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using urinals has become daunting?

Started by RachelH, February 21, 2011, 12:03:20 PM

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RachelH

I was just thinking about when I went to a club the other day, and I went to toilet. Well been genetically male I'm used to the urinals, and especially that discomfort when unfortunately they are busy and you find that you have to stand very close to other people. However, since I've accepted to myself what I'm doing, I found that proximity in the toilets absolutely nerve racking, in fact I was terrified about been in there and been so close to men, and found myself going for the cubicles now if possible. Just wondering if anyone else had similar sudden avoidance experiences? I just find it strange that something that I've had to do my whole life now seems very daunting.
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Janet_Girl

Ahhhhh   What's a Urinal?  I have not been in a Mens room in more than two years.

Ok I am kidding I know what they are.  And the only time I used them was when no else was there.  Otherwise it was the stalls.
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V M

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erocse

  I could not use a urinal my whole life, if there was anyone else in the restroom with me. I couldn't bring myself to use the cubical either, I was afraid they would think I was gay or that I had something to hide.(and I did). So my outings were always planed round bathroom stops , that had private bathrooms. Not at all an easy task.  Now life is much easier !!! I have absolutely no problems now.

  Hugs, Roxy
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Illusionary weapons

Quote from: Erocse on February 21, 2011, 12:53:53 PM
  I could not use a urinal my whole life, if there was anyone else in the restroom with me. I couldn't bring myself to use the cubical either, I was afraid they would think I was gay or that I had something to hide.(and I did). So my outings were always planed round bathroom stops , that had private bathrooms. Not at all an easy task.  Now life is much easier !!! I have absolutely no problems now.

  Hugs, Roxy
I always go into a cubical and wait for the person to leave, they might think it's weird but yes the urinal impossible.

That day when I have no problems at all, to be me...  How good reading posts makes me feel seeing there really is a bright future.
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HitOrMiss.

Last time I used a urinal was when I was in grade 4. I'm 23 now.

Furthermore, I haven't used a change room since I was old enough to dress myself. I always go to the washroom and change in a stall.

I don't worry about what other people think anymore, but I am worried about the crack in the stall's door. You know, that quarter inch gap between the door and the rest of the stall. If someone else walks by I am always sure to cover up anything they might see...

........ I hate public washrooms...
If flesh could crawl / My skin would fall / From off my bones / And run away from here
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SarahM777

For me it depends on the place. I got jumped on in the restroom at work once when i was 16. Thankfully no got hurt and it ended pretty quickly once i had gone through one of the pieces of drywall as the boss would figure out pretty quickly what had happened but after that when i have to use a larger restroom i case the place to check escape routes and see who else is in there. If there is someone near the door i will go as far as i can but not up against a wall as i do want to be able to move sideways if i can. I learned how to empty my bladder very quickly so i try to get out ASAP. ( I know on this the fear is a bit over the top but it is what it is at the moment) If its a smaller place where i know most of the people there i will use one of the cubicles.
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Cindy

Oh Yuk

I haven't used a urinal for 20 odd years. They disgust me. Just the smell makes me want to vomit. Ahhhh. Never mind what you can see .  And then they spit. Why are men so crass.
OK not getting into that one.

Women's, toilets can also be disgusting with all sorts of stuff we don't want to know about, but at least they don't (usually) have the stench. I just have a problem of why cannot people clean the seat and flush the toilet. It's not a big ask.

Cindy
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Emmanuelle

mmm... I never liked standing up to pee, I tried it as a toddler (there is a cute picture of that), but it never really felt practical or comfortable. So basically I never use urinals (unless that's the only thing available or when it's an emergency...)
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carolinejeo

Quotemmm... I never liked standing up to pee, I tried it as a toddler (there is a cute picture of that), but it never really felt practical or comfortable. So basically I never use urinals (unless that's the only thing available or when it's an emergency...)

Sounds like me.

Yes, use a cubical.

Caroline
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japple

I think urinals are awesome and they should put them in the ladies room with some sort of device.  When I have to pee I have to PEE!  Plus they are so much cleaner than sitting or hovering.  I don't take not standing in line for granted.
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xander

I'm looking forward to be able to use a urinal, but I don't know how I'll go.. In Australia most of the urinals are just one big sharing urinal.. they're not those seperate basins.
Give me some kind of seperation from the other guys and I'll be like a pig in ->-bleeped-<-. I won't even complain about the stink.
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pretty pauline

Quote from: CindyJames on February 22, 2011, 02:26:46 AM
Oh Yuk

I haven't used a urinal for 20 odd years. They disgust me. Just the smell makes me want to vomit. Ahhhh. Never mind what you can see .  And then they spit. Why are men so crass.
OK not getting into that one

Cindy
Absolutely agree Cindy, I even forget what they look like, Iv been sitting down now for 25years, the only disadvantage I find with the ladies loo is having to queue all the time when Im bursting for a pee, guys never have to queue, its quick, in and out, us girls have to stand and take our turn in the queue.

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Key

I'm starting to notice that it's odd to stand up when going, period. 
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Natalya

 i remember years ago out of nowhere i just couldn't use one anymore when there were others around, then i just stopped using them all together. now i use the ladies room :]
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Serra

I was never able to use urinals, and standing to pee just seemed alien to me, even before I figured out my dysphoria.
Rawr.
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Evelyn

It's always been daunting. If there's not an empty cubical i leave. I have been late for classes by a good 15 minutes because of having to use bathrooms across campus before... but i just cannot do the whole standing thing, so it's the trade off i choose to take. Public bathrooms are disgusting...i used to carry a can of Lysol in my backpack for school.

The 1/4th an inch gap in the stall door is the devil. i hate it. Hate it. you have no idea how much, but i could go on about that for way too long if i let myself. It's just creepy being a girl in a room full of guys, with them able to see you. Given, they don't see me as a girl, but i still see them as men, and it's really kinda terrifying sometimes. *shudders* It's even worse if someone tries to check to see if someone's in the stall you're in because that surge of terror passes through you and fight or flight kicks in, even though somewhere inside you know they won't ACTUALLY do anything, but that tiny bit of logic does nothing to quell the thousands of visions that just flashed through your mind of what would happen if they did. Then again, I see myself as completely female, and half of those scenarios aren't possible yet.

Sorry. I have huge issues with bathrooms.

((you refers to me in the above. i don't know why i broke into second person, but i speak for no one))

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JaimeJJ

I HATE urinals.  They have terrified me from childhood age! I never used to stand up at all to pee until a few years ago when I made myself learn so I didn't have to sit on public toilet seats!

But yeah..even when I try to use a urninal, if there is anybody around I can never physically bring myself to pee.. I just stand there praying for it to come out, no matter how badly I need to pee but it just never comes out! So I have to zip up and walk away and try again in another 10 minutes...hoping nobody recognises me when I go back!
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lancem27

QuoteI couldn't bring myself to use the cubical either, I was afraid they would think I was gay or that I had something to hide

Sorry to quickly hijack the topic, ladies...but do men really think this if you use the stall?
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ykkih

This is not even related to my gender problems, but men's urinals are some of the most god-forsaken places in the universe.

Even if I were a man I would not fancy standing in other people's misplaced urine.  :-X
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