Have you ever been heavily swayed towards your original gender traits?

[Carl E. Shy]

I'm experiencing an interesting thing.. Love..  I've had relationships before, but this particular person is creating quite a stir in my life, mostly because I've had the strong urge to be more and more feminine. I've never felt like a girl until now, always an androgyne. But that's making me think that maybe I never was one because I was never attracted to anyone else before.. it's like I've been in default this whole time until now.

I also had the idea that maybe this might be a normal trait for an androgyne, going back and forth between gender traits.. I don't know if I'll stay feminine, and this person was already attracted to me when he considered me a "tomboy," but I just find it really odd that I've suddenly changed right now.

Has this ever happened to you? What did you make of it?

[ativan]

Yes.

It turned out that I wasn't so much in love as I wanted to be them. Love covers a lot of territory, so yes it was there. But, the sudden or slowly realizing of it changed the relationship. Some held together, no problem. Others, not to long and it was done. Some days I feel really rotten that I just didn't know how to explain it to them, after they had sensed something had changed. And it was me.

Best advice is to be as upfront as you know how. Later is never going to come, or when it does, be prepared for that sudden deer in the head light look.

Hey! I really hope it is love and it lasts you a lifetime! I wish It was happening again for me.

[Virginia]

This is a very bigender thing, the need to be female in certain situations and male in others. Relationships are powerful stuf and often bring about what we lovingly refer to as "the switch." Some bigenders remain in the same gender for weeks, months and have no idea what causes them to "switch."

Although I present as a guy or a girl, I can be either male or female regardless of how I am presenting. When I locked my female self away as a teenager, the only means of expression I gave her was psychological. Gender provides me with a completely different set of glasses to handle the  things I experience in my life. I often flip flop back and forth in mid conversation- it drives my wife crazy!

You can read more about the switch at:
http://www.bigender.net/forum/viewforum.php?f=28

Excellent YouTube vlogs about it at:

[Jaimey]

I also think that it can be a symptom of wanting to be accepted.  Also, when we are happy, the dysphoria that we may normally feel is replaced with a euphoria and we may feel less androgyne.  That is my experience.  I always end up back in androgyne land, so I'm working on not giving in to my feminine side...not that you are "giving in" necessarily, it's just something that I know I do.

[Sevan]

Yep! In my first marriage I was VERY much a boi. Very.

When I entered my current relationship Cyndi (who at the time was in her male incarnation) was very accepting of my boi self. It's who she fell for. Never (seemingly) expected me to change. However...I wanted to! I found myself very open to exploring my feminine side. That's where I stayed for a number of years. Seemingly happily....then this whole gender pandora's box was opened and transition happened and now here we are at a seemingly happy medium. I still love my skirts, still craft and giggle and do other feminine things...but also love my T and other male associated things. Love can do strange things my friend!