pretty sure I am at this point

[rite_of_inversion]

Well...I've given it some time. I think I'm pretty certain of my identity as an androgyne at this point.

*golf clap*

I'm already looking down the road to getting the money for a name change,(name is picked out) thinking about how I might be able to finagle hormones, and, um, generally feeling more at home in my own skin...
Because of finances I can't do anything ATM...and I do want to take it slow... make 100% sure this is how I am and want to be.

Testosterone's kinda irreversible, yanno.

Wonder when I ought to tell my Mom and little brother?
I don't want to unnecessarily yank their chain-if this is a passing phase...

Probably if/when I'm about to start hormones, I'd guess...it wouldn't do to open  the phone and answer in a  deeper voice without them knowing what was going on. They'd be thinking "Who's that boy with your phone?"

[Sevan]

I did come out to my family...after I'd started T. My voice was lower...it's amazing how people can ignore things they don't want to see/hear. They seem to act as if nothing has changed. *sigh*

I came out to them via email. I did come out as androgyn and added wiki links about androgyny. (which is why I opted for email vs other methods of coming out)

It's really difficult to come out...(as anything really) but androgyn has it's own unique concern of explaning what androgyn IS...and then explaining that you are that. So you have to explain that the world isn't just black and white, boy and girl...and then explain that you are non binary (in some form.)

In any case...congrats on your step forward!!! Owning and claiming who you are is wonderful

[rite_of_inversion]

Thanks...
Meh...my mom already got to handle me coming out, being a baby dyke, and later marrying a transwoman...she'll probably give me that "Oh no, here we go again," look...there may be eye rolling involved.
Also puzzlement...androgynes are kind of...different.

My brother may be a bit more wigged, but I think he'll eventually be  o.k. His fiancee may be really wierded out...and the extended fam...hmmm....
Once again, I'm the fruit of the family tree...

[Sevan]

Wow that sounds so much like me. lol!!! I came out to my mom as lesbian when I was 19, came out about my transwoman wife and then came out about myself. I'd SO hoped she'd just roll her eyes and be done with it but....that's not how it went. *shrugs* She's fine with me, calls me weekly (ish) but completely ignores all things androgyn in me. She REALLY hates it when we use my new(er) name Sevan. Her energy just goes ice cold.