Hey everyone,
So tonight I went out again. This time I went to see the movie Black Swan at the movie theater in Downtown Disney. The stupid little local theater wasn't showing it and even the Disney theater was only showing it at 2PM and 10PM. Since I was busy making my video blog, I missed the early showing, and I admit I was a bit worried and thought the late hour would mean fewer people and the cover of darkness might help, so I went to the 10PM show. Well, I couldn't have been more wrong. The place was teeming with people and the whole area was well lit. Little kids, teenagers and adults everywhere. So I screwed my courage to the sticking-place and walked out into the night.
Happily, as happened to me last time, nobody seemed to be terribly interested in me and no one gave me a second glance. I was hyper aware of little children as they tend to be the least inhibited members of society. I have vitiligo and I have heard plenty of little kids ask their parents in a loud voice, "Daddy, why does that man have a white spot on his leg?" or something to that effect. Again, nothing, so I was gaining a bit of confidence.
Next came the teenagers. I have been avoiding the mall since I have heard it mentioned here that it can be tough to pass with teenage girls. Well, there was a whole bunch of them all about and teenage boys too, but nobody paid me any mind. So I bought my ticket, went into the very well lit lobby, gave my ticket to the ticket girl and said a few words to her and went to my theater passing adults and teenagers all the way without incident, whispers or giggles. Then I sat down and got lost in the movie. Afterwards, got up and left. No big deal. I did briefly think about using the ladies, but I decided to leave that challenge for next time. I also hope to go to the Disney Parks at some time in the near future. That place is lousy with teenagers (and tons of other people) and I figure if I can pass there, I can pass anywhere. It is my personal Mt. Everest of passing.
Now for the thing I learned. I sat in the car in the parking lot and it was quite late (around midnight). I had the car running and was reading Facebook and Susan's on my iPhone. There was a couple of cars nearby with some guys talking. One swung around and parked in nearer to me and the other left the lot. Two things occurred to me at that time. The first is that they could have hemmed me in fairly easily if they had wanted to and the second thing was that I was a female sitting alone in my car late at night. So after my slow to activate Spidey-Sense told me to just get out of there, that's what I did. I learned that I really need to be aware of my surroundings and remember that my male sense of safety and privilege no longer apply. Yet another lesson learned and I am glad I didn't have to learn it the hard way.
Finally, I have been encouraged with my outings so far and I realized that full-time is probably no longer a matter of "do I pass well enough," but of "am I personally ready for that challenge?" I really wasn't prepared for this to happen so fast for me. Yes, there are things I can improve, but the next few years I will be constantly changing and refining myself. In other words, nothing is holding me back except for me. If you want to see how I look, act and sound, check out my blog. I have posted a couple of videos and hope to have a little running journal of how things are progressing for me.
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,91396.0.htmlSo, time to hit the hay. I will "talk" to all of you tomorrow.