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Do you conform to the sterotype?

Started by Gadgett, January 29, 2011, 12:53:43 PM

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Gadgett

I've always known I was "different" from the other boys on the playground and it's caused me a lot of problems in life with friends, family, ect. Now that transition is on the horizon I still find that I still like boyish type things. I collect 80s toys like RBB and MLP but I still love my Transformers and Heman figuines. *I guess that would make me a tomboy in a sense*. Because of this I've people telling me that I'm not really TG and just confused.

Fact is I know who I am and who the real me is. I just happen to not fit EVERY feminine stereotype.

So my question is thus.

Do any of you still find yourself enjoy boyish things and do you think someone has to fit every stereotype in order to be a "true" TG?
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Nilisa

Do I fit into the dresses-and-ponies since I was 3/4 stereotype? Nope, not in the slightest.

My issues really began to manifest maybe at around 15-16, with the worst starting a year or two ago. I don't think I'm the pretty 'n' pink sort of feminine, either, but I can't say I've had much room to spread my wings.

Edit: Sorry, completely forgot the question:
Yes and no. In terms of gaming, I seem to have moved towards genres that appeal more to women (Or are marketed more towards them) but overall I still enjoy some of the things I began liking 'as a male'.

Being TG is irrelevant to what you like, though. Just because I might be TG, it doesn't mean I have to like stereotypical TG things or act like a woman. I'm still me, and I'm just not a flowery person. If I transition, I hope I'd still be me but just with a more correct body.
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Janet_Girl

I am just my kind of woman.  I still play some video games.  I would on my car.  I also still like my horror movies and sci fi.   If that makes me a bit "tomboyish" then so be it.   ;D

I don't think there is a stereotypical female.  My ex, a GG, still does construction.
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MarinaM

I love flowers and dresses, hiking, insects, fire, dirt, and defying death. My two very best friends are men of the grain that the manliest men are cut from, but I love my girlfriends, if I can keep them. They're typically totally confused, and then they spin off and it's very frustrating.

I don't think any of us fit a stereotype and it makes us extraordinary. :) If the people you know don't like it they can bite you. That's what I say.
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Skyanne

I kinda liked both, transformers and my little ponies. But then...I didn't really start to feel gender dysphoric until about 14 when I hit puberty and started hating how my female friends began to act weird around me and how I was becoming horribly masculine and devloping in ways I didn't want to.

The idea of one size fits all definition of transexual seems kinda stupid to me, everyone is different and like there are different ways to be masculine and feminine.
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Miss_Anthropic

Your likes have nothing to do with being TG or not, that's just a fact.

I've felt some of the same pressures myself and it's made accepting I am who I am a little tough at times. I am a makeup and dress kind of girl who hates bug, hates to be dirty, sweaty or gross in general. I'm also a girl who loves mechanical things, I absolutely love cars and they're still a big part of my life.

My best friend is a GG who is exactly the same as me despite being a model when she was in her late teens; when I met her she had a '66 Mustang she worked on herself, and when it got wrecked and the body shop tried to screw her, she learned to do body work and fixed it herself. She is now a wife and  mother and nothing but a woman, but that hasn't changed what she loves one bit... other than having less money and time for it.

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VeryGnawty

Transition will certainly help me express my feminine side, but I think I will keep all of my previous interests.  I've always loved playing action video games, both before and after my dysphoria set in.  In fact, one of the things that helped me cope was gaming.  Since the vast majority of people in the gaming community perceived me as female anyway, I could socialize in feminine ways in an online game in ways in which it would be much harder to do while pretending to be a man in the real world.

I tried making a male character once in Guild Wars, because I didn't care too much for the look of the female warrior class.  Even though I love the look of the male warrior, I eventually deleted him because it became very awkward.  People kept asking whether or not I was a girl, and that I must be a girl because of the way I behaved.  So I replaced the character and made every character after that to be female, regardless of whether the character designs looked good or not.

I think I'll still like the action games after transition.  I like the strategy, the skill, and the timing involved in action and fighting games.  It just seems to be a natural part of who I am to be interested in physical dexterity.  I also like playing discgolf and practicing parkour for the same reasons.  If anything, I will probably enjoy parkour even more after transition, as my body will feel much more natural to me.
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V M

Being trans doesn't mean conforming or fitting into a stereo typical mold, it's about who you self identify as

I'm naturally rather fem and I like being girly, but I also have a rather tomboyish sporty girl side to me... I like watching, well, half watching various sporting events... I tend to put a game or something on and do other things... But if something exciting happens guess who's in front of the TV doing her lil' wiggle

If I was in better shape and could still turn wrenches I'd still be hopping up cars... One of my hobbies in younger days was to take a plain Jane looking car and trick out the engine but leave the body plain looking

Also, how many stereo typical GGs do you know? Sure there are a few around, but allot of girls have been out to break that stereo typical mold for years from what I can tell

I guess what I'm gettin' at is just be yourself  :)
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Rock_chick

Nope...well at least i think i don't. I just try and be me as hard as i can :laugh:
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rejennyrated

Heck no. I've made an entire life of finding out what I am supposed to do/be like and then running as fast as I can in the opposite direction.

The fastest way to make me do something is to tell me that I am supposed not to, and the quickest way to stop me from doing something is to tell me that I "should".

Hence - for example - since transition almost no makeup, and very few skirts.  ;D
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Rock_chick

Quote from: rejennyrated on January 29, 2011, 04:51:05 PM
Hence - for example - since transition almost no makeup, and very few skirts.  ;D

Jenny...you're not supposed to wear make up :laugh:
Tries a bit of reverse psychology
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Janet_Girl

Quote from: rejennyrated on January 29, 2011, 04:51:05 PM

Hence - for example - since transition almost no makeup, and very few skirts.  ;D

Of course she doesn't have skirts, her partner Alison has them all.
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rejennyrated

Quote from: Janet Lynn on January 29, 2011, 05:12:52 PM
Of course she doesn't have skirts, her partner Alison has them all.
Actually no. Alison doesn't wear skirts so much as WIDE belts.  ;D

Still she has got the legs to get away with a 10 inch mini skirt!  :laugh:
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blackswan

What's the "stereotype", anyway?   I'm basically jeans and T-shirts when I'm at home.  I hate heels & heavy make up, and I've never been fond of the color pink, and no, I don't go around carrying a "juicy couture" or "hello kitty" handbag.  I know that I'm a woman, the whole world knows that and treats me as such too, so I don't have to prove it to anybody, trans or not.
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TheAetherealMeadow

In some ways I do. I draw on my eyebrows and heavy make-up and gigantic false eyelashes from time to time. In other ways I don't. I like to go for an "cute scene boy" look sometimes. I find it way too boring and limiting to stick to one form of gender expression.
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GinaDouglas

It's easier to change your sex and gender in Iran, than it is in the United States.  Way easier.

Please read my novel, Dragonfly and the Pack of Three, available on Amazon - and encourage your local library to buy it too! We need realistic portrayals of trans people in literature, for all our sakes
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