I have both the tri-top and the love boat high strength velcro short binder, not the jersey mesh one. So I can't speak to that one. But as between the tri-top and the high strength love boat? I'd pick the love boat everytime. It is so much more comfortable.
The only trick, I think, is in the sizing. I size "true" to the tri-top Medium. I was listed as an XL in the love boat sizing table B, which is the one that covered the high strength binder (they have two sizing charts). I think the XL is probably a little big on me - I wish I had gotten the L. That said, it gets me as flat or flatter than the tri-top, while being more comfortable.
My chest, btw, is not small nor is it large (36B? or so). However, I am broad around my shoulders, which affects what sizes I wear, and it's another reason I like the love boat velcro system better.