Quote from: Janet Lynn on March 21, 2011, 06:16:39 PM
I go the other way, especially with the post-surgical videos. And I am getting that way with the threads also. I just can't really watch or read them any more.
It isn't that I am not happy for those girls, but it just hurt when your own had to be canceled and may not be re-scheduled. But I just go day by day. That is all I can do.
My bank account is at an all time low, I'm in debt to the credit cards, and I'm unemployed. I've spent virtually all of my savings on transition, including SRS with Dr. Brassard in Montreal. It was a situation of either transition, including SRS, or I'd end up drinking myself to death. I sold everything I could to make it happen.
Once the desire is there, it comes down to getting the money together, and then it's only a matter of time. People are transitioning and having SRS at ages which would have been unimaginable years back, people in their 60's and 70's are routinely having the procedure. Even if you're unemployed now, in time you WILL get another job, or you'll work temp jobs, whatever- you WILL earn money, and over time, you'll save whatever it costs to complete your transition. There are reliable surgeons such as Dr. Kamol (and others!) performing SRS in Thailand for thousands of dollars less than North American surgeons, so there are choices without sacrificing quality. It's a question of time and money, and if the desire is there, you can, and you will make it happen!
I met a girl who spent ten years on her Real Life Experience while she saved her money for surgery. She said, when she was post-op, that the long wait was actually a good experience for her, as she used the time to truly perfect her social and vocal skills. By the time she had surgery, it was a totally seamless integration into her life as a complete (and sexually active!) woman. The long wait for surgery doesn't need to be a totally negative experience.
