Do not lie to yourself, your transgender hurts your kids

[kate durcal]

Hi, Metta Zenda,

Beautiful story, and well composed, thanks for sharing your experiences.

Kate

[Anatta]

Hi, Metta Zenda,

Beautiful story, and well composed, thanks for sharing your experiences.

Kate

Kia Ora Kate,

You're welcome! And I hope you and others will enjoy this gift...

 

I've added this to another topic I did, then thought it would also complement your interesting topic...

Happy Mindfulness

Metta Zenda

[envie]

Does anybody knows if there as organization that will send an speaker to a local library or school. Do you think that the school system would allow an speaker on this topic? thought? Ideas?

do search on local LGBT support center, or organization and ask them what they suggest. Or look for regional LGBT advocates.
The only way to find out if the school or library would organize an educational event would be to ask them. But I would suggest you look for the advocates or talk to regional LGBT support center first as they might give a call to the school principal and appear more official and professional. The response is always different when someone calls who has an organization behind. I like your proactivity Kate, keep it up even if these great Ideas happen to fail!

best of luck!

[envie]

Hey Kate,

check this link out:  http://www.sarahhoffmanwriter.com/2011/05/6-parents/?utm_source=twitterfeed&utm_medium=facebook&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+SarahHoffman+%28Sarah+Hoffman%29&utm_content=FaceBook

This woman Sara has a "Pink Boy" for a son and she has been reaching out to various people to counteract the bulling of her son at school. You might find it resourceful if you intend to contact your children's teachers or school principal.

p.s. Pink Boys means he is a boy but possibly although not necessarily gay. Just non conforming to the gender stereo type as well. i.e. liking dolls and such.

[foreverstar]

My children are very supportive. One son will defend me to death, the other one supports me but keeps distance from the issue. Both of my daughters support me but are very adamant about keeping their "Dad." All are teen angers or early 20's.

I have been open and upfront to them since they were young, and yes they support and understand, but contrary to what meany Ts/TGs post say, they do suffer from being teased by neighbor kids and school mates. This feels me sorrow, shame, and anguish. We should acknowledge this fact and talk about ways to mitigate this injustice

Kate D

Sweet heart take it from someone who was bullide her whole life at school. If there not bullide for having a TG parent it would of been cause there two skinny... or two fat. Or have a funny nose or there eyes are "wrong." kids are cruel and some are raised by parents woth issues.
Sorry being trans has nothing to do with it I will one day be a gay parent and I know if my kids arn't bullide for that even if I was "normal and staight" they would have been bullide for something else. It dosen't hurt kids anymore then anything else in everyday life does. 

[sowisa]

Here is my take on the effect my partners transition will have on our children; In the short term they will potentially get teased. They may have unpleasant encounters with bigots. We regularly talk to them about how to handle, in a positive manner,  negativity thrown their way.
In the long term, though, they will gain much. They will learn to defend themselves and what they believe in. They will learn to be open minded, open hearted, accepting individuals with the ability to stand up in the face of adversity. Who could ask for a better skill set for their children?