Married and Transitioning Late in Life. My Story

[Lacey Lynne]

Wow, this is an incredible story Roxy. THANK YOU so much for taking the time to share it. I guess I missed it the first time around.

Anyway, you both are so inspiring. Roxy you inspire me so much to follow my heart and be an open and honest person - you set a great example of that in your own life (after much pain).

Thank you and your wife for sharing your lives with us, I hope to meet you both in person one day.

Ditto that here too, Madelyn.

Mrs. Erocse once said that neither Erocse nor she ever encountered such understanding and affection as they have here at Susan's Place.  Ain't it amazing (O, ye gods of good grammar and scintillating syntax, forgive me!) that we, society's most rejected rejects, are exemplars (generally speaking) of acceptance and encouragement?

No more than 5 minutes ago, my for-now wife was here next to me weeping because aging is affecting her health.  She said through her tears, "Why do we have to get old?"  Well, I told her the only answer to that question I ever heard that "held water" was (You are NOT going to like this!) ... in The Bible.  Sobbing, she replied, "Yeah, ... I know it's true."  and proceeded to cry some more.

So?  What does this have to do with this thread?

Honestly, I think a lot ... a WHOLE lot! 

Doggone if I don't agree with Mrs. Erocse!  She's so right.  This place is about acceptance, kindness, tolerance.  Think about that.  Isn't it the smack-ass opposite of "The Real World?"  I think so.

The dominant culture (worldwide financial-industrial-military complex) is about:   DOMINANCE!  Greed ... competition ... strife.  Any of you who are age 40 or over (if you are being completely honest with yourself) know that this is so.  The dominant culture destroys people, animals, everything ... in the name of profit, power, control. 

Any of you see The Gulf Oil Spill in the U.S.A. live and in person (The one caused by British Petroleum's drilling in deep water.)?  I did ... from 34,000 feet in the air.  Un-freaking-believable!!!  The members of the media are lying sacks of crap.  The damage is off-the-charts devastating. 

The point I'm making is that THIS place, this forum, is a sanctuary and asylum from the hatred, stress and bullcrap of, by and from the dominant culture.  No wonder The Erocse Twins love it here.  No wonder we all love it here.  No wonder we all spend way too much time here.

Yes, you SHOULD make a point of meeting The Ecroses sometime live and in person if you possibly can.  That would be wonderful for you ... and for them!   Make it so!

   Lacey

[some ftm guy]

well.....I'm going to sound like a broken record all over this but...Roxy that really was an amazing story! i was just floored at the car accident part. i always love reading posts from you or Patty because i know they're going to be positive (that sounds weird after how bittersweet your story was but i hope you know what i mean) and that's what's a relief to read and you do the same for others in their posts, people like us don't see as much compassion in our daily lives which is exactly what about half a dozen people said in this thread lol. we'd all hope for a relationship like yours to find us someday. I'm just really glad your both here and that this site is here.

anywho thanks so much for sharing this.

[JessicaH]

I would like to add that it took me several days to respond to the post because I just took me a while to think of something half meaningful to say. I really jest wanted to give you a long hug and say that Im sorry you had to carry that burden for so long. There was such a range of different emotions to the post that it is almost overwhelming.
Thanks again for sharing yourself with us and you will always have friends here.
Lots of live, Stacy.

[erocse]

I would like to add that it took me several days to respond to the post because I just took me a while to think of something half meaningful to say. I really jest wanted to give you a long hug and say that Im sorry you had to carry that burden for so long. There was such a range of different emotions to the post that it is almost overwhelming.
Thanks again for sharing yourself with us and you will always have friends here.
Lots of live, Stacy.

Thanks  everyone. you all are wonderful friends !!!!

Stacy , I know you well and the long hug made me feel very good and brought a tear to my eye. Thank you.

  Hugs and an awkward sway, Roxy

[Stephanie.Izann]

Thanks  everyone. you all are wonderful friends !!!!

Stacy , I know you well and the long hug made me feel very good and brought a tear to my eye. Thank you.

  Hugs and an awkward sway, Roxy

...Hugs are good. 

[alexia elliot]

Late, but how fashionably though :-) Roxy, your story touches deeply in fact it resonates within confines of my psyche. I too lived a similar story with father, a medical professional, freaking out and disowning me to later come back with a plastic apology, for god sake "A MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL".  If he didn't get it then what would layman think. Turns out it truly is up to someones heart, those with light hearts take us in, those with heavy hearts and luggage blame their own demons and label us not worthy their attention because of their own faults and pain. Reading through I could almost see you struggle and deal with pain I so understand.
I am in the midst of comprising a website devoted to helping people cope with psychological and emotional distress of  transgender condition. There I will have a gallery of pictures and stories entitled "Beautiful Transwoman" and would love you to be represented there and your story written. I send all my love to you babe, you are truly beautiful, stay strong.