Susan's Place Logo

News:

According to Google Analytics 25,259,719 users made visits accounting for 140,758,117 Pageviews since December 2006

Main Menu

"I'm Curious" Poll - Your Most Dysmorphic Aspects

Started by A, January 17, 2011, 12:05:26 AM

Previous topic - Next topic

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

KillBelle

It's just a curiosity poll...if you are not comfortable then dont waste the extra 5 minutes with a reply.  :-*
  •  

CaitJ

I can't very well remember what my most dysmorphic attributes were; iirc, probably my hair (since I'd been sporting an army buzz-cut for 9 years prior to transition) and my voice (which I'd coached nice and deep and manly so that I didn't sound like a '->-bleeped-<-').
Other than those two things, I don't think I had any major dysmorpic issues once I started living as a woman.
  •  

Devyn

I'm FTM.
Accessories and make-up - 3/10. I don't wear make up, but depending on what it is, it doesn't make me dysphoric. And I wear necklaces and stuff, so accessories, not entirely. Depends on what it looks like and what it is.
Activities - 2/10. I do some girly things, and while it makes me a bit self-conscious, it doesn't make me dysphoric.
Body hair - 1/10. Doesn't really make me dysphoric or euphoric.
Bone size - 2/10. I don't mind it.
Breasts - 9/10. Obvious reasons are obvious.
Facial features - 1/10. I quite like my facial features, to be honest.
Facial hair - 10/10. The fact that i have none.
Fat distribution - 4/10. Eh, not entirely. I've never really noticed.
Friendships - 6/10. I have almost no guy friends. I adore my female friends, but I sure would like to have some male friends.
Gender-specific clothes - 6/10. Yes and no. I mean, I wear a lot of unisex clothes, but I really don't like wearing girl clothes.
Hand and foot size - 2/10. I used to dislike my hands, but now I just don't care. As for foot size, I don't even know the average foot size for a male. Ignorance is bliss, eh?
Head hair - 1/10. I very much like my hair on my head.
Height - 7/10. I'm too damn short.
Hips - 5/10. So so.
Hormone-induced comportments - I don't know what they means...?
Love - 3/10.
Mannerisms and moving - 9/10. I pay attention to the way I walk, sit, and talk at almost all times.
Muscular mass - 9/10. I have none. ;-;
Penis and testes - 9/10. Lack of.
Rib cage - 1/10.
Shoulders 2/10. Not necessarily.
Skin texture, colour and thickness - 2/10. I don't really like how my skin is so soft. I definitely have girl skin.
Voice - 9/10. I try to make it sound lower everyday - all of the time. That's why I carry water and stuff in my backpack for school.
Vulva - 5/10. Yes, but I tend to ignore it.
Adam's Apple - 9/10. I feel like this was left out. I'm always touching my throat to feel if I have an Adam's Apple.
  •  

Sharky

FTM

I'm not good at rating things on a scale of 1-10. I listed them with what's currently bothering me the most at the top, at least the first few are. The bottom half isn't in any order.

Height- I'm 5'4- 5'5 and I hate it. I think this will even bother me more on T and I will want leg lengthening surgery.

Breasts- They are huge. Right now I'm sitting on the couch and my nipples are almost down to my belly button. It takes effort for me to sit up straight just for a single minute. I think I could easily be a solid 5'5 even at night after top surgery. Stretching would help too since I'm extremely inflexible.

Penis and testes- The lack of. If I'm not happy with what I get from T and a meta I will get a phallo.

Vulva- The fact that I have one.

Head hair- I don't like my hair line.   

Facial features- I hate my nose. Getting a nose job is on my to-do list. Kinda iffy about my lips. Not sure if they are masculine or feminine. 

Voice- Doesn't pass at all to me, but I've noticed whenever a girl is impersonating me they make their voice deeper.

Facial hair- Looking forward to it. Sure it will grow in fine with T.

Muscular mass- Nothing some hard work won't fix. Looking forward to T helping out here.

Hand and foot size- According to the Isotoner website I would be a mens traditional M or M/L if it's combined sizing. That would be a women L or L/XL. They still look kinda small to me. I'm a US mens 7.5. I would like bigger feet. Seems like most people's hands and feet grow on T.

Fat distribution- Wish it would leave the thighs. Could use a butt.

Body hair- Already pretty hairy. Not looking forward to more back hair.

Hormone-induced comportments- That's a new word for me. A lot of people mention they are less emotional and easier to anger with T. I already have anger problems. The last time I cried was 7 months ago when my ex tried to guilt trip me back into the relationship, they saved my life shortly before I broke up with them. Besides relationship drama the last time I cried was when my dog died in 2006.

Gender-specific clothes- I used to feel really dysphonic when I was little and forced to shop in the girls section as a kid. Owning clothes that I like makes me feel a lot more comfortable about myself.

Accessories and make-up- In high school I got into the whole piercings and tattoo thing. It made me feel like I had control over my body. Now I don't care for them. I stretched my lobes to 0g and you can still see holes where my other piercings were. When I get my nose job I might have the work on the holes. Going to get laser tattoo removal too.

Activities- My mom and grandmother have always pestered me about my interests. 

Bone size- Guess that's fine.

Friendships- Don't really care about friendship.

Hips- My stomach and thighs stick out more than my hips.

Love- Sometimes being emotionally attached makes me uncomfortable, even with family.

Mannerisms and moving- My mom has always companied about my lack of femininity here.

Rib cage- I've never took notice of my rib cage so I guess it's fine.

Shoulders- I guess their fine.

Skin texture, colour and thickness- I could use a tan and I hate having freckles.
  •  

Shang

I hope I do this right.

I'm FtM/FtA (figuring out).

Major Wish I Had: Penis/testicles. 

The rest is in no order and I'm just going to rate out of a scale of 10 and the higher the number, the more I wish I had it.

Accessories and make-up 2/10 I don't care really about it, though I do like to dress up occasionally.
Activities  0/10 You can keep the "male" activities.  I like my "feminine" activities too much.
Body hair 3/10 I'm not fond of body hair (i.e. chest, back, facial, and leg hair) on anyone.
Bone size 1/10 I never thought about it, but I would prefer a slender shape.
Breasts 0/10 Be gone!
Facial features 1/10 I don't mind being feminine looking.
Facial hair 0/10 No, thank you.
Fat distribution 6/10 I would like to have the fat distribution of a guy, pretty please.
Friendships 1/10 I don't really know what this means.
Gender-specific clothes 4/10 Toughie because many male clothing isn't feminine enough and many female clothing isn't masculine enough.
Hand and foot size 2/10 Danty is nice, not like I have danty anything.
Head hair 2/10 I haven't thought about it.
Height 6/10 Being taller would be nice.
Hips 7/10 Get rid of these large hips!
Hormone-induced comportments ?/10 No idea what this is...
Love ?/10 No idea.
Mannerisms and moving 2/10 Eh...I think most guys look silly when they walk so I really don't want to walk like them.
Muscular mass 4/10 Yeah, that'd be cool.
Penis and testes 10/10 Gimme, gimme, gimme!
Rib cage 1/10 Eh...never thought about it.
Shoulders 1/10 I like slim shoulders.
Skin texture, colour and thickness 1/10 I like smooth, silky skin.
Voice 7/10 I would love a deeper, more masculine voice.  My current voice is very feminine.
Vulva 10/10 Leave me be, beast! xD
  •  

regan

Quote from: Vexing on January 17, 2011, 06:35:18 PM
I can't very well remember what my most dysmorphic attributes were; iirc, probably my hair (since I'd been sporting an army buzz-cut for 9 years prior to transition) and my voice (which I'd coached nice and deep and manly so that I didn't sound like a '->-bleeped-<-').
Other than those two things, I don't think I had any major dysmorpic issues once I started living as a woman.

OMG, after having a short hair cut for so long, it nice to have at least the start of a mop of hair.  :)
Our biograhies are our own and we need to accept our own diversity without being ashamed that we're somehow not trans enough.
  •  

A

Everybody seems to wonder about "hormone-induced comportments". I'm going to exagerate here to make it clear. I'm saying this from the little feedback I got from both sides of HRT I got from what I read and my own experience. It's pretty subjective, but I think at least some of this is true.

Male hormones makes people :

-Less emotional
-More aroused
-More prone to anger
-More active

Female hormones makes people :

-More emotional
-Less aroused
-Less prone to anger
-More calm

So basically, some people express uneasiness with some of these comportments and psychological "symptoms". I believe the most common FTM dislike is emotionalship (whoa what's the word?), while the most common MTF dislike is arousal. I think. Maybe.

Anyway, no matter how (un)accurate my "most"s I think you should be able to understand what I mean.
A's Transition Journal
Last update: June 11th, 2012
No more updates
  •  

Byren

Ok, I'm a pre-transition FTM....

Okay...I made three lists...most wanted (rated by most wanted at top),  most hated, and doesn't matter.

Most Wanted
Voice (this is my biggest stumbling block ^_^;)
Facial features (this too...aheh)
Muscular mass
Height (why, oh why, couldn't i have inherited my dad's genes for this?!)
Penis and testes
Mannerisms and moving
Shoulders
Facial hair (can't wait to grow a soul patch, hehe!)
Gender-specific clothes
Fat distribution
Rib cage
Activities
Friendships
Bone size

Most Hated
Breasts
Vulva (I'll add all the internal bits in here too)
Hips

-Doesn't matter- (no particular order)
Accessories and make-up (never worn it anyway)
Love (no thanks)
Skin texture, colour and thickness
Body hair (again, no thanks)
Hand and foot size (fine how they are)
Head hair (again, fine how it is)
Hormone-induced comportments (er...what?)
"I am imagination. I can see what the eyes cannot see. I can hear what the ears cannot hear. I can feel what the heart cannot feel."
Peter Nivio Zarlenga
  •  

Nygeel

I'm not to sure as to where in my transition I should base this off of. The start of my transition would be considered 14 years ago (when I started wearing clothing exclusive to the gender I currently identify as), 6 years ago (when I started identifying as "not the sex I was assigned at birth), 4 years ago (when I started to try to live full time), or 2 months ago (when I started hormones).

I tend to ignore my body and see it as much more "male" than it is so my issues with myself physically are when I look in a mirror while nude or wearing tight fitting clothing and am faced with the reality of my body not being what I thought. When I'm alone I'm typically okay with myself. I can walk around topless in my bedroom without any discomfort with my chest. I suppose the most major thing I have an issue with is "the red death"/"shark week"/"the monthly curse."
  •  

Nemo

Androgynous FTM - you'll see what I mean soon enough ;)

Okay, I'm not great at rating, so I'll just comment on each one:

Accessories and make-up - I'm not *that* big on accessories, although I would like some jewellery at some point. I'm waiting 'til I get manly enough to get back on the black nail paint ;)
Activities - heh, funny this should come up, just been playing a nice bit of Sonic the Hedgehog ;) Don't bother me that much, if at all
Body hair - thanks to PCOS and/or other issues, I was already pretty hairy pre-T. Wasn't that fussed about getting more, but now it's happening I'm loving it :D
Bone size - it's thanks to Dad I wound up long and thin, so no biggie
Breasts - ugh. They actually don't bother me *that* much in themselves, I just see them as gynecomastia and move on. Except when I remember that I need to bind if I'm to pass, and *especially* in the summer - binder and shirt + hot weather = TORTURE! I wanna go topless like the other guys, damn it >:(
Facial features - I've been told they're quite masculine already ^_^ Only real problem is the eyes, but T is fixing that, slowly
Facial hair - similar to body hair; already had a bit of a 'tache going on before I started T. Now looking forward to the rest of it coming in
Fat distribution - pre-T it didn't bother me that much, since I can eat for England and not put on a pound. Now it bugs the hell out of me, 'cause as it migrates my hips get bigger - so does my stomach, and 'til my surgery's done with I can't do anything to burn it off apart from walk XP
Friendships - this has greatly improved since getting away from the South. Because I fall somewhere in the middle on the gender spectrum (but male enough to identify as one :P), I can get on with both men and women, although I relate better to men. Since a support group member lives just up the road from me, it's just got better ;D
Gender-specific clothes - never been a fan of skirts, although I wore them without complaint when I had to back in the day. Am looking forward to being able to buy some poet shirts and other girly man-stuff ;)
Hand and foot size - doesn't really bother me
Head hair - I kinda like my hair, but shan't worry too much if I go bald
Height - does get to me a bit, although Ronnie Corbett makes me feel a lot better about it ;)
Hips - hate. Ironically I used to have boy's hips before I filled out - now I want them back!
Hormone-induced comportments - HATE. Estrogen messes with my mind, and sends my emotions all over the place. T is actually helping to bring me back into focus and less stressed about things.
Love - wasn't that experienced before transition, and 'cause they were straight relationships with men, they also messed with my mind, so now I'm a little nervy about going into a new relationship. I'd literally be starting from scratch whoever I'm with
Mannerisms and moving - thankfully I got most of that from my dad ^_^
Muscular mass - again, I had a bit of a head-start here, so I'm loving it ;D
Penis and testes - WANT! Would be nice if testes transplants were possible, but anyway...
Rib cage - never really thought about it, TBH
Shoulders - love; I already have quite broad shoulders ^_^
Skin texture, colour and thickness - not really bothered, although it helps with shaving ;)
Voice - oh hell, yes! Can't break soon enough - I've been told I now sound like a teenage boy, but it still gets me read as female sometimes ¬_¬
Vagina - DO NOT WANT. All it's good for is medical stuff and reminding me how stupid I was to keep sleeping with men when it felt wrong XP

As for this:
QuoteI've seen this type of thread on more than one TG forum. So here is my own "I'm Curious" Poll:

Do you feel better about yourself/less dysmorphic or worse/more dysmorphic when you hear/read what other people feel dysmoprhic about?

Do you feel better about yourself/less dysmorphic or worse/more dysmorphic when you participate in this type of poll?

Dunno about the first, but - well, just feels better to offload it somewhere, you know? :)


New blog in progress - when I conquer my writer's block :P
  •  

Lee

Accessories and make-up 8/10 I tried to be girly for about a year before I gave in, and these things remind me of that time.  I also think I look like a guy in drag now if I have to pass as a girl for something.

Activities 2/10 I do a lot of more stereotypically feminine things, but it doesn't really bother me.  The only thing that's gotten to me lately was when a friend of mine and her mother wanted to get together for a "girls luncheon" with my mother and me.

Body hair 1/10 I'm pretty hairy and neither like nor dislike it.  As long as T doesn't turn me into a yeti, I'm good.

Bone size 3/10 I have small hands and wrists, but the rest is okay.

Breasts 9/10 They really just need to go.

Facial features 7/10 My eyes and eyebrows get to me.

Facial hair 1/10 I could probably grow a full beard, but it just kind of annoys me that I have to shave daily.

Fat distribution 5/10 Two words: hourglass figure :/

Friendships 9/10 I'm not out to my friends, so they treat me like a girl.

Gender-specific clothes 8/10 I dread anytime I have to dress in drag.

Hand and foot size 3/10 Tiny, girly hands

Head hair 1/10 I like my hair, and my hairline isn't too bad either.

Height 4/10 5'7", so not too small for a guy.  Still I'd like a few more inches.

Hips 8/10 I really hope T takes them away.  There's a 9" difference between the size of my hips and waist, so no pants fit right.

Hormone-induced comportments  7/10  Once a month I spend a day on top of the world and the next about ready to kill myself.  I can't wait for that to go.

Love 10/10 I just can't date anyone who sees me as a girl.  This will really have to wait until I can pass.

Mannerisms and moving 6/10  I caught myself drinking with my pinky finger up last week.  I do weird girly things like that, and they drive me nuts.

Muscular mass 5/10 Abs and more muscled arms would be nice

Penis and testes 9/10 Less important for me at the moment, but I can't imagine being in a relationship without it.

Rib cage 1/10 It is successfully protecting my innards.  Keep doing your thing rib cage.

Shoulders 3/10 It should be fine if my hips shrink down some.

Skin texture, colour and thickness 6/10 I'm pretty much translucent.

Voice 7/10 Not at all passable

Vulva 2/10 I can't see it, so it isn't there.
Oh I'm a lucky man to count on both hands the ones I love

A blah blog
http://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/board,365.0.html
  •  

Donnie B.

#31
I had to split up accessories and make up, because one makes me super-dysphoric, while the other I love.

I'm a bit of an odd FTM, with, maybe, a drop of androgyne (although I'm not too fond of the term- I know it suits others, but it doesn't really suit me that well).

Born with a male brain, but I tend to have a lot of typically feminine characteristics that come out in my appearance sometimes.

Accessories: [0/10] - I'm a boy in love with every single accessory under the sun. Some of my girl friends are jealous of my vast amount of costume jewelry, in fact.

make-up: [8/10] Especially when I'm forced to put it on to attend something where I'm wearing a dress. I once had a meltdown because I tried wearing lipstick...not fun.

Activities: [9/10] I'm very jealous of my guy friend's activities and want to participate in everything as a guy. It feels very awkward if I attempt to do certain activities that I love as a girl, especially if I'm doing it with guys. I hate feeling like the girl of the guy group.

Body hair: [5/10] I love my hairy armpits and legs. ^^

Bone size: [0/10] I'm not a superman, and I don't really care.

Breasts: [5 (if they grow larger, a 10)/10] There as small as a generic teeny-bit overweight guy's right now, so they don't bother me that much unless someone's forcing me to wear something to accentuate them. If they grow bigger- KILL!

Facial features: [1/10] I'm a "pretty boy", so, I don't mind.

Facial hair: [3/10] I'd like a 5 o'clock shadow, but not having one isn't killing me. Plus, I'm lazy on shaving, so not having facial hair is kind of useful.

Fat distribution: [10/10] GET OFF MY HIPS/THIGHS, FAT! D:

Friendships: [9/10] There are certain moments where I go in my head "I DON'T UNDERSTAND YOU ALL!" when my female friends talk about certain things, and then I want to storm off, but I don't fit in with guys either because I hate being considered the girl-member of the group. There are certainly a few female friends where I don't feel too odd around.

Gender-specific clothes: [10/10] - There are certain t-shirts I may love in the women's section, but I cannot shop there exclusively without going insane. I love the men's section, it's so...monochromatic. :D

Hand and foot size: [1/10] - My feet and hands are big for a woman's body, so I don't mind their presence.

Head hair [?/10] I'm not sure what to put on this one. I HATE having female-styled hair, but I'm not in a hurry to suddenly lose it all thanks to T kicking in.

Height: [4/10] Pretty much all of my male friends are shorter than me, but I highly envy taller guys because some of them have the thin look that I desperately want.

Hips - [10/10] KILL IT NOW.

Hormone-induced comportments - [9/10] I feel like my hormones right now are keeping me in a tiny, teeny little box. I'm highly emotional and sensitive to the point where it hurts sometimes. That's what has kept me from forming a lot of good friendships with guys, which I hate.

Love [?]

Mannerisms and moving - [4/10] I would love to be more masculine, but I am already pretty masculine in my movements.

Muscular mass - [2/10] It would be nice to be a bit more muscular, but it doesn't keep me up at night.

Penis and testes - [4/10] I kind of don't care about a penis and testes (although it would be awesome to be able to aim while in the bathroom), honestly. It would be nice, but my dysphoria isn't so intolerable that it can't be helped with a packer and an STP.

Rib cage [0/10] Don't think about it at all.

Shoulders [0/10] I have wide, wide shoulders. :D

Skin texture, colour and thickness: [0/10] I like/don't care about my skin.

Voice [10/10] There are some moments where it is really deep and masculine, which I love, but then I hear a recording of it and it sound super-high and feminine. I also hate it when it naturally goes into super-high mode in my head, and I sound like a pre-teen girl.

Vulva - [6/10] As long as I don't have to see a picture of a vulva, and no one, including myself, pays attention to mine, I pretend it doesn't exist for the most part.

Wow, I'm actually a lot more generally dysphoric than I thought.
  •  

Wolf Man

It seems most everyone has taken to the "x/10" scaling, I might as well too. I am personally going to list this from least dysphoric to most dysphoric. I am a FTM.

Accessories and make-up – N/A: I have never willingly used such things. Such times I was forced, I was not aware of being transgendered.

Activities – N/A: While I do get paranoid that some people will call me out being female, I am generally assumed gay because I flock and gossip amongst the women. Aside from that, my general activities are typical to males. Some things might be "female" or "male", but generally I think anyone can do anything.

Hormone-induced comportments – N/A: I think this is if I'm already on hormones and I'm not, so yeah.

Love – N/A: Love is love.

Rib cage – N/A: Nothing wrong with mine or anyone's as far as I'm aware.

Body hair – 0/10: I have enough to suffice and I'm happy with that.

Bone size – 0/10: I am a pretty big guy and I think I am only helped by my bone size.

Hand and foot size – 0/10: I have big hands and feet. 

Head hair – 0/10: I am a bit of a drama queen with my hair, but it's just crazy sometimes! Otherwise it's hair, it's thick, I like it.

Friendships – 0/10: Once I meet people as male, things are fine. Even my regular friendships are well off with my transition.

Muscular mass – 0/10: I may not be the most muscular, but what little muscle I do have I have always relished and still think
that I'm "buff" :P I plan on getting beefy on T.

Shoulders – 0/10: Mine are wider than my hips! :D

Height – 1/10: I am a roughly average sized Hispanic. My dad is 5'11" and I am 5'8". I wish I was taller, but I'm happy that I'm not shorter.

Facial features – 1/10: I am occasionally shot down with the belief that I look no more than female, but it's rare.

Breasts – 2/10: While they are small and I generally view them as moobs, I have recently been taken more aback my their existence.

Facial hair – 3/10: I have some thickened up by what I'm suspecting is PCOS, but I have no diagnosis. It's mostly in the 'stache area, the sideburns and the neck. I shave because of my job, but I don't worry about it terribly. I just don't want the "boy" look.

Skin texture, colour and thickness – 3/10: I do worry that my skin is too soft to be male. A guy at work has soft hands like I do and he's pretty manly; really tall and hairy, deep voice. So while I worry about myself, I know I'm not alone.

Fat distribution – 4/10: I am fat, so I can deal with it generally. I do not enjoy the fat that is going to my hips and thighs!

Mannerisms and moving – 4/10: I am generally aware of what I'm doing because while I have unknowingly developed male ways through my life, I still have some female things that I picked up from being with the girls. This leads people to, again, think that I am gay.

Gender-specific clothes – 5/10: I am generally afflicted by my hips in clothing and freak about what I'm wearing and how it makes me look.

Vulva – 5/10: While I have issues, I don't have issues. It's a body part that I have to deal with regularly and I can handle that. When it comes to actually thinking about it, it becomes a sort of malformed piece of myself. I guess it's sort of like and hate.

Hips – 6/10: I hate them. I really hope it's just fat... and not permanent bone.

Voice – 7/10: I am afflicted by this, specifically at work where I am constantly talking. I have an androgynous male voice and that works for me, but it can come up well into the female range which sometimes happens. Sometimes I'll walk away from saying something to someone and kick myself because I can hear the female tone that it was said with.

Penis and testes – 10/10: This is only recently and I mean extremely recent. For some reason within the last week or two I have been put down so much by the fact that I have nothing in my pants. I was scoping out crotches at work yesterday and for every man I see, it was apparent to me that he had a bulge. Even the smallest hump was more than the flattened fabric of my work pants. I am getting ready to buy a new packer to pack with since my old one is a bit beat up.

I am made more aware of this with my girlfriend. While she prefers me without a penis (due to past experiences) she has been with a boy before and I just feel unworthy. I feel like it's such a big thing to be missing. We want a family eventually and I am physically unable to provide her with one. I will never be able to "spread my seed" into this world and carry on my bloodline.

Another thing is going to restroom. This makes it so terribly easy and normal, while I just sit. I sit because I'm a little big which makes STPs a little hard to maneuver. I try, but I feel like I'm trying so hard for something that just won't go right. So, I sit.

I don't know why it's become such a big hurdle, but it has and I hate it.
I'll be there someday, I can go the distance
I will find my way, If I can be strong
I know every mile, Will be worth my while

When I go the distance, I'll be right where I belong
  •  

Britney♥Bieber

Accessories and make-up 0/10 I love it!
Activities 2/10 Can't think of any activity that causes a lot of dysphoria. Maybe showering
Body hair 5/10 It used to be 100 but thanks to hrt I swear its thinning out! :D
Bone size 0/10 This doesn't bother me, yet anyways :(
Breasts 3/10 I'm so close to an A cup, I might even be one who knows But I LOVE my boobs, only problem is they grow too slow lol.
Facial features 3/10 I don't think my face has many male features. My chin and hairline are the same as my mom and sisters. But I hate my nose!
Facial hair 8/10 omg I hate shaving so bad. I wanna cry when I see my face hair growing in :(
Fat distribution 0/10 I'm not happy with my body fat etc right now but its not a dysphoric thing, its a bitch lose weight thing lol.
Friendships 3/10 I get really jealous of my bestie when she tells me about her dates and stuff. If I was born right, I would be going on dates too :(
Gender-specific clothes 4/10 It really bugs me to not have female clothing. But most of my clothing are androgynous and I still pass.
Hand and foot size 3/10 too wide. but we all got my moms wide hands/feet
Head hair 8/10 probably my biggest cause of dysphoria! I've wanted long hair all my life omg. :(
Height 0/10 I like my height :)
Hips 2/10 I think my hips are getting wider, in appearance anyways.
Hormone-induced comportments (Feel really dumb, not sure what this means lol)
Love 0/10 I'm not in love but its not causing dysphoria =/
Mannerisms and moving 0/10 I like my mannerisms. I've been told I've always acted like a girl and not a gay guy lol.
Muscular mass 0/10 haha the tiny bit of definition I naturally had on my  arms seems to be gone! lol.
Penis and testes 0/10 Weird right? Thing is, I just ignore it. I pee, I get orgasms, I hide it. Thats it. I think I'm more pissed off by the lack of vagina rather than the presence of a penis
Rib cage 4/10 I feel like this is gonna get worse if I lose weight, because it seems big and makes my boobs look smaller idk =/
Shoulders 2/10 I felt worse about them before but my friend Niki is almost as wide :D
Skin texture, colour and thickness 0/10 I love my skin :)
Voice 5/10 gahhh my voice needs to GOOOO =/
Vulva 10/10 =/

rejennyrated

Ok I have had a go at this but I have had to simplify it because basically for me it boiled down to just three categories - a few things all of which were of total importance and were indeed all equally vital. A few that I was mostly ok with but had some regrets over and then the rest - which were complete non issues because I was fortunate enough to have had pretty well what I wanted since day one of childhood.

Things which bothered me immensely – Kind of ALL of them were of 100.00% importance!

Vulva it should have been there from day one. SRS fixed it.
Ovaries vagina the fact that I will never have properly working ovaries used to really distress me.
Penis and testes I hated them and got rid of them as soon as I could in SRS.
Breasts When in puberty they stopped at mere gynecomastica I was distraught. HRT fixed them.
Facial hair thankfully I didn't have much but I hated what I had. Electrolysis fixed it.

I had some small issues with these things but not massively so – they are kind of like 30% importance

Hips would have liked them broader but thankfully they were broader than some males
Bone size I am not massively boned but I would like to be more delicate
Shoulders maybe could be a touch smaller but no real issues
Facial features My face is just fractionally more masculine than my ideal, but not excessively so I can live with it.

I have never had any issues what so ever with any of these

Voice It didn't break properly anyway – so it's fine
Body hair I have very little of this – so no problem
Fat distribution Always quite feminine so no problem
Rib cage no issues
Mannerisms and moving Well I grew up kind of gender neutral so these are fine
Muscular mass No issues – I haven't got any
Accessories and make-up Cant be bothered with these. I was allowed to do it as much as I liked in my childhood and teens and so like many girls I kind of lost interest in it.
Activities Always fairly female and anyway I'll do what I want irrespective of gender expectations.
Friendships Mostly female.
Gender-specific clothes I have always worn exactly what I wanted.
Hand and foot size Both Small – no problem.
Head hair Adequate. I wish it wasn't going grey now though.
Height I'm ok.
Hormone-induced comportments no problems.
Love I've done very well. 23 years in a loving relationship so I've done better than many.
Skin texture, colour and thickness Thin skin, porcelain, and pale peaches and cream.

All in all I had very little that was really important and all except the ovaries were fixed. :)
  •  

Janet_Girl

Most Hated
Facial hair - Work in progress.
Penis and testes -  The latter has been dealt with.
Hips - Boy type is not acceptable
Head hair - Still have some areas that are way to thin.
Fat distribution - None.  Total failure.

Tolerable
Body hair
Bone size
Facial features
Hand and foot size
Shoulders
Skin texture, colour and thickness

Acceptable
Accessories and make-up
Activities
Breasts
Friendships
Gender-specific clothes
Height
Hormone-induced comportments
Love
Mannerisms and moving
Muscular mass
Rib cage
Voice


Most Needed
Vulva - This is the most required.  Failure is not an option.  Will result in heart failure if not accomplished.


  •  

GinaDouglas

MTF, age 50

10 Unbearable dysmorphia
Body hair
Breasts

9 Extreme
Vulva

8 Substantial
Accessories and make-up
Friendships
Gender-specific clothes
Hormone-induced comportments
Love
Penis and testes

7 Significant
Fat distribution
Activities
Mannerisms and moving
Shoulders

6 Uncomfortable
Voice
Facial features

5 Constant annoyance
Head hair
Hips

4 Frequent
Muscular mass
Rib cage

3 Common
Bone size
Height

2 Rarely
Hand and foot size

1 Seldom
Skin texture, colour and thickness

0 Never




It's easier to change your sex and gender in Iran, than it is in the United States.  Way easier.

Please read my novel, Dragonfly and the Pack of Three, available on Amazon - and encourage your local library to buy it too! We need realistic portrayals of trans people in literature, for all our sakes
  •  

Nikolai_S

Interesting... Here are mine, as well as I can remember from early transition. I'm FTM.

Accessories and make-up - 3/10 - I like accessories like necklaces, bracelets just made me feel femme. Makeup I didn't mind by itself, but I did't like what it did to my face. Same problem with eyeliner. I liked it, but not pre-T.
Activities - 2/10 - I was fine with everything I was doing, but being shoved into all-girls situations made me really mad. Luckily, that was very rare, so it's still a low score.
Body hair - 3/10 - Need more. The day I get actual chest hair... I will be pleased.
Bone size - 3/10 - My wrists are tiny (5 3/4 inches around). So are my hands. I get self conscious about that.
Breasts - 9/10 - Them just existing is bad enough, but then they have to go and move around.
Facial features - 7/10 - I really hated how soft they looked and how hard they made it to pass. My round cheeks and non-existent chin.
Facial hair - 2/10 - It would be nice to have a bit of a mustache, but being clean shaven suits me well.
Fat distribution - 10/10 - Causing hips, butt, moobage, tiny waist, chunky thighs. Argh.
Friendships - 5/10? - The gender distribution was fine with me, but not having real friends wasn't/isn't.
Gender-specific clothes - 2/10 - They cause problems with passing, and I don't like the way jeans cling. Dresses are awkward. But I don't mind the idea of cross-dressing.
Hand and foot size - 5/10 - As I said, tiny hands. Tiny feet, too. My size doesn't exist in stores outside of the kid's section, and a few in the women's. Sometimes. Actually, they're so small that they just look like kid hands and feet rather than girls' hands and feet, so it's lessened.
Head hair - 1/10 - Occasionally having a more female hairline bugs me, as well as having fluff in front of my ears. But it's not bad or usual.
Height - 6/10 - I'm almost 5'4" and not pleased with it. I could get over it, except when combined with my figure.
Hips - 10/10 - They're big and always will be. It's not a fat problem in my case, it's bone. I have an exceptionally wide pelvis. Especially when combined with my height, it's ridiculous. Nearly impossible to hide, and when I do, I look shorter.
Hormone-induced comportments - 9/10 - I hated menstruation and the mood swings that came with estrogen in my system. When my girl hormones were especially bad, I felt weak, overemotional, helpless, foggy, and lethargic. Those fueled my gender related panic attacks to become even worse.
Love - 2/10 - I've worried about it, but in practice it hasn't presented a major obstacle. I'll probably always have insecurities that will make a relationship with a man slightly more difficult, though.
Mannerisms and moving - 6/10 - Mannerisms are a 1 or 2. I don't care about coming off as flamboyant. However, my pelvis affects my movement big time. Unless I am very, very actively concentrating on walking, I have to choose between leaning butch lesbian or leaning super-gay.
Muscular mass - 4/10 - I've always wanted more muscle/strength, but it's not a big deal that I don't have it. I'm pretty introverted and geeky.
Penis and testes - anywhere from 3/10 to 6/10 depending on the day - I don't feel dysphoric about them almost constantly like I do about some other things (like hips), and I don't have a phantom. I do however, enjoy packing, and I'd feel much more comfortable sexually if I had a penis. It's more a matter of being sad that I lack one, rather than panicking that I don't.
Rib cage - 0/10 - Never think about it.
Shoulders - 2/10 - They're fairly slim, but I really like my neck and collarbone so I'll give it a pass.
Skin texture, colour and thickness - 6/10 - The longer I went with soft skin, the more I hated it. The longer I am on T, the more I appreciate it's new texture and thickness. Having it change has made all of my body parts more bearable, because they're covered in it.
Voice - 9/10 - Thankfully, more a 5/10 now. But I've had a history of suddenly becoming aware of my voice and then refusing to speak. I went through a stage when I was 11 or 12 when I remained silent for as long as possible because I had just realised the horrible truth - as high as it sounded in my head, it was worse in reality. I don't like it squeaking. It's made me self-conscious, anxious, and instantly self-hating when I've noticed it.
Vulva - 3/10 - I don't like it, and it's pretty much useless. I mean, I get off more easily from my other hole anyway. But I rarely notice it's down there anyway.

Seems like several of mine are far from the norm, especially by being so apathetic about my genitals.
  •  

Silver

Primary Sexual Characteristics (Both presence and lack of. They bother me enough I'd prefer not to name them XD.)
Hips.
Other girly aspects of my frame (I'm quite small framed with thin bones. Small hands etc. On the short side but not terribly so.)
Face that isn't quite manly as it could be.

Besides that, I think I'm okay with everything else.
  •  

KillBelle

Quote from: Lance M. on January 31, 2011, 10:47:26 PM

Vulva - i HATE my vagina hole, but the vulva outer part actually doesn't bug me. when it's itchy i pretend i'm scratching my balls. :laugh:

That's hella gangster lool
  •