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When I'm just around girls, I feel like a girl.. Anyone else get this feeling?

Started by Ribbons, February 18, 2011, 03:01:38 PM

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quinn

I do feel more feminine around girls, but I think it's mostly from having to pretend to be female my whole life. I prefer hanging out with guys, then I can be "just one of the guys" and not feel awkward. 
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Marvel

Quote from: Ribbons on February 18, 2011, 03:01:38 PM
It doesn't make me uncomfortable actually.
It's like my brain switched from male to female, almost. I feel like "one of the girls" rather then a boy. I apparently start half identifying as a girl, for that period.

I still have my desires and such, and I still consider myself FtM during that period, but I feel like a girl and not a boy for whatever absurd reason. I don't feel like a boy hanging around girls, but like a girl (I guess, maybe not; how would I know what being a girl feels like?). Maybe it's because I'm pre-transition..

Yeah i know the feeling, lots of it is not really what you are doing, but what other people are imposing on you. like calling you with your birth name, using wrong pronouns, and basically refusing to acknowledge your identity, it can make one feel like you are "one of the girls". I just dont hang around with a lot of girls or any female friends anymore tbh, its nothing personal, just looking out for my life. I got tired of defending my identity, asking to be called the right pronouns, being outed all the time when i just want to be stealth, somehow my so called female friends are the hardest people in acknowledging my true self.
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matt

I'm afraid I feel the same as most guys above. I feel much more masculine when I am around girls and women, and I feel more insecure when I'm around men. Especially when they are really huge or tall, I feel more dysphoric and like a kid..???

Also I think I'm insecure about my body language in general, as I don't have a lot of guy friends, sometimes I don't know how a typical guy would respond in a particular situation.. and it makes me more uneasy.  :-\
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Yakshini

I don't feel like a girl at all when I'm around a bunch of girls. If anything, I feel even more out of place because of how little I tend to have in common with them.
But then again, I feel awkward around a bunch of guys, but that is mostly because other people refuse to treat me like I am one of the guys. It doesn't help that I am introverted and am the type of person that doesn't speak unless spoken to.

I guess no matter what group of people I'm with, I'll always be out of place.
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Vin

I find it difficult to fit in no matter where I am to be honest, and so it doesn't matter whether I'm with boys or girls. But then, I'm still trying to figure everything out, so maybe once I become more sure of myself things will get easier.


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mistergutsy

I used to feel like that. I felt like if I acted too masculine the girls would see right through me. Most of the time I didn't do it on purpose, but I would catch myself after I started doing it.
I think it had a lot to do with being insecure with my gender identity. I feel like light-years past that now though and now that I'm comfortable in my own skin I don't think about it too much. When I'm around my gay best friend I become a little more feminine, but that doesn't make me less of a man, that just makes me... me! ya know?
Anyway, it's nothing to be ashamed of, you are who you are, embrace it!  ;D