I think it was Dr. Bowers that coined the term "Frankenpussy" for the way our nether regions look following surgery.
It looks nothing like we expect it to, and sometimes we think that the only thing that would look worse is the original equipment.
And then you throw post-op depression, and the drop in our hormone levels on top of it, and quite naturally we can start whining.
But, hold on. This is the end of the roller coaster ride and it can be quite a sudden stop. All of the rush of changing our lives, all the arrangements, all of the people we tell. It all collides at this point. The roller coaster has stopped with a squeal and we are straining at the straps as it pulls into the gate. We are left breathless and panting.
Jenny is right, Bea, give it six month, and even a year and it will look much different and much MUCH better than it does now. It takes time. But just hold on to the knowledge that it WILL get better, because it does.
And, too, EVERY woman is different. Especially there! We pride ourselves on our individuality. We are mortified if we find another woman wearing the exact same outfit as ourselves. I am quite happy with the way I look and while my genitalia looks like every other woman's genitalia, it also is different from every other woman's genitalia. That's one of the nice things about being a girl.
And one more thing, Bea, very soon you will wonder what all the fuss was about. Now that you have corrected your birth defect, the obsession about it will fade and I dare say the after a year or so, you will hardly even look at it. You'll be able to perform your dilation regimen by touch. You'll wash it in the shower or bath the same way. And of course you'll pat yourself dry in the potty. And it will be *normal*, so what's the big deal?
And then you will see a post from someone like yourself, freshly post-operative, and whining about their post operative condition and you will smile and shake your head.
Tell, them, dear, that it will be alright. It falls to you to pay it forward for someone else. Tell them that they will be alright. And when they say they have Frankenpussy, tell them that this too shall pass...
-Sandy
