I posted this here because I didn't know where it would fit best. This question is certainly open to everyone not just the guys!
My girlfriend has been amazing through the beginning stages of my transition. When I came out to her she immediately adjusted and referred to me with the appropriate name (she even helped pick it!) and pronouns. She also told her friends what was up so they would also refer to me correctly. The only people she has not told are her family. Her mom and sister met me prior to coming out and know my birth name and assigned gender. I am now in the process of starting hormones (hopefully in late April/early May) and she still hasn't said anything to her family. I have been living as male for over a year and everyone in my life (except my family but, that is another issue) calls me my correct name and pronoun. I do have contact with her family occasionally and her mom would like me to come visit for a bit over the summer and keeps inviting me to holidays and such...I don't want to refuse because it is my girlfriend's mother but, I really don't want to have to step back in the closet around them. My girlfriend said she will talk to them and just hasn't but she has said that for about 8 months now. She keeps saying that "it isn't a good time".
Now that I am going to start hormones this will be harder and harder to hide my transition as time goes on so I really wanted everything to be out in the open beforehand. I mean how do you say "Hi! Oh the beard? Ignore that!" It feels like I am lying in a way and I hate it....I guess I am just looking for advice on how to deal with this. I would rather avoid an ultimatum of tell them or I am gone so I just wanted some ideas. Has anyone gone through anything similar?
