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Started by babykittenful, January 18, 2011, 08:40:52 PM

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babykittenful

Greetings to all of you folks.

Since there is this great opportunity for me to introduce myself to the community of "Susan's Place", I'll try to make good use of it for you to know a bit about myself.

First and foremost, you can call me Babykittenful, or Kitten, or Kitty if you like! I identify as transsexual girl, although if you were to cross me in the street, you'd certainly see me as a quite normal lad with long hair. I live in the great frenchy city of Montréal in Canada, where I live the very frenchy life of 20 y-o trans girl struggling with gender identity.

As I have previously said, I have pretty much lived my whole life as a boy and even identified as one in the past. However, in the last 2-3 years, I've started to seriously examine that desire that I have always seemed to have to live as a girl. I started exploring the world wide web in search of clues of what was going on in my head and I ended up learning a lot about transsexualism. As I learned more, this apparently innocent desire slowly became a growing aching inside my head that nearly drove me to madness.

Right now, I am in the process of finding out what is right for me. Maybe transition isn't the solution to my gender crisis, but I really feel like I need to get to the bottom of what I am feeling. I am currently seeking psychological support regarding this question, but I feel that I need to get to know some people who might be experiencing similar problems.

So then, I'm pretty much thrilled at the idea of being accepted by this community and seriously hope to meet some good folks who might actually help me on my quest for a balanced life!
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Jacquelyn

Welcome to Susan's, Kitty!

You sound like an intelligent and caring individual, I am sure you will fit in quite well here at Susan's. This forum is filled with individuals who will be more than eager to help you in your quest to discover who you are.


I look forward to reading more posts from you! See you around the forum. :)


Hugs,
Jacquelyn
"Love is in fact so unnatural a phenomenon that it can scarcely repeat itself, the soul being unable to become virgin again and not having energy enough to cast itself out again into the ocean of another."

~James Joyce
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Janet_Girl

Hi Kitty, :icon_wave:

Welcome to our little family. Over 5000 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.

Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.

But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another sister. :icon_hug:

And be sure to check out these links ( MUST READS )


Hugs and Love,
Janet
   
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justmeinoz

Hello and welcome.  Lots of nice people and good info here. 


"Don't ask me, it was on fire when I lay down on it"
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babykittenful

Thank you for welcoming me, I'm pretty sure I'll come to like this place a lot.

Jaquelyn, I'm really pleased that you took the time to welcome me here, and I'll make sure to be worthy of this warm welcome. Janet, thanks for the welcoming and I made sure to read the links you provided to me and I accept everything that is there. I like how well organized things seems to be around here and I am sure that this make for a great mood in the forum, with everything so clear and cut, yet very respectful of everyone's path. Justmeinoz... well, I'm looking forward to seeing that!

See you all under different post!
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Jillieann Rose

Hello Kitten,
I'm glad to meet you.
To be proper I should at least tell you something about myself too.
I'm what they call a late bloomer. I was in my 50's when it really begin to dawn on me that I had gender problems.
Oh, when I was young I wanted to grow up to be a women. Later I dismissed that idea figured it was silly kids thinking.
I now remember many times from my youth until now when I acted out my gender issues.
Now I know and I'm transitioning in the later years of my life.
It so good to meet someone young like you who is already aware that they are trans.
Welcome to Susan's Kitten,
Jillieann
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annette

Hi Kitty

welcome to the forum honey.
Whatever the solution for you may be, take your time to decide for yourself.
A lot of people are and were having the same doubts you have right now, that's quite normal coz it's a big step who will change your whole life.
The question about your balanced life.....well it's hard to give any advice coz nobody can look inside your head.
One day you find out yourself...your feeling tells you how to deal with it.
In the mean time you have friends around here to support you.
I'm looking forward to read your future posts.

hug
annette
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babykittenful

Hey Jillieann, I'm pleased to hear about you. You are right that the temptation is high to dismiss the feelings that I have for "silly thinking". After all, in the society we grow into, particularly 40 or 50 years ago, but even still today, wanting to be of the other gender is not seen as something a normal person would wish for. I think to most important thing is to be true to ourselves.

Annette, thank you for welcoming me, it's good that you took the time to give me your view on my situation. I know that in order to gain a balanced life, the only person who can know what is good for me is myself. However, I feel that being actively researching every possibility and talking to many people with similar situation will certainly be a more positive way of achieving it then just staying silently in ignorance. And there is the reason for my presence here ^^

Looking forward to read all of you!
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Fuji

Hi Kitty, and welcome!  I'm new to Susan's this week as well.  So far everyone has been friendly and supportive and I'm sure you'll find the same.

Good luck with exploring your identity and options.  Remember to listen to your body, and don't forget that your gender, your sex, and you sexuality do not have to align.  For me, my gender is female, but my sex is (should be/will be) male, so a full transition is not right for me right now.  It sounds like you are wondering if transition is right for you, too. As long as you remember that you don't have to fit into an extreme, I think you'll find your journey much more comfortable.  But if you want to be female and feminine, or male and masculine, that's great too! Just remember to listen to what your body and heart are telling you.  You will get support here no matter what you discover about yourself.

Best wishes, and see you around!
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Jessica B

      Kitty,

       A pleasure to meet you and welcome to the community!  It is always a pleasure to have another well spoken individual such as yourself join!  I wish you the best of luck in your self exploration.

        Respectfully,
        -Violet

Respectfully,
-Jessica Baker
Twisted Ivy

"Without deviation from the norm, progress is not possible"
-Frank Zappa
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jennajane

Hi Kitty, welcome to Susan's.  I also live in Montréal, but am originally from Alberta.  I pushed the gender dysphoria away until I was 32, then I finally decided it wasn't going to go away so I decided to deal with it.  In the end I found transition was my solution.  Fast-forward 2 years and I am now coming up to 2 months full-time and have not doubted my choice for moment. 

If you have some questions about the process and resources available in Montréal, please feel free to ask, I have gotten to know my way to navigate through the community, or at least figured out who to ask.

Je parle Français aussi, mais c'est ma deuxième langue. 
bonne chance!
Jenna
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babykittenful

Hey! It's great that so many people are actually taking the time to welcome me here! It's nice to meet you too Violet! Fuji, I agree with you that full transition might not be the one size fit all solution to all gender problems. I think it's a good thing, given the whole diversity of personalities and results that this allows, but I also feels like this complicates everything for me when trying to figure things out! I really wish to get in touch with myself, but I feel like this is a hard thing to do. It's so easy to get influenced by everything that is around you. Right now, I have a feeling that I want to be a complete girl. Is this the right way to go? No idea...

Jenna, I'm really glad about your offer, because I was really wondering about the possibility of contacting a support group for transsexuals around Montreal. I feel like there is a lot of questions that I would like you to answer, so it is quite possible that you will hear of me again in the future! Do you know if there is anyone else from Montreal here?
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Jillieann Rose

Kitten,
Take your time figuring out how far you want and need to go as far as your gender issues.
It took me awhile after I realized I was transgender.
First I was a cross dresser and than I thought I had both a male and female personality and finally I realized I was a transsexual. Next part was to try to suppress it or move forward in transitioning.
Now all of this took me a over 3 years to get too.
Therapy help allot but also talking to other here, researching and the fun part exploring.
So take your time and you will discover what you need to do hon.
Hugs,
Jillieann
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babykittenful

Quote from: Jillieann on January 22, 2011, 05:08:17 PM
Kitten,
Take your time figuring out how far you want and need to go as far as your gender issues.
It took me awhile after I realized I was transgender.
First I was a cross dresser and than I thought I had both a male and female personality and finally I realized I was a transsexual. Next part was to try to suppress it or move forward in transitioning.
Now all of this took me a over 3 years to get too.
Therapy help allot but also talking to other here, researching and the fun part exploring.
So take your time and you will discover what you need to do hon.
Hugs,
Jillieann

Thanks Jullieann, this is exactly what I am looking forward to ^^
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jennajane

Quote from: babykittenful on January 21, 2011, 04:21:19 PM
Jenna, I'm really glad about your offer, because I was really wondering about the possibility of contacting a support group for transsexuals around Montreal. I feel like there is a lot of questions that I would like you to answer, so it is quite possible that you will hear of me again in the future! Do you know if there is anyone else from Montreal here?

I haven't noticed others from Montreal here.  I have one friend that is on occasionally.  I am sure there are more.  Lots of the francophone transgirls tend to aggregate around the ATQ here in Montreal.  They meet every Tuesday and talk about trans related things.  I have been a couple of times, but not often.  If you have questions ask away, PM, or PM me and I can send you my email too.

Jenna
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