babies and children

[tgirljuliewilson]

All of my life, I have identified with everything female and feminine --physical, emotional, fantasies, clothes, erotic, all of it from the perspective of being a woman--except one: babies.

Sure, I enjoy holding them, and little tykes can be so cute--but I've never had the attraction to babies and small children the way gg's do.

And although I'm OK with that, it's also sorta always bothered me, too....like I was soooo close to being complete but yet was missing a peice of my puzzle...

Lately it's really been bothering me....

Anyone else feel like I do, or am I missing something fundamental to the female experience that I just can't reach?  Should I be feeling so incomplete, because I'm not attracted to the smell of a dirty diaper?  I love every other kind of baby animal, from kittens to moose....so why not so much with human babies?

[Arch]

Sorry to horn in, but I think I can speak to this issue. There are plenty of cis women who are not interested in having kids or even being around them. Also cis men, but I guess that's not so surprising. But a lot of women are still reluctant to voice their feelings lest they be seen as some sort of mutant child-hater. Societal pressure for women to like babies is very strong.

I still wonder sometimes if I'm a freak because I don't want children or like them or find them cute in the least. When I was living as a woman, I struggled with this and was always told that I would change my mind. Sometimes I was told that I would change my mind AFTER I had had my own kid. Uh, folks, this is not a good theory to test.

Now I'm transitioned, and I still feel the same way, and I wonder if there's something missing in my brain. I think some people feel that all humans should like kids. And I think they're wrong.

[Cindy]

There was a series of articles in one of the woman's magazines about woman who don't want, and woman who don't like babies. It was a surprisingly large percentage. And many people said they faked liking their friends babies so as not to offend their friend.

Your not odd, you're female

Cindy

[JohnAlex]

I agree with what everyone said here.  I just think that everyone is different. 

I'm actually the opposite of you.  I LOVE babies.  not so much baby animals.  I love human babies.  I can't stand letting them cry, I would bend over backwards for hours to make them comfortable.  I love holding a sleeping baby.

And when I came out to some of my friends, they said, "but... you love babies?"  As though that determines if you are male or female    My brother also likes babies, and also little kids.  But nobody's calling him a girl for it.

Even though I've always loved babies, ever since I was a kid I knew I never wanted to give birth to one.

I think this may be another one of those things that society has deemed "feminine" but isn't really true.

[Anon]

I also don't think liking or not liking babies of any type is a gender thing, but a personal thing.

Personally, I love babies (of any species) and little kids, but I'm certainly a boy.

Sort of off topic, but I have to share that the movie 'Babies' has gotta be the most adorable 1h20m you'll ever spend if you like babies and don't mind a bit of a lack of plot.
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[Gabby]

Sort of off topic, but I have to share that the movie 'Babies' has gotta be the most adorable 1h20m you'll ever spend if you like babies and don't mind a bit of a lack of plot.
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Thank you for sharing, I love that first sequence haha, and those shots of other animals being so kind to us, this is the second time today I've cried haha.

Watched again:  The last goat stole a baby's bathwater, the kitten was attacking a baby's feet lol.

It was the dog that got me earlier I remembered when my baby he was an alasation called Vinny passed away, he was 14... what a complete tangent sorry guys.

[shortnsweet1004]

I feel the same way you do. Nothing against children, but I have a hard time around little ones. I think it's me being too scared that I might hurt them or do something wrong. So for the time being, I don't have a super strong attraction to babies.

It's stereotyping that all women love babies. I have a few friends that also feel the same way I do. It's not just us being different.

[Christine Snider]

I'm sort of back and forth. Sometime they are adorable and I love them.... then there are those moments when I don't even want to think about them..... (pictures 2yr old throwing a tantrum *shivers*). I personally sperm banked because I figure.... If I ever do decide I want a baby it be best to still have the option for biological children.