is always attractive to have friendship, love and acceptance. The person giving it to us can be most attractive regardless of gender.

I am not an authority it is just a thought.

Hugs.
Patty

[Debra]

Yes this changed for me after transition but I blame it on my upbringing more than anything.

[Michael Joseph]

Thank you everyone, I feel a little less confused now, and I'm not gunna worry about who I like, and just take it as it happens. And, Mrs Erocse- I agree with you because now that I think of it when I first came out as liking girls it was when I had a huge crush on my friend and I liked everything about her, and it just so happened she was a girl. So, I guess you're right, its about the person, not their gender

[AlexCallende]

I imagine with anybody it is always attractive to have friendship, love and acceptance. The person giving it to us can be most attractive regardless of gender.

I am not an authority it is just a thought.

Hugs.
Patty

I totally agree.  Considering that a lot of the things we go through in life (as trans) are aggravated by societal and cultural labels, I'd say as long as it's not destructive, go for it.  At the end of the day, I see my partner not as a man (or a woman, as the case may be) but as the other half of a whole that is my relationship...

Cheers!

[NightWing]

It's really difficult to put a label on your sexuality.  It's very fluid (moreso for girls).  But I figured out I like women at 15, but it's only been recently within the past year that I've been able to acknowledge that I rarely like men as well (due to the fact I'd be seen as the "woman" of the relationship, but I'm over it and those silly gender boundaries now).  If I had to pick a label, I'd go for either straight or pansexual, but it really doesn't matter.

[toxicblue]

It took me a while for me to accept that I actually liked guys as well as girls.  This is mainly because as I grew up, the idea of homosexuality was totally out of my realm of comprehension.  Now that I really think about it, I'd be pretty happy with a male partner.  It might be a little weird at first, but whatever.  I still do like girls more though.

[ffern]

I imagine with anybody it is always attractive to have friendship, love and acceptance. The person giving it to us can be most attractive regardless of gender.

I am not an authority it is just a thought.

Hugs.
Patty

i also totally agree with this. ( and you can essentially 'do' the same things with guys as with girls for the most part if one is crude about it .. which is another reason to like the person not the gender)

and id say just be open to anything.  it took me a while to accept that being bicurious wasnt a bad thing and now i have an awesome boyfriend.

[SilverShadow]

Has anyone else gone through this?

For me, confusion about my sexuality was what eventually led me to question my gender. Just accepting my sexuality led to a lot of anxiety, more that accepting my gender identity, really. I guess that when you question either of those things, and accept that there is something "different" (bad choice of word, I just can't think of anything better right now) about you in either way, it becomes easier to see and accept the other. I'd imagine that it's especially true if you realize that you're trans first: sexuality becomes almost a non-issue in comparison.

My thoughts about sexuality now are almost the same as toxicblue's. I've accepted that I'm bi/pan with preference to girls. Like toxicblue I'm still a bit weirded out by the idea of a male partner, but it could start feeling more natural at some point of my transition. Or not. Doesn't really matter.

So I guess having our sexuality "change" (accepting our sexuality) is pretty normal.

Just my 2 cents worth.

[Fuji]

I think it's a pretty common occurrence!  When I was female, I was sure I was a lesbian, but now I know that I'm more a gay man.  The hardest part was explaining to my family, who I had come out to as a lesbian in high school, why suddenly I was bringing home men, without anyone thinking I was just going through a  "phase" earlier!

My change in attractions is actually what led me to realize that I could love men while being a man, too!

Sexuality is fluid, I think, and you may find that your preferences change as you get older or as your body becomes what you know it's supposed to be.  It seems like you know that it's all okay, so good luck, and take pride in loving and being attracted to whomever you like!

[Amazon D]

I know i am only attracted to women sexually or intimately speaking but i love guys who are what i call luvable lugs or just good decent people like John tesh   

I think attractions don't have to be centered around sex. It may be on younger peoples minds because well you have all those hormones running thru your brains but for me i enjoy a good conversation with a decent man or woman