Honesty

[Del]

In my introduction I stated that I may disagree with the idea of being transgender but I still believe in treating people with dignity and giving credit when it is due. I thought about some of you today after church.

Today I was leaving church and a truck pulled up to a business next door and a woman and man got out.

The truck was a new shiny black extended cab with a bed cover. It probably had never seen a load.
Mine is a beat up old F150 4x4.

When I turned I saw the guy was laughing and motioning to his woman about my beat up old cowboy hat. When I looked at him he quit laughing.
He would laugh behnd my back but not to my face.
Sort of what I saw with my ex-coworker.
A real man when people don't see you laughing.

It's not worth arguing about but I thought:
You're as phony as your truck. A man behind my back.
My old hat is like my truck. Old, beat up and functional.
If I threw a piece of channel iron in his truck like I do mine he would probably come unglued or cry like a schoolgirl.

The problem is that everyone today wants to put on a front and be someone they aren't. They just don't want to be who they really are. For the most part these people are arogant and phony.

At least the people here are real. They deal with a problem that many including myself don't understand. Just being honest about who they are and who they perceive themselves to be whether we understand or accept it or not.

I hope that if any of you have a new truck I didn't offend you. I just get tired of phony people like the ones I saw wearing their little felt cowboy-wanna-be hats to impress the chicks at the bar. Neither they, their truck or their hats were real.

At least I see honest people here and whether they be right or wrong it is of great value to me.

[MarinaM]

Well, Del, thank you. If it's any consolation, I grew up in a family that has ranchers, bikers,mechanics, hunters, and cowboys; and I appreciate a hard worker with a beat up old truck.

You don't have to agree with anything, but that doesn't mean we can't agree on something. I think

[RabbitsOfTheWorldUnite]

I believe your issue with the world is similar to mine, in which it has just as muh to do with productivity as it does with honesty: if something is useless, or god forbid even counter-productive, it's time to get rid of it so that you can spend more time with the things that are productive. And you hate to see others who don't do the same.
It is utterly useless to lie about yourself by buying things you don't need and doing things just to impress others for the moment!

[spacial]

Thank you Del. I think I needed to hear that.

[Stephe]

I see this in some trans people who feel like they have to change EVERYTHING about themselves to become women. Like I don't enjoy reading home journal or southern living, I like popular mechanics. I like reading some woman's magazines from time to time but most seem to just be full of ads or makeup tips anyone with a brain would know. I don't enjoy knitting or sewing. I'm not going to take them up because it's a "womanly" thing to do. I'm not going to stop riding my motorcycle. I do enjoy one of the woman's circles at the church (mostly old ladies, which can be silly fun) but there is another group more my age there that IMHO is just boring. There are too many stereotypes and I don't see I need to force myself into one to "prove" to anyone who I am. I am me.

Stephe

[Cindy]

Dear Del

Thank you for the wit and courage to return, and I mean that kindly. As I recall I responded to your original post as accepting anything but  hate and in particular hypocrisy.  If think you just saw an example of it. The hypocrisy is fairly evident.  And other  small matters of pride and envy. He seems to worship his vehicle and possibly, with his mind set ,covets stuff, particularly if she is young female and attractive. Maybe not into oxen. But you never know . Ignoring the "Commandments"  there is one central message in ALL of the holy texts from the Koran, Torah and Bible. It is expressed in various forms but it is very reproducible. " Treat your neighbour as yourself. that is the whole of the law  the rest it just padding": Cindy James translation . But true to the spirit.

People like him would either insult me or try and hurt me and/or would be intolerant of me. Why?

I give to charity more than his truck is worth, even brand new. So that makes me evil? or  so sick or that a god doesn't accept me? And I don't count the cost I look at the project.

I also said that I do not believe in gods, but have no problems with people who do. But people who passively or even actively believe in gods cannot accept people like me. Why? I think that is the ultimate stupid ignorant statement. Why doesn't their god love me? because by their very definition of  their bible  it doesn't allow for an all loving god to exist. They believe in a racial, sexist god. Not a god in the bible.

Sorry Del

I really hate narrow minded people, I know you are not and may be now seeing things that change you mind about people. I'm a human being, I have more problems than most. I have a slowly dieing wife, and a very high pressure job and living my life after being gang raped at 16 when people thought I should learn about my gender.

Life is Life

I live it every moment

I really don't like bigots (not accusing you)

Hugs and keep safe

( Oh just by the way, I'm a Professor in a Medical School. I have a Ph,D and I am an invited member of the RCPA, I have published over 200 peer reviewed journals. I received about 6$ mill grants this year in competitive funding and I have no fear of any of these idiots.

Hugs Del

Thanks for Posting

Cindy James

[Del]

Thanks for the kind response ladies. I reckon there are kooks of all kinds out there. People like him are probably the sort that have to look down their nose at others to feel good about themselves. Yet they fail to see the cowardice of only having the guts to laugh at someone behind their back.

I guess I did indeed see a form of bigotry that you see almost daily. Maybe not as severe as some you all see but a form of it.

I do have to give credit where it is due though. At least the people here are trying to deal with their problems. That I can appreciate.