passing :)

[sortofyes]

I don't post often, but I just want to share my happy stories with you guys because I'm pre-t and still insanely overexcited by the little things, and I told my friends (only some of which I'm out to) and they were happy that I was happy but confused as to how I don't see passing as embarrassing.  At least I know their hearts are in the right place (places?).

A new semester started yesterday at my high school and I only started one new class (Psychology) as the rest are year-long.  I wasn't sure what to do about telling the teacher, because I didn't write letters to any of my other teachers at the beginning of the year explaining the situation, and I don't want to confuse anyone too horribly.  I just walked into the room, feeling all confident with my best flannel shirt on, and sat down in the back corner near the noisy air vents where I belong  .  Then a boy, sitting on top of a desk and pretty much putting on a comedy act for people as they walked in (evidently our class clown), turns to me and says "Hey, bro, I got the same flannel as you," and then we worked out a schedule to ensure we wouldn't wear it on the same day.  I have been "sir"ed before by many vision-impaired grandparents, but I have never been "bro"ed.  It was a great feeling, and the rest of the class seems to be following his lead.  I think this says something about psychology or maybe sociology but I don't know because we've barely started the class yet. 

Then today in another class, as we were picking numbers out of a hat and the teacher absolutely insisted that "ladies go first", I was planning on waiting for that gap in between the last girl and first boy so I could slip in there and not feel quite so awkward.  The last girl went, then he hovered over to a group of boys, and all the while I was standing in the noisy air vent corner next to a male classmate and we both had the dumbest grins on our faces.  The teacher was very embarrassed and mumbled something about forgetting I was there.   


Sorry if I typed too much.  Coffee, you know.

If you have any passing experiences that left you so happy you can't stand to keep it to yourself, happily post them here and I'll be happy to share in your happiness.

[Espenoah]

I love moments like that, and they were even better when they happened before coming out to anyone. Your first story was especially cool.

I had a moment today too...I was taking a test I was absent for out in the hallway because the rest of the class was correcting it in the classroom. I was just sitting there, minding my own business, when this freshman poked his head out of a class down the hall, took a look at me, called out "Sissy boy!" and quickly ducked back in. I knew it was directed towards me because I was the only soul in the hallway.

There's no doubt that he meant it as an insult, but it made my day, because that meant I've been passing to people in my school all year. Not to mention it was really funny and random.

[emil]

digging these stories:D

here's what happened to me yesterday:
i'm in this elective college class where i'm not out to anyone (because frankly i don't know these people and don't care much about what they think)...anyways, had to go to the bathroom before class and those are right next to the classroom, so if someone had seen me walk out of the men's room that would have been awkward, so i went to the ladies'. Funny thing was, someone had rearranged the letters on the sign next to the restroom door, (it was a german sign, the original word was "damen" and they turned it into "maden" which means "maggots" but also begins with the same letters as the german word for "men's").
So when i walked back out there's this guy standing outside the bathroom, staring at the sign, and looking real clueless as to which bathroom this is. He sees me walking out, feels reassured, and heads into the ladies room as well

most of my passing stories are even more akward/funny than that though

Once I wanted to pay with my debit card at a grocery store (the card has my old name on it) and the cashier said "this is not your card!". She sort of mumbled it the first time so I just asked "hum?" and she's like "Is this YOUR card?" and I'm just like "um-hum." ...but she looked at me like I was a kid criminal (but would still let me pay with the debit card, i guess she just didn't want to throw a scene )

Another time I picked up a parcel at the post office and it was send to me under my female name, let's say "jennifer smith" - the clerk said "it's for "jennifer smith. i hope your last name is smith as well or else i won't be able to hand it to you, son."

The latter two happened right after i got my haircut when i really didn't expect anyone to read me as male...so the positive shock helped me over the embarrassment of the situations

[xAndrewx]

Once I wanted to pay with my debit card at a grocery store (the card has my old name on it) and the cashier said "this is not your card!". She sort of mumbled it the first time so I just asked "hum?" and she's like "Is this YOUR card?" and I'm just like "um-hum." ...but she looked at me like I was a kid criminal (but would still let me pay with the debit card, i guess she just didn't want to throw a scene )

I've been passing for a long time so no real stories but just wanted to tell you all congrats on passing! It's an awesome feeling

Also the above happens to me constantly! I haven't changed my name yet but got a credit card a while back and every time I use it they are like "Is the card owner with you?" So I mumble it's me and they go on and on about how they need my ID and another form of ID (thank god for my old work ID) and even then they still stare at me like a criminal. And of course they have to announce it loudly so that I can be outed to the whole store.

[emil]

Also the above happens to me constantly! I haven't changed my name yet but got a credit card a while back and every time I use it they are like "Is the card owner with you?" So I mumble it's me and they go on and on about how they need my ID and another form of ID (thank god for my old work ID) and even then they still stare at me like a criminal. And of course they have to announce it loudly so that I can be outed to the whole store.

yeah, when it happened i switched to paying cash wherever i go unless i know it's one of those places where they'll have you enter your pin code in which case they don't pay attention to the name.
what you can do, however, is get a credit card that has your picture on the back (i know visa does it for an extra $5 per year) and then you can tell them what i told one cashier once who asked about the name "oh it IS my card, see the picture on the back? it's an icelandic name, i know it sounds like a girls name round here."....my name sounds nowhere near icelandic, it just sounds like a common girls name, but then again i wouldn't know, and neither does anyone else. the finnish also have very "different" names so you might also say it's a finnish name...

[FebruaryFalls]

i went to a formal dance event with my girlfriend last month and I went completely guy (shirt, tie, pants) and I had a great time, but the next day a bunch of people were asking her who the guy she was with was. So that felt nice

[sortofyes]

great stories. sometimes awkward, but great.

emil, i'll bet that guy was confused when he walked in and there was a absence of urinals and one too many pad dispensers for it to be the men's room.

and FebruaryFalls, that had to have felt awesome. can you tie a tie by yourself? i definitely can't. 

[Michael Joseph]

Haha yesterday I had to go to see a general advisor because something happened with my financial aid, and all my classes got dropped. She asked me for my student ID number so that she could help me reasign my classes. I gave it to her, and my and birth name and information popped up and she goes "thats the wrong number this cant be you." I just kind of looked down and mumbled yes it is.. And she was still shocked, and she goes "oh reallly??" I was like yes it IS me. It got embarassing for a minute but after that it wasn't awkward anymore.

Just before that I was sitting outside the door waiting for my turn. There was a line of people and I was sitting next to two girls. They were talking about something and I overheard and it made me start laughing. Then the girl right next to me looked at me, pointed to me and said to her friend "see he agrees with me!" And that night I passed at work to multiple people who called me sir even after I talked, so something is working where I am passing better for my age, and its making me really happy

[Make_It_Good]

These stories are always great to read

[Sly]

Yeah, I've got one.

A while ago I came out to my old friends, at a party.  It went over really well, they're all great and accepting people.  A girl I didn't know overheard me telling them, and later asked me "So if you're transsexual, does that mean you want to be a girl?"  A little more personal and invasive than I like from people I don't know, but it was kind of cool that she didn't believe me at first when I told her it was the other way around.

[little_green]

Yeah I need to get a new ID pronto.  Had a bouncer look really confused and nearly not let me in. Had to lift up my hat and say, look! the eyebrows are the same!