to be or not to be

[Sharky]

I don't think it's anyones business. I want the least amount of people knowing as possible. If asked I will deny it. If it's not absolutely necessary for someone to know then I'm not going to tell them.

[Superrad]

Which do you choose to be?
Will I choose might be better. When possible, I go with stealth.

Why?
Honestly, I'm male. I like people seeing me that way. Too often when people find out I become 'the girl who wants to be a guy'. I'm tired of it. I don't see any need to get in people's faces about my gender or sexuality, and if it doesn't come up I'll leave it that way.

How did you come to the decision of who you disclosed your status to?
Friends, people who knew before, and family. I knew I needed to come out because I was going crazy when I was called a girl. I just couldn't do it anymore.

[notyouraverageguy]

Why?
I want to be seen as a man. Not a freak, not a female, not anything less than male.

This is how I see it. No one needs to know a thing, its like a medical defect. I just want to be seen as male, not as transmale, female, or the girl who wants to be a guy.
We are guys, our bodies just don't match, and most people don't get that. When people find out you're trans its like a bombardment of unecessary questions. I get that your curious, but im not google. I can't answer every single question you have with a definitive answer and every trans person is different.
So my preferences won't be the same as someone elses. Who else needs to know about that besides me and my partner.
Not to mention people start to view you differently especially if you're pre-t, its harder to be stealth.