QuoteStop doing the drag queen thing and start doing the woman thing.
I agree, as well. My roommate is very actively involved in the drag community here in Columbia and most, if not all, of her friends are drag queens. All of the information I'm receiving is to get bigger hips, more eye makeup, etc. I constantly remind my roommate that I'm not a drag queen, but a transgendered woman. She then reminds me that I perform at the local gay club (which I'm now getting away from).
I began rushing things, coming out very quickly. I talked to my supervisor within a week (or less) of coming out as a transgendered woman and now fear losing my job, though she is openly gay and seemed very supportive. As I began seeing a rush in things, I began to slow down. I'm still keeping my appointment with my therapist on the 7th and wish to begin HRT in the very near future, but I'm going to very slowly transition; first in my home, then in public, and then eventually in my workplace (if allowed).
QuoteI started creating a realistic wardrobe for my body size and shape and wore this stuff around the house from time to time to get used to it.
I like this. I actually just bought my first pair of "skinny jeans" (Goodwill, brand new [tags still on them], and for only $4), as well as flats ($10 at Payless). I'm going to begin building my wardrobe and begin wearing these clothes around the house.
I have gone out once as a woman and my friends guests had no idea I'm transgendered (which made me feel great)! To this day they still believe me to be a biological woman. However, I had gone out with two pairs of pantyhose, hip and butt pads, two more pantyhose, black pantyhose, and spanks. I also had on two corsets and a double wig with a bump. Needless to say, I was very much uncomfortable and couldn't wait to get home to undress. Sadly, I spent the night due to being intoxicated. Oh my god! Lol! That, to me, isn't being a woman! So yes, I agree with you.
With all of that said, I still want more hips and butt so I'm ordering pads; however, they are professionally made and not from couch cushions (compliments of my drag friends), less padding, and very much natural looking! Best of all, it looks like a brief and easily slips up and down. I'm also buying a wig which is perfect for me and not two stacked wigs with a bump. Hehe! My last profile picture was too drag for me (as far as makeup). So I've toned down my makeup, using more natural colors, which you can see in my new profile picture. Sometimes less is more.
I know it's okay to go out as a man, but it kills me. That's why I was so dead-set on making this change as quickly as possible. I still wish to be a woman, in and outside of my home) by the end of this summer, but I'm going to use this time to work out my kinks.
Really, thank you. It's nice to get honest feedback that I can work with. Anything else?
