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It takes a while for the swelling to go down, and a lot depends on the technique used and the person. I had no visible swelling after about a month, but the internal swelling lasted much longer.
I went into my regular doctor at about six weeks because I was concerned about the looks of the area. He had never seen a neo-vagina before, but he knew what a healing surgical area should look like and pronounced it healthy. You might check with you local doctor, or you could send a photo to your surgeon to ask if it is normal.
Heal well.
- Kate