Strange Sounding

[Robert Scott]

So, I have loved when I am identified as male by complete strangers and recently I have been introducing myself in new setting as male.  I have no problem with strangers or new folks calling me by my male name and using male pronouns....

however, now that i am out to the kids and the therapist is working with the wife to make the transition --- I have family and friends calling me by the male name and using male pronouns --- its seems strange .... surreal ... like somethig is off...I know it's what I want but still it feels strange

Has anyone else had this feeling/experience

[MarinaM]

There's an adjustment period. I'm not even out of mine yet, it's like a hypersensitivity that I expect to fade soon. It also depends on the way they say it.

I don't even really register when someone says my male name anymore.

[Devlyn]

Hi Rob, it sounds like you've had a bumpy few days! Just take a few deep breaths, everything is fine. In fact, better than fine, things are going exactly as you want them to. Hugs, Tracey

[Northern Jane]

I picked my female name when I was 5 and lived part time from my mid-teens until transition/SRS at 24 so I was used to answering to my female name. It took a few months before the old male name stopped registering.

[Serra]

I know what you mean.  It's weird being called by my chosen name at work after over two years of being called by my given name. I'll get used to it tho.

[bojangles]

Yeah, I relate. Think it just takes time to get used to it.
For me, it's a pretty normal response to getting what I want in general.

[Wraith]

It's been a couple of months since family started using my new name, but it still feels weird. It feels fake and stunted. They don't mean to make it sound weird, but I can tell that they have to force it. I think that's part of what makes it feel so strange. Random people who have no clue what my old name was make it sound and feel natural.

[Ashleyjadeism]

I chose my girl name to fit my initials... I go by A.J. and my female name is Ashley Jade, so there is no confusion lol

[tvc15]

This happened to me too, it was really weird, almost to the point where I thought I'd never get used to it. I did though, and it happened faster than I expected.

It's just weird being called something you were only previously called in your imagination...it gives you a surreal feeling for awhile. Then it stops being special and starts being ordinary, which is just fine by me :p

[zakfar]

It feels strange because you are used to of those pronouns and your old name. No need to worry about that. Your mind will eventually learn this 'New You'.

By the way, congrats.

[From_Ariel]

Personally I would have to say that alot of it is our own self acceptance that sometimes holds us back.

We spent so long pretending to be something we wern't that it is a challenge to break out of it. That old thing about telling a lie so long even you begin to believe it is more true then most would think.

It was hard for me sometimes even when I was first time to hear myself saying Ariel as my name or buying Girls stuff at the stores. We are socialized by an intolerant society to belive that transition is wrong so much that even we I think sometimes feel a kind of pressure or concern that we are doing something "odd" or "weird".

The Fact is it does get better you do get past it and although self acceptance of the new you is one of the hardest and most invisible challenges we face it is 100% able to be overcome.