I've been living full time for 2 years and transitioned in place. I also realize I don't pull off passing as a GG and honestly feel that trying to do that obsessively isn't being honest with myself. I'm a TG woman. But I AM a woman and most people seem to accept I am.
But sometimes people don't. Like tonight I was helping at the church for an art show we are doing for the school kids and normally this older guy I was working with calls me by the right pronouns. For some reason tonight he started referring to me as him to another church member and used sir a few times. He is a nice person and know he wasn't being mean or hateful. Everyone at this church knows I am TG so that's no secret. A couple of old friends also have done this from time to time, even though I have explained to them in private this bothers me and I'm not a guy anymore (duh?).
I know I should have developed a thicker skin by now but this still get's me depressed. I am not bothered much if some random person in public does this, especially if they are doing it to be mean. I discount that as being a loser person looking to build themselves up at my expense. I don't give that to them. But when someone does it that is basically a nice person, I'm not sure how to deal with it?
Tonight I just didn't do anything at the time and was thinking later to have "the pronoun talk" with him, but in the past I've had limited success with that sticking and it feels like I'm begging them to do this.. I started to think maybe if when he did it the first time tonight, even if in front of other people, say something like "Well >their name< I haven't been a him in a long time"? Just directly address the issue, even if it's an uncomfortable moment. Put it back on them
It's not like I am in deep stealth being outed but I AM a woman. I'm just wondering how other people have dealt with this issue, other than just working to be more stealth/passing. I guess I'm not ashamed of being TG or feel a huge need to hide that I am, move to a new location etc. But I also know I'm a woman, not a him/sir.
