Why does my therapist wants me to wait so long to start HRT?

[Iceprincess]

OK people I've got some GREAT news for you all!

I just contacted an endo who's willing to monitor and dose me WITHOUT my therapist's approval letter!!

I'm making an appointment with her soon

[japple]

OK people I've got some GREAT news for you all!

I just contacted an endo who's willing to monitor and dose me WITHOUT my therapist's approval letter!!

I'm making an appointment with her soon

Good job!

[Sarah B]

Hi Iceprincess

You said:

OK people I've got some GREAT news for you all!

I just contacted an endo who's willing to monitor and dose me WITHOUT my therapist's approval letter!!

I'm making an appointment with her soon

Absolutely amazing.  This is what happens if you take control of your own destiny.  I would strongly suggest that you do not tell your mother or your therapist as both are being obstructionists in you becoming who you want to be.

Kind regards
Sarah B

[Karla]

I'm so thrilled to hear of your latest, much needed and well deserved breakthrough 

Those 10% luck and 15% will may have just kicked in and given you a break!

[Sarah B]

Patience my bloody foot.  Correct me if I'm wrong but Iceprincess has been seeing this particular therapist for around 8 months.  So she has been patient. It is the therapists role to ensure that Iceprincess is aware of the ramifications of the drugs she will be taking.  In addition Iceprincess's determination that she is a female, should have been abundantly clear to the therapist over that time period.  As Blair said:

The fact that she keeps telling you to just be patient and won't tell you the direction of the therapy it even further pushes the point that you need to find a new therapist. You are paying her to treat you, so not everything is entirely up to her. Find a new therapist and run away from this one. Don't allow someone with a gatekeeper mentality keep you from progressing in your transition.

Again not telling you what she has in mind and she should also be aware of the WAPTH standards tells me she is a gatekeeper for whatever reason (including the possibility of collusion with your mother).

You also have the right to know what your treatment is (in fact you know what your treatment is), because you are paying for that treatment.  Your therapist is more than likely keeping the reason to herself, because the treatment will not be to your liking or she is holding out the proverbial carrot, so that you keep coming back for more sessions.

As I have said before run like hell away from this particular therapist. Because of what she said namely:

"I will be the one who determines that, I don't want you to push me on it and I want you to be patient".

That kinda makes me wonder if there's something fishy...

If you have to wait for your hormone letter based upon the above statement coming from this particular therapist, just imagine how long you would have to patiently wait for one of your surgery letters from this therapist, if she can write such a letter.

Iceprincess, I think you know what you have to do.

Kindest regards
Sarah B

[atheris]

"I will be the one who determines that, I don't want you to push me on it and I want you to be patient".

I'm sorry. She's your therapist, and you're entitled to a more complete response. "I'm in charge, don't ask me any questions" is NOT an acceptable reply to your question. You have a right to ask about the things that concern you, and your therapist should address those concerns.

[blair]

OK people I've got some GREAT news for you all!

I just contacted an endo who's willing to monitor and dose me WITHOUT my therapist's approval letter!!

I'm making an appointment with her soon

That is awesome! Congratulations. As Sarah said this is what happens when you take control of your own destiny. I still suggest getting a new therapist in the meantime since you will need her to write letters of recommendation when it comes to surgery and such.

[ClaireA]

I'm sorry. She's your therapist, and you're entitled to a more complete response. "I'm in charge, don't ask me any questions" is NOT an acceptable reply to your question. You have a right to ask about the things that concern you, and your therapist should address those concerns.

^This^

Actually there's something interesting: during our last session I asked her what are the issues that we'd have to address during our sessions, kinda like a program to follow, and she said "I will be the one who determines that, I don't want you to push me on it and I want you to be patient".

The rip-off alarm bells start going off pretty loud when she says something like that. Find a new therapist, fast!