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If you could vist your child self..what would you tell yourself?

Started by wannalivethetruth, February 11, 2011, 01:42:18 PM

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ricarla

It's ok to be frightened by the grown-ups around you, especially when they tell you that you will have an unhappy life if you transition from a boy to a girl, or a girl to a boy.

That you should follow your heart, and there will be no regrets - life will be hard at times - but you will feel natural and you will be loved. You will be a beautiful and wonderful young woman or young man as you grow, and you will live a full and happy life, with your family and friends, and your life will be very productive. Be the person you are inside, don't deny a basic realization of your most core being. Live YOUR life to the fullest while finding happiness in the simplest forms of giving, and love others as you love yourself. Don't wait any longer to live life as the person who you really are. Be thankful that others care and have the knowledge and tools to help you. Seek them out and be open to them. Learn from them.  -Ricarla
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justmeinoz

1.Learn to box, you are going to need it in High School (years before anyone heard of Karate).
2. Oh, and you should really  have been a girl. 
3. return to 1.
4. repeat this to yourself until you get it.
"Don't ask me, it was on fire when I lay down on it"
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PixieBoy

Cut your hair off already, no point in having long braids just because your mother likes them. You'll be going through some rough stuff, kiddo, but you'll do alright. Sure, people are mean to you now and they will be mean to you in the future, but nice people exist too. Keep on being the way you are, don't let anyone force you into someone you aren't. You rock!
...that fey-looking freak kid with too many books and too much bodily fat
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Redshirt

Be assertive and trust yourself. There's nothing stopping you from getting that haircut you want or asking for those clothes your brother gets. There are endless possibilities to who you can grow up to be, you don't have to be stuck forever.
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Joeyboo~ :3

Oh geez, I'd give myself a whole list of things.
Awkward teenage years and so many mistakes we're made.
Also the whole trans thing... I think with my past self just looking at me would be enough for "him" to get the jist :)
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~RoadToTrista~

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BillieTex

hard to say, many pains could have been avoided, but my old man would have beat me to a pulp and then spent the following years in theropy  :'( (but then i would tell myself once i could do some work outsside the family trade - mechanical, to move away and get on the 'mones and start anew)
Be true to yourself, even if no one else will...
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Fighter

Hmm. Honestly, the last thing I would tell myself is to tell my folks about my issues at an earlier age, because they have enough trouble believing that it's not a phase at 18. They would probably shrug it off like it was nothing if I was younger, so it would just be a futile attempt I think.

I would tell myself to take better care of my long hair (my hair used to go down to my stomach, but it was really unruly), and to drop the whole "weird kid" image I was cooking up, because it wouldn't help in the future whatsoever and would severely hurt my social status. I would also tell myself that I don't need to be ashamed of feeling certain ways, and that I should embrace those ways instead.

Also, I would tell myself to play some tabletop RPGs earlier (I didn't start until 16), because they're honestly the best games I've ever played.
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hilah.hayley

When my dad asked if I wanted to wear a dress to school, say yes! even if it is an all boys school. :P
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Nurse With Wound

Tell myself to come out already, because otherwise you'll waste all of your teen years worrying about what people will think while testosterone is ruining things.
Scaring away, my ghosts.
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versuchsanordnung

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tekla

Don't get married.

Best answer yet (other than 'buy apple stock on the first day of issue').
FIGHT APATHY!, or don't...
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Plain Jane

The usual:

1. Explain what those feelings are all about.

2. Trust Mom (she knew SOMETHING was going on, but I clammed up. She passed away before I came out).

3. Practice your trumpet more often.
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jamie nicole

I would tell my younger self......dont suppress your feelings of femininity and dont try to live up to society's expectations of what gender role your supposed to fulfill!  and, along with some other comments, buy more stock in apple and microsoft!
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LivingInGrey

I wouldn't tell myself anything.

I'd have a long hard talk with my parents, not only about me but about them.
(ROCK) ---> ME <--- (HARD PLACE)
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Jayne

Before I told myself anything I would sit my parents down for a chat, I would have to prove to them that I was from the future (or they'd think I was a nut!) I would give them the details of every winner of every horse race & sporting event for a week, I doubt even my parents could dismiss proof like that.
I would then explain to them that they need to forget their hang ups & accept what I had to do to prevent a lifetime of depression & self loathing.

I would then give myself a list:

1: Knuckle down at school, childhood isn't a time for messing around, save that for when i'm earning buckets of money.

2: Tell my parents about my need to become female on the outside to match what's on the inside so I could start the transition as young as possible.

3: I would warn myself that my parents will get divorced when i'm 15 & when it happens don't go off the rails, just concentrate on school.

4: Invest in Microsoft, Sony & Virgin

5: I would give myself the winning lottery numbers for 3 or 4 large roll overs spread over a decade & advise myself to use a large amount of it to set up a charity/organisation to help Transpeople.

6: I'd tell myself to eat healthy & to never ever start smoking.

7: I would give myself a list of every major disaster (plane crashes, Tsunamis, volcanic eruptions, 911 & 7/7, floods & the NASA shuttle disaster)
Could you live with yourself if a future you came back & made you happy & wealthy but let all those people die? I don't think I could bear that guilt
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Lisbeth

Simple: "Don't get married. It's not the solution to being lonely."
"Anyone who attempts to play the 'real transsexual' card should be summarily dismissed, as they are merely engaging in name calling rather than serious debate."
--Julia Serano

http://juliaserano.blogspot.com/2011/09/transsexual-versus-transgender.html
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Korlee

I'd go with just one simple thing really...  Do not trust your mother, trust your father, and tell him how you feel asap.  I'd have transitioned years ago when it mattered most to me.
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