Not caring? Is this possible?

[Juliet]

Hey everyone.
I have a somewhat silly sounding question that I'm probably gonna get reamed for, but its ok.
Is it possible for someone to be transgender and just not give a crap? Or is having the anguish and frustration sort of the deciding factor in whether one is truly trans or not?
I've heard it said that if you're not suffering when living as your assigned gender given at birth then you're not transgendered.
What do you all think?
Thanks!

[Da Monkey]

By not give a crap do you mean not caring to transition, or transitioning isn't a big deal?

I was very easy going about my transition. I never corrected people when they used the wrong name or pronouns, never argued over anything, most of the time people aren't going to get it and it's pointless.

For me, pre-transition, my life was fine. I was well-liked, had relationships, went to college, etc. etc. just the more and more I learned about transgendered people the more obvious it was that I was trans. I don't want to say I "suffered". It was more that realising I was trans was harder and harder to ignore to the point where I had to do something about it. The only thing I really suffered from was dysphoria of my chest because I was almost DD it bothered me everyday to try to bind.

Would I rather have died than transition? No, but I would never have been this happy if I didn't.

[lancem27]

My dysphoria isn't nearly as bad as many others. Honestly, if I had to go the rest of my life with boobs in order to give another guy top surgery, I'd do it. I really hate my breasts and would be much happier with them gone, but I know that there are others who need it more than me.

As for T...different story entirely. That's something I pretty much need to live the rest of my life.

[Juliet]

By not give a crap do you mean not caring to transition, or transitioning isn't a big deal?

I was very easy going about my transition. I never corrected people when they used the wrong name or pronouns, never argued over anything, most of the time people aren't going to get it and it's pointless.

For me, pre-transition, my life was fine. I was well-liked, had relationships, went to college, etc. etc. just the more and more I learned about transgendered people the more obvious it was that I was trans. I don't want to say I "suffered". It was more that realising I was trans was harder and harder to ignore to the point where I had to do something about it. The only thing I really suffered from was dysphoria of my chest because I was almost DD it bothered me everyday to try to bind.

Would I rather have died than transition? No, but I would never have been this happy if I didn't.

Hi! Thanks for your response.  Yeah I mean not caring that the inside doesn't match the biological outside.  Knowing that it doesn't match but being like "haha oh well" and living as a female who just may be more boyish than other females and being fine like that.

[Da Monkey]

Hi! Thanks for your response.  Yeah I mean not caring that the inside doesn't match the biological outside.  Knowing that it doesn't match but being like "haha oh well" and living as a female who just may be more boyish than other females and being fine like that.

Ohh I see what you're saying. I had an FTM friend who came out for about 2 years then right before he was about to start hormones he read something online that was along the lines of "the difference between male and female is the penis and vagina, a transgender/sexual might just be reaching for the unreachable therefore always suffering." and he actually went back to being his "girl" self because of that thinking if he transitioned he would always be suffering in life because he'll never be a "true male". This was around the same time I came out and for me I felt bad because it helped my situtation because we both worked at the same place and I didn't want people thinking I was trans because he was and when he went back in the cloest I didn't get scared of transitioning and still wanted to do it. He then told me he felt better because he "felt like he wasn't pretending anymore" I just didn't say anything to that. About 3-4 months later he couldn't take it anymore and had to come back out again. I remember when he did I finally said "see it just comes down to the same point again where living as a girl is what feels like pretending".

You could very well be trans and have those feelings, it just might not last forever.