Me personally have NEVER given myself up in the past until 2 weeks ago. I dont think anyone should do that UNLESS you feel that the relationship is turning into LOVE on both ends. DONT EVA OUT YOURSELF unnecessarily. I had been dating this guy for 2 mths and he wanted to marry me the 2nd week after meeting. I worded it the way you did and he was TOTALLY SHOCKED and somewhat confused. His words were, "do u get a pap smear" and i said yes and he said "what do your medical records say gender wise" and i said FEMALE and he said well that is what u are END OF STORY. NOw, i told him we HAD to discuss it further. He didnt want to because he was still in a state of shock and he is TOTALLY homophobic. He has told me some stories about terrorizing gay people and i totally showed my disapproval of that. So I was sceptical at revealing myself and i was just going to walk away but that man looked me in my eyes when i tried to call it off and told me how much he loved me and he didnt know what it was but he has NEVER had a woman impact his life like me (which all men i have dated since surgery said they have NEVA met a woman like me and they are totally impresses) and if i choose to leave him that he is a BIG BOY and he will get over it but he would be crushed.
I had NEVER NEVER NEVER had a man to see WHO i REALLY am before IN my life past the superficial and I NEEDED to know how he would respond by my telling him the WHOLE STORY. I could have punked out and bowed out but this is my FIRST TIME revealing myself to a man and the outcome was WONDERFUL and i needed to know HOW a man would respond. He STILL wants to marry me and he is even MORE clingy than before. I am 10 mths post and Dr. Bowers looked me in my eye and told me that I DEFINITELY would be married within a year. I didnt believe her at all but I had no CLUE on how that one little part got in my way of happiness with a man. I have only dated straight men prior to because i was NOT a part of the gay transsexual scene in my city and i pretty much had been accepted in hetero society as a female even though every one had their doubts but men would be afraid to fall in love with me and run off once the realized they was falling for me.
IF ANY of you on here are pre and are considering having a relationship with a straight male, surgery is a must because i feel that most men will date a pretty transsexual but when they start falling in love, they shy away in fear of feeling gay.
Now my situation was different than a lot. NO MAN had EVA seen my front and when i told them what i was most said "well i can roll with this, just dont EVA LET ME SEE IT" . I actually would ONLY date a man who felt that way and if a man got curious about my front i would drop him like a hot potato.
All n all, it is a personal decision on how any of us handle this situation but it takes just as much time and effort to get used to dating men as a full functioning female as well as getting used to our new bodies.
Our womanhood isnt taken for granted like natal females are and men APPRECIATE a REAL WOman and they know it when they see it. We posses that because we have been deprived of our natural womanhood by society and parents so when we are able to sprout, we have a tendency to do a better job at being women and men are TRULY drawn to it but they dont know why.
Being a WOman is a state of being of the mind and having the vessel only makes u a female.
