I've already come out to my mom about being trans. She however has no idea that I'm bisexual. At the time I was still figuring out my sexuality so I didn't want to come out to her about that. I've always been open about liking guys, commented on which ones were good looking and such and even from when I was a kid, called girls icky. But obviously now I find them not icky. So I've been wondering how do you come out a second time? She knows I'm still hiding secrets but doesn't know what. I'm just so tired of everyone in my family saying "Why do you care, you're not gay?" when I stand up for gay rights. I say I have a right to stand up for what I believe in but it feels like I'm lying, because it's more than just something I believe in. Now I do consider it especially stupid on their part because the fact that I am a guy, means that a relationship with a guy would be a gay relationship, but they don't see me as a guy, so they mean to say I don't like girls. I'm just really picky about the girls I like that's all, but I've had plenty of crushes on girls growing up, my first being when I was 11, and though I felt confused at the time, I don't see any other reason to stare at a girls lips and feel like your about to start drooling.
My mom is fairly accepting, just not supportive. She works with a woman who happens to be a lesbian and has commented a few times on how she's okay with it. She however has showed quite a few times that she is not. My sister was fed up with her boyfriend and came home saying "Maybe I'll just give up guys and become a lesbian." My mom replied with "Don't be stupid." It just shows that she doesn't actually believe that gay relationships are as good as straight ones. This coming from a woman who stayed in an heterosexual physically/emotionally and mentally abusive relationship. I don't know if I'll ever end up dating a girl, as romantically I lean more towards guys. However I have this thing where I only really want to date trans guys, and I know with the way my mom thinks, she'll see it as nothing more than a lesbian relationship.
So any tips on coming out, or if I should even bother right now? I have no interest in dating at the time, but it kind of bothers me keeping this all to myself. My trend bisexual sister (who isn't really bisexual, note the use of the word 'trend') who I am not talking to currently, I couldn't even come out to her. She's incredibly homophobic though, she pretends to accept gays like to be invited into this inner circle like some secret club, but fact is she expresses how sick she thinks it is, which is exactly what homophobia is.
