Dear Sarah,
I realise I am not qualified to give you advice. I gave up religion when I was told to confess my sin of being 'transgendered' as I suddenly saw that the beliefs of religion and my knowledge of myself were totally incompatible. None the less I do understand the comfort and support that many people receive, I also realise that religion is more than religion in many parts of the world including a lot of the USA. As an Australian I have to admit I don't understand that situation.
However what I wanted to say was that being true to your self and your beliefs are central tenets. No one understands TG other than TG people. Yes therapists can help us, but unless they are TG they don't understand. The sheer fact that your sex does not match your gender is utterly incomprehensible to others.
I remember the great actor Ian Mckillen, (Gandalf Lord of the Rings) who is openly gay, being interviewed. He was asked, "Are you surprised that straight people don't understand Gay people?" He replied, "Not in the least, I've never understood straight people."
I may be wrong, and I apologise if my comment is offensive, I get the impression that many of the "elders" or heads of local and even national and international religious communities gain a power over their congregations. Be it respect, standing in the community or deference in opinion (or worse
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). I think that people in that position have very strong vested interests to not allow non-conformity to whatever is considered 'normal' in their society. If members of the community disagree, they loose power. So they will interpret whoever's teachings to balance the community opinion to either directly or indirectly to 'protect' themselves. This may be a totally unconscious act. But if you are a non-conformist in the society that they are in they have very little advantage in promoting you.
If the pastor explains your position and announces that God made Sarah to test our love in humanity, will there be Hallelujahs or stunned silence, or worse?
I'm sorry if the post was unhelpful. But I wanted to give my non-religious perspective to what is a very difficult topic for many TG people.
My Love
Cindy