My ex would always sew pockets in any new pants or skirt or dress she bought. (One time she measured wrong and put them about mid-thigh.

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You're right, Roxy, it can be the little things that can get you down. I tell my friends that this is just a very complex process. But each little thing can also add to the wonderful sense of accomplishment.
My favorite purse is a Brighton, too. It has a 20" strap that I can put on my shoulder or hold in my hand. When I carry it on my shoulder, I often hold my upper arm against my body with the purse behind me, kind of clamped on. I think that as your body changes from the E (less upper-body muscle) and with practice it gets easier and more natural. I've never had one of the medium-strap purses slide off but have had long-strapped ones do it.

And I think Roxy is a fitting name.

- Kate